What sall I do to make them happy and forget obout it.
How can I help them.
2006-12-23 22:15:14 · 18 answers · asked by Jules W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-12-23 22:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by kast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant just make them happy. If you are there for them, just keep being a good friend then that is all anyone would ask. some people get embarrassed or upset & avoid the person as they dont know what to say & do but this can be very hurtful. Just be the nice person you are.
2006-12-24 06:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by la.bruja0805 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will never forget and will not be happy in the immediate future.
My son lost his best friend 5 years ago and he still finds it hard to cope. Since then 2 of his school friends have died.
My daughters best friend lost her fiance this year also. That has also impacted on my daughter's life quite badly.
Her mutual friend was found dead whilst on holiday in the summer too.
So as you can see, we have had to cope with many deaths. the tragic thing is they were all in their early 20's.
All you can do is be there, as premature death is very difficult to come to terms with.
Your friend will need the support of all their friends and family to come through this as the loss of a friend is a tragedy!
2006-12-27 19:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do will make them "happy" or forget about it. They need time to grieve. But you can be there for your friend, listen if you friend wants to talk about the person. Do something nice for your friend, like take them out to eat or something to show that you love them and care. And a sympathy card would be appropriate. It's hard to know what to do to comfort people at a time like that. All you can do is be them for them while they work it out for themselves.
2006-12-24 06:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is good for emotional bonding. just be there for the person and you will reap the rewards. i'm goinf through the same things. my mates, sisters mother died at the begininng of december, i've had to put of everything, work, college and all plans, to be there for my, because been talking suicidal. i would put my mates first, over any situation, whether they be with their own friends, falimy or work. it's my my motto, to protect all that i love and to be protect, because i've sined. i was once married to jasmine. i had a great life, but one stupid evening, i cheated on her and she topped herself. i've told a few people about, but i've never said the truth. the motto is a pledge, to her i made when i lad her to the ground. you se, she had cancer of the lungs. we where trying for kids, she was always on medication. one night, she was really tried and toke to many. the next morning, she was really poorly, the doctors didn't want to know. i toke her to the hospital. they toke her in for observation. she was really thin, had blood shocked eyes, lack of vision, stummering in her voice. inability to eat, this was within a few days. i've never figured out why she was taken away from me. perhaps, it's because, god punishes those who have sined. that makes sense to me, because i believe in christianty. i deserved the punishment anyway. i'm even worse, because i'm scared of getting close to girls, i don't want the same thing to happen again. maybe that is just paranonia. what do you think.
2006-12-24 07:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by rjhamuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A loss of a loved one is alywas difficult to get over with. This is a wound which takes its own time to heal. You are very sweet as u are thinking about them. I guess u can just invovle yourself more in their lives, without being too obvious about it. All the best
2006-12-24 06:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would comfort him/her as much as possible. Lend them your shoulder to cry on. When you hang out with them, do what they want. Try to tell some jokes. It may help. GO out and rent The Blue Collar Comedy Tour movies(there are 2 of them). They are really funny. That may help also. Do whatever you can to cheer him/her up.
2006-12-24 06:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by audrey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is important for that person not to forget, but to remember the person who has passed. Ask your friend about what they loved about that person the most, or their favorite memory of the person. I believe that helps in the healing process.
2006-12-24 06:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by JackDaniels024 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to make them happy for a little while. Just be there for them. Listen to them, be a shoulder to cry on. They won't be able to forget, ever... it will get better with time.... x
2006-12-24 06:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by Minniex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant do anything other than just be there for them. If they want to cry tell them it's ok to cry. Just support them.......they need to grieve they won't forget about it!
Best of luck and condolences to your friend
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2006-12-24 06:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by crazeeladee no more 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to make them happy, but you can let them you that you are there for them - anywhere, anytime - for a talk, a cry etc.
2006-12-25 18:50:47 · answer #11 · answered by Jgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋