...I mean "Beautiful" in every sense, not just Visually...and this was 20 years ago!!!
I'm not looking for Self-Pity, but genuine, constructive Advice.
Meanwhile, back to the twitching...!!
2006-12-23 22:06:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hi, when this happens theres nothing i will say that will make you feel better as this has recently happened to me and i was in such a state i got arrested so dont go down that route, the only thing that helped me was accepting it and moving on, meet new women and its crap as they dont replace the girl in question but you just have to, they make you feel better and eventually you dont forget about the other girl as you never will but you just have to accept, i feel for you i really do i didnt sleep for two weeks and on more pills then the doctor can throw at me but now ive met two women getting to know myself again and after 9 years with this girl two married, its hard but if i can do it you can, i hope that sort of helps, prob not but if shes gone shes gone and nothing you do will help, sorry....
2006-12-24 08:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 20 years ago- that's a long time. I think perhaps you didn't have the closure of that relationship or you are wishing it really didn't end that way and it has left you with a kind of dangling feeling. If you had some closure it would have been easier for you to deal with the lost. I think she probably left you at a time you loved her a lot. You said she is beautiful in everyway, but she really isn't otherwise she would have respected you and told you how you she wanted to end it rather than just walk out.
Here is two things you can do:
1. Accept the fact that she is somewhere getting on with her life.
2. Bring your own closure. Get a photo of her if you have one, and say whatever you want to say to her as if she was there, then tell her goodbye and that you will now start a new life of happiness for yourself. Then put the photo in a box and get rid of it. That will be your closure.
3.Promise to respect yourself and move on, mix more socially with people and find new friends. It just take one step from you and then you will wonder why you ever wasted your precious time wondering about her.
The right lady will come along one day and you know at the moment in time, that the "beautiful lady" wasn't the true one for you.
2006-12-24 07:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nightstar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn from why she left. Was it something you did, or was it about her? If it was about her, you're not at fault and you need to put it behind you. Maybe she loved someone else, or made a mistake; maybe she was immature or selfish, maybe she just wasn't ready for a relationship.
If you did something, like cheating, lying etc, learn from that.
In any case, you have to move on. 20 yrs is a long time to grieve. Get some help if you are still obsessing about this lost love, and get on with living, as I'm quite sure she has. Get involved with helping others in someway, and get out there and live your life. If there's another someone out there, you're not going to meet her sitting at home dreaming of the past. Don't miss out on present happiness...life is not a dress rehearsal.
2006-12-24 06:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gentle winds 'neath moonlit skies,
Do not you hear my heartfelt cries?
Below the branches, here about,
Do not you sense my fear and doubt?
Side glistening rivers, sparkling streams,
Do not you hear my woeful screams?
Upon the meadows, touched with dew,
Do not you see my hearts a'skew?
Beneath the thousand twinkling stars,
Do not you feel my jagged scars?
Seek not my mournful heart kind breeze,
For you'll not find it 'mongst these trees.
It's scattered 'cross the moonlit skies,
Accompanied by heartfelt sighs.
It's drifting o're the gentle rain,
A symbol of my silent pain.
It's buried 'neath the meadow fair,
Conjoined with all the sorrow there.
It's lost among the stars this night,
Too far to ease my quiet fright.
No gentle winds, seek not my heart,
For simply ... it has torn apart.
2006-12-24 06:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on the good times and not the break up. this will make you happy and maybe aid you in meeting someone equqlly as beautiful!
STOP focusing on what happened 20 years ago and think forward, put good vibes out there and they will come back to you and will be happy again!
Good luck and be happy.
2006-12-24 13:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
time does not matter , if it was 1 month or a 100 years
we arent able to erase things from our head but we should move on and learn from mistakes
look forward and keep the nice moments in ur heart
have a nice xmas
2006-12-24 07:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and once your in shut the door behind you and twitch some more !!!after all that time she might not be so beautiful so i guess you have to soldier on with your memories Good Luck Friend
2006-12-24 12:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she must of walked out for a reason what did you do .. no piont of dwelling over the past ... like i always said " people make mistakes to wake up all cold & lonley " and yous eam to be a perfect example ...
2006-12-24 14:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by lady kia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself you're crazy but she's insane!
2006-12-24 07:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to keep yourself busy or occupied with other things. Its hard i know
2006-12-24 06:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋