husband and me hugley disagree?

Question

We have a 6 month old baby and Im 16 weeks pregnant with our second baby. However, we strongly disagree on our ways. I want to take my children on holidays to other countries and he doesnt want to take them out of the country, he wants at least 4 kids, I want max 3 kids. I want to own a house one day, he doesnt. He doesnt like our children seeing my paretns and I dont like them seeing his, the way his mum acts around them. These are huge things and I dont know how we can agree? We have already tried talking

Answer 1

Just do as you're told woman, men are always right!! P.s Haven't you got some ironing to do?

Answer 2

You need some help negotiation your differences, hon. Get into counseling. The ability to negotiate differences without rage and resentment is a skill few of us have, and if your marriage is going to succeed, you both will need to learn it.... You said you have already tried talking, and probably those just ended up in shouting matches.... It is a real skill that you both need to learn to be able to say what you need without being threatening, and find ways to negotiate your differences......Resentment in any form just erodes your marriage, hon, so a few sessions are in order..... a real bargain for your marriage.....{ You should realize that each child will set you back $250,000 for the 22 years it takes to raise it. (Just because you CAN have a ton of children, doesn't mean you ought to.... this planet has plenty of children with no homes.... if you want more, opt for adoption... Save some bright African, or Asian child from a life of poverty like Angelina and Madonna...)} It is the most selfless gift one can give.....

Answer 3

Very iresponsible and selfish the both of you Should have tried talking or better still listening before you made babies wow sounds like you have nothing in common as this is only one issue start with putting kids needs first good or bad the grandparents and your kids have a right to see each other

Answer 4

well, you certainly got pregnant way too quickly. you do know that you are supposed to wait 6 weeks after having a baby to have sex? oh well, you might have 4 kids after all, maybe all under 4 years of age. shouldn't you have decided this before you got married? you need to work it out for your kids sake. what are his reasons for the vacation thing, and why doesn't he want to own a house? with 4 kids, you're going to need it! how does his mom act? all you've told us is that you are having problems. we don't know what the arguments are about.

Answer 5

Stop arguing about it now. When the time comes that you have a chance to buy a house, do it and travel as you are able to. As for those 4 kids he wants, tell him you'll have the first 2 and he can have the rest.

Answer 6

Both of you should enter counseling. These problems will only get worse in the future. Sounds as if you both need to grow up and act like sensible adults.

Answer 7

I think you need to take a vacation from him. I think he needs counseling about things like this. He needs to understand your need than his needs to be separated from your needs. He needs to understand the consequences of having to much responsibilities in life and his forgetting your dreams.

Answer 8

that is marriage life girl, decision making :) talk it, art of verbal communication will make it better, think more of the solution and not the negatives...work it out peacefully, listening to each others side and compromising... that is married life...

Answer 9

dont let divorce be an option at all
love one another and love will make a way

Answer 10

see a counseler