Are they being unfair towards me?

Question

I hang around in a group of girls that used to include 2 sisters until I fell out with one of them a couple of months ago. It was a silly argument that got blown out of proportion. We are both rather stubborn, and I refuse to apologise for the simple fact that I did not cause the argument on my own, and I know that the other girl will never admit that she was also out of order, and therefore I will not recieve an apology from her. She would not be willing to meet me halfway, and I am certainly not going to grovel!!

Anyhow, since we fell out, my friendship with the other girls has not been the same. I can understand that they are in an awkward position, but I think it is very unfair the way in which I've been treated by them. I used to spend my weekends with them, and the other girl was rarely to be seen, but now it seems that every second weekend, they arrange to do stuff, and meanwhile I am left sitting at home alone, where my "friends"don't even spare a thought for me!

Answer 1

god i have gone through this kind of problem many times in my life. but dont loose heart and try to talk to the other girl and sort out things.


yes they r being unfair to u. that not good find new friends

Answer 2

my first answer would be are they true friends that can do that to you. We often find that when girls or boys are in a group they stick around the more popular dominant ones and when one of the group breaks away they tend to stay with the more bossy one, I'm not saying this is the case but i would guess it is. The solution is to talk to the girls in question and ask how you can resolve this is a grown up manor, maybe with out either of you apologising just you both agreeing to disagree, that can be the grown up thing to do sometimes. If there is no meeting i would suggest that these are not true friends anyway and you are better off without them, find new ones. Also make sure you talk to the other girls in the group and ask why are they doing that to you. it maybe you dont go out with them as a group anymore but that should not stop you going out with them in smaller groups or on your own. good luck anyway

Answer 3

dont let stubborness come between your friendships when you are wrong if you are, you need to step up and take the responsibility... and if this is a friendship you cherrish then you will be the bigger person and talk to your friend. Dont be so mad at the other girls just yet until you know their reasons for not hanging out with you anymore. Who knows what that girl has said to them about you. You know how drama is....try to clear it up, if it was really a stupid argument then what is the big deal.

Answer 4

I'd get some other friends.

I know it's not that easy,but the same kind of thing happened to me a few years ago, and now I don't see any of them. I'm glad to be honest. I'm much better off without them. When I see what they get up to even though they've got kids it makes me sick.

Be who you are, don't back down, don't let them bully you either.

Making new friends can be surprisingly easy and you're more than likely to meet people that make your friendship with the other girls look meaningless.

People, especially girls can be really nasty sometimes and it seems to me, that you're better off without them.

Answer 5

i individually think of you're being unfair in the direction of her. in case you had made confident plans on lodging, commute preparations etc then definite you're able to have the main remarkable to be disillusioned yet seeing as you hadn't even all started finding out the holiday, no. i individually think of you're offended along with her because of the fact she's have been given the possibility of a unfastened holiday which you had the possibility of changing right into a member of her yet you could no longer because of the fact of your checks. choose her properly, watch for the postcards and ask her to connect you the two later in the 12 months or next 12 months and instruct you each and every and all the super attractions she observed. KD

Answer 6

see,first thing is that good friends never argue.they always try to understand the things going on around.i agree that ur group is unfair to you.but,u must go and apologise to ur friend ur n't going to become old or young,or short or tall by apologising
the thing is that they r ur friends b'coz of 1 friend u can't leave everyone else.it's n't like they don't spare a thought for you,they r feeling for that inside their their heart.after this ur friend's dad may even get transfer before u both became friends again.then u won't be having her for the whole life and u will be regretting for that.JUST GO APOLOGISE TO HER.ALL THE BEST FOR UR NEW FRIENDSHIP.

Answer 7

Saying sorry doenst mean you were wrong. It is to erase the tension caused due to the incident. Wish all your friends Merry Christmas including this girl. They must have forgotten about it by now. Dont keep brooding over it. Be friendly and cheerful with your friends.

Answer 8

Sisters will normally stick together, it's natural. If you want their friendship back, you'll have to be the bigger person. It's up to you, how important are these people to you? If you choose not to go the extra mile with them, then move on. There are many other girls out there who won't treat you like this.

Answer 9

so whats stopping you from being the one who organises stuff, your probably shying away from the group because of this girl.

id just say ya sorry and keep your dignity, you know you can apologise without saying your fully to blame, and with out grovelling

Answer 10

To be magnamous in defeat is to win the cause, apologise to them both at the same time and get your friends back (if you really want to)