i have been with a woman now for 5 yrs and have a 9 yr old son, my parents know that we are together obviously since we live together and the past 2 christmas's we haven't seen my parents due to moving out of their house and moving in with her now this yr they invited my son and i over but not her i feel really bad not being here on christmas eve with her but also have to think about my son, we are europe and open presents christmas eve after dinner so i am going to my parents but still feel guilty, how can i make it up to her??? we will be home christmas morning so my son can open our presents with her so what should i do?
2006-12-23 22:15:08 · 12 answers · asked by jane_queen_of_jungle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont judge either cause we are 2 gay woman this is really breaking my heart
2006-12-23 22:16:13 · update #1
Turn up anyway in full bondage gear and put on a show for the neighbours on your parents front lawn, that's what I did last year and now we get so many dinner invites from the neighbours we don't need my parents food(the sprouts where always over-cooked anyway!!).
2006-12-23 22:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to consider the fact that your parents might disapprove about being with a woman in a relationship. You have to talk it out with your partner and let her know that one day you can spend it with her and another with your parents. This will be better for the both of you since obviously there would be tension if you and your partner show up at your parents' home together with your son.
2006-12-23 22:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by chuche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to tell your parents that you guys are a couple and do things together. Christmas is especially a time for you guys to be together so if your parents can't accept her after this long then I think your decision would speak loud and clear to your partner...it would me. Why don't you all have your family christmas together, as it should be....you, your partner and your son. I think maybe your folks need to realise your priorities now. Happy Christmas.
2006-12-23 23:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents obviously do not accept you for what you are, which is sad, so you should decline to attend the christmas dinner, and say politely that you want to spend Christmas day with your loved ones, however, since you are asking me to choose, I must. I respect the fact that you do not like my partner, so I will visit you with your grandson on Boxing day or you can come and visit us, or accept my partner, and we will both visit you!
2006-12-23 22:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by DAVID C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents aren't accepting of your gay relationship.
While i'm in a heterosexual relationship, I think the same rules apply. In the instance where my partner wasn't invited, I would decline the invitation.
Your family should respect what you have chosen for yourself.
2006-12-23 22:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a nasty thing your parents are doing.
Is she not part of your life? YES
Is she not the one you love? YES
Is she not the one you care for? YES
If your girlfriend is the one that brings happiness into your life .. then your parents should have the decency to invite her.
I would NOT leave her on her own, take her with you!
Where you go - she goes!
if your parents cannot deal with that .. then they should learn that its not pick and choose but accept the WHOLE package.
Good luck & have a gorgeous Christmas ..
2006-12-23 22:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by DeeDee 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-05 23:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it upsets you that much, don't go. Stay home and have your own Christmas dinner. You can't please all of the people all of the time and you must do what's best for you and makes you happy.
2006-12-23 23:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be respectful of your parents' feelings first - after all it is their home, and you need to honour their traditional values in this respect.
2006-12-23 23:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go to your parents for awhile open presents tell them u have to leave spend time with them.
2006-12-24 04:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by dimples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋