I meet her four years ago we feel in love. All was great for a while, untill i droped a bomb shell she had trouble dealing with it but we stay together. About two years ago we had a daughter together, but she asked me to leave when she found out she was pregnant, this was, i think, or so she's says, due to the bomb shell I dropped earlier, and that she wanted her own space, plus I think its to do with the fact that previous guy really f**ked her up in many ways so she don't feel she can't trust men again even thought i never lied to her, but i still love her more and more each day, but i aso hate her for the way she treated me. I want too forget the past and bring our child up with her, but she can't forget she say's she don't feel the same way about me now. Have i lost her? (silly question really i know the answer to that) where do i go from here?
2006-12-24 00:05:06 · 12 answers · asked by slartibardfast_uk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No i did'nt cheat on her, only scum cheat on their partners
2006-12-24 00:14:20 · update #1
Sometimes when a woman has been hurt by past relationships it's hard for her to trust and believe in the next man even if his heart is sincere and fulled with love for her.He could be the perfect man for her, but for some reason she compares him to the loser before him. She puts up a wall for her on safety so she will not be hurt again.I'm guessing she meet you a little bit after her and the loser broke up. No matter how you feel about her you have to give her space...but you must be there for your child...that is your right!!! You two are connected by this child for life, so you both have to deal with each other in some way. You have to put your child's and your relationship first !!!! If she comes around in the process then that's great! "Have you lost her?", as a lover /companion perhaps.....but you will always have her in a partnership when it comes to raising your daughter.
2006-12-24 00:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST - THE SO CALLED BOMB SHELL YOU DROP ON HER ... YOU HAVE NOT MENTION WHAT WAS THE BOMB SHELL.
SECOND - WHAT MAKES YOU BELIEVE SHE CAN EVER TRUST YOU AFTER YOUR DROP THE SO CALL BOMB SHELL?
THIRD - AFTER YOU DID THE DROPPING SHE GOT PREGNAT AND YOU ARE STILL WONDERING WHY SHE ASK YOU TO LEAVE?
FORTH - IT DOES NOT MATTER IF ANOTHER PERSON MESS UP HER LIFE, YOU CONTRIBUTION TO IT, MADE HER DECIDED TO WANT TO LEAVE YOU.
FIFTH - YOU LOVE HER MORE AND MORE EACH DAY YET YOU HATE HER FOR THE WAY SHE IS TREATING YOU? WAIT LETS GO BACK TO THE BOMB SHELL YOU DROP ON HER LAP. ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? WHAT DO YOU EXPECT HER TO DO AFTER YOU DID YOUR DROPPING? FOR HER TO FORGET IT ALL AND CONTINUE WITH YOU AND THE BABY AS IF NOTHING HAD HAPPEND???
SIX - WHERE DO YOU GO FROM HERE??? YOU MAY WANT TO THINK REALLY HARD WHAT YOU HAVE DONE, YOU CAN SAY HERE YOU DIDNT CHEAT ON HER, IN WHICH I THINK IS GOOD YOU DIDNT BUT IT TAKES A LOT FOR ANY WOMAN OR MEN FOR THAT MATTER TO EVEN TRUST ANYONE. TRUST IS A HUGE GAP TO MAKE IT HAPPEND IN ANY RELATIONSHIP. FRIENDS AND LOVERS HAVE A HARD TIME TRYING TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP WITH TRUST, EMOTIONS, COMPANIONSHIP, PARENTHOOD ECT..;..
AND IS HARD BELIEVE ME IT IS, BUT WHEN SOMEONE LIKE YOU DROPS A BOMB SHELL YOU CAN NOT EXPECT ANY WOMAN TO BE HAPPY FOR WHATEVER YOU HAVE TOLD HER. IT DOESNT REALLY MATTER IF YOU HAVE A CHILD OR 10 CHILDREN, NO MATTER WHAT THE TRUST SHE ONCE HAD WITH YOU IS NO LONGER THERE.
YOU SHOULD GO ON AND GIVE YOUR DAUGHTER ALL THE SUPPORT A PARENT SHOULD GIVE A CHILD AND MOVE ON.
2006-12-24 08:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A women's feelings can be hurt very easily, us men sometimes don't mean to but we do. If you know that you lost her then raise your child to the best of your ability. Maybe your girlfriend/wife/fiance will come back and see that your a trustworthy guy. Since the guy before her f**ked up in manys she may not trust you but she may love you and since you have a child together then she should come back.
2006-12-24 08:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by CompWiz56 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, do you think she' s telling the truth when she says she don't feel the same way about you.The bomb shell thingy, was it an excuse for her to make you leave her?
You shouldn't hate the way she treats you. Maybe she has her reasons. Give her time to sort out everything and be there for her and the child.
Merry Christmas
2006-12-24 08:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Yoo Hoo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain of loving someone whom is incapable of having a healthy relationship is as old as time, I have been there, too. The important question is, what about your child? The child is worth having a relationship, whether the mother is with you or not.
2006-12-24 08:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel
make up for the bomb shell
hope it wasnt too bad
tell her you love her like craaazy!
cause yuou do
see what happens :)
good luck
2006-12-24 08:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by h-lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you cheat, its not hard to see she has trust issues and you just shot yourself in the foot better get use to visitations with your child
2006-12-24 08:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id give advice but i found myself in a similiar situation mate and its different for everyone...i dont understand women and never will
2006-12-24 08:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by joey p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U don need to get depressed u can tell her da truth on a card & tell her dat I don care whose child it is..!!
2006-12-24 08:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Daksh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try explaining her about your daughter wanting you.she may change.
2006-12-24 08:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋