A friend I hooked up with once emailed me this message. I'm having a hard time figuring out what his true feelings are towards me. He emailed me this message after I told him that I'm only his friend nothing more. What is he saying in really saying? Does he still like me?
There won't be any awkwardness from my end when you come visit. I just thought that a couple of the messages seemed like we were more than friends, b/c afriend wouldn't tell me not to hook up w/any girls, ya know? I'm looking forward to seeing u and meeting your friends when u come out. My buddies from the East Coast will be there too, and its one of my friends 21st b-day, so its sure to be a great time. No hard feelings on my end, just had a bad day when u sent that message, so i went off. i'm sorry if I hurt your feelings.
See ya soon!
2006-12-23 23:18:20 · 12 answers · asked by Surf me 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
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2006-12-23 23:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by St♥rmy Skye 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not an expert on these things, but I think his email is pretty open for interpretation. Meaning he implied that he's hurt because you think you're just friends. Yet he didn't say anything about affirming your stand or clearly defining your relationship.
I think he's remaining hopeful. He hasn't said 'don't bother, i'm fine, i'll just get another date to go along'; so the invitation is still standing. This email sound like he's interested in you, (cuz otherwise no guy who doesnt want a relationship with you would assume you two have one. this guy thought you two were more than friends, so apparently he's interested), and that he's trying to say "I'm interested, but not head over heels. clarify one last time, whether or not you want to take this step and become a lil more than 'just friends' with me."
I think that invitation to his friend's 21st b'dae party is actually something like the ultimatum. If you go as his date or whatever, you know, with him, he'll take it you agree to try to be more than 'just friends' ; and if you decline the invitation to go as his date, or, you can simply send him a POLITE reply saying sorry, nothing wrong with you, but im just not interested, then you're officially Just Friends. If he's a nice guy, he'd keep his word-- no hard feelings, still friends-- but if he isn't,well, good luck.
Your answer to this invitation is vital, so good luck choosing your way and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-24 07:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you care quite for that guy, no matter if he fancies you or not.
We need more information on the nature of your relationship, and more detailed info on what happened during the "bad day when he sent u that message". If you are quintissential "email-buddies" then, it would be extremely hard to determine his level of affection, if any. This is not a light matter and I would refrain from giving you a further answer.
2006-12-24 07:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by automaticStabilizer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not interested. It looks like he thought that you may have been interested and it kinda scared him (he thinks that you are "just friends").
This is the sentence that shows his feelings: "I just thought that a couple of the messages seemed like we were more than friends, b/c afriend wouldn't tell me not to hook up w/any girls, ya know?"
But he doesn't want to damage his relationship with you either, he wants to stay friends, no more, no less.
2006-12-24 07:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by Matt 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He seems to be interested in you, but also a bit confused because of what he percieved as 'mixed signals'. Some day u send him notes that seem like u two r more than just friends, and then someday u tell him u two r just friends. thankfully, he's open to both scenario.
it's not a question if he is interested in u as much as if u r interested in him. sort out ur own feelings and approach him clearly. i m sure he will hv no issues whatsoever.
from ur tone of question, it looks like u will like to hear that he is still interested, but then why this "just friends" talk?
2006-12-24 07:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by ravish2006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused, you gave him the "just friends" speech...and now you're wondering if he still likes you?
OK, it's official, you ARE a woman.
His note is friendly. It seems to me he's afraid he offended you with his response to whatever you said. (Hence the apology at the end.) Personally, I think the door is still open here if you're looking to go back and tell him you made a mistake...otherwise, he seems pretty well adjusted here, and I think you can stay friends.
2006-12-24 07:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by David G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you were to ask me, i would think he's getting the mixed signals... coz his message says that "b/c a friend wouldnt tell me not to hook up w/any girls" so if i'm the guy, i would think you're interested in me.
why don't ya just ask him personally what he's really saying?
2006-12-24 07:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by pee_bag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he still likes you and is accepting that you are just friends. and nothing more. He is apologising for reading too much into something you wrote to him. Go and enjoy yourself.
2006-12-24 07:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be hooking up. Maintain what virtue remains.
2006-12-24 07:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by taxigringo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's sending mixed signals. I'm baffled.
2006-12-24 07:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cOMING FROM A MALE'S PERSPECTIVE, IT SEEMED LIKE HE HAD BEEN LED TO BELIEVE THAT YA'LL WAS "MORE THAN FRIENDS". bUT HE ALSO SEEMS TO BE COOL WITHT THE FACT THAT YOU ARE NOTHING MORE!
2006-12-24 07:23:23 · answer #11 · answered by Crayola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋