she's 3 yrs older than me(i'm 15) and has been selected in a very good college.i had a very serious fight(not physical) with her about 7-8 months ago and haven't seen her for 5 months.she hurt me so badly(verbally) tht i don't feel tht she's my family anymore.she's coming home for a few days now.shud i speak to her?.it was her fault tht time. she's a real arrogant girl and is really short tempered.and then think tht if i speak to her now, she wud think tht i'm doing it coz she's been selected. wht do i do?
2006-12-23 22:21:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
mebbe u should say hi, and see what she's like with u now.
u don't hav to get real friendly with her or anything; just keep your distance, for the time being atleast.
and then, TALK to her. tell her how u feel, and discuss things with her - carefully. be open and honest with her.
getting help from parents or other elder family members who know u two well would also b good
but hey, just keep this in mind : u can't forget family like that. friends, perhaps , but not family, coz they're gonna b stickin around 4 some time u know....
anyways, good luck and hav fun!! and hey - keep your cool ;)
2006-12-23 22:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by mArYaM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it too bad we can pick our friends but not our relatives? You can be the one who continues the fight and maybe ruins the Holiday for the rest of the family. Or you can be polite to her and show that you are mature enough not to continue something that may or may not be that important. It doesn't matter who's fault it was, whats important is family. One day your look back and wonder what all the fuss was about. The day will come when one of you will be looking down into a hole in the ground and say to yourself, 'Why didn't I say I'm sorry?' You never know when you hug someone that it is the last until it really is the last, then it's too late.
2006-12-23 22:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imagine about it this kind, what have you ever offered to free, possibly some tooth a black eye besides the indisputable fact that on the bright area that is christmas its a festive season and also you need to initiate a clean courting between one yet another dont enable previous products hang-out you. lets say it does not finally end up good a minimum of you tried and next time you keep in mind that i wont supply her yet another probability because she used her very last one. you've not some thing to free. climate she does damage you verbaly it does not recommend some thing you're more beneficial than her and thats what you need to continually trust she may be she may not be yet that self-worth receives your with the help of those difficult days. on the right of the day you lived at the same time ate of the same plate lived lower than the same room shared the same cousins shared the same mother and father. desire this facilitates
2016-12-01 03:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by cheathem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the fight has been over for some time now. I would think that you would be speaking to your sister because you missed her. I would tell her congratulations on being selected.
Just because you are being cordial with your sister does not mean that you a malice motive to be speaking to her. How long can you guys hold this grudge?
2006-12-23 22:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by Meko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her. 7-8 months ago is a long time, and you might not get a chance to talk to her again for a while. If you don't speak to her, you might regret it. Learn to forgive and forget. She IS your family, even if you don't think of her as your sister any more.
2006-12-23 22:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! If she's in a good college, studying good things she may become rich and then you'll want to be on her good side (cha-ching). Haha!
Ok just joking, but on the serious side, she's your sis, you should *muah* kiss and make up. (but don't get all incesty, that's not right) I don't think you should bring up the fight, she will feel defensive and react badly. Just let it go and start over.
Forgive and forget.
2006-12-23 22:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound so childish, it's been a long time. When she comes home just say hi and act like you've forgotton all about it. Because honestly she is away in college and im sure she has had better things to think about than your stupid fight.
2006-12-23 22:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by Delete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a mature conversation with her, let her know how you feel about her manners towards you. If she's inmature about it, and hurt you again tell her to eat a dick and save a smile.
2006-12-23 22:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by Samuel B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure and take a chance talk to her about how she is hurting you and how you feel about it.
2006-12-23 22:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SISTERS WILL ALLWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO FIGHT ABOUT.
I KNOW I HAVE 3 SISTERS
DO WE ARGUE??? OH HELL YEAH
BUT AT THE END WHEN I NEED ANY OF THEM I CAN ALLWAYS COUNT ON THEM.
2006-12-24 01:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋