This question is for my friend, who had a 8 years of marriage life. now they are separated.
His wife separated without a clue, without talking and discussing anything, nor they had any fights, arguments or strained relationship to say so! It was perfectly all right and they were perfect couple until she broke off ( dumped him ). Both of them are not talking.Earlier my friend tried a lot to talk and find out the issue, but in vain! He pleaded and beg for forgiveness ( without knowing any reason) of break-up.
Now his ego is developing into more centric as he has exhausted all the energies and hope for unison. They are separated and he can't forget her. She is not giving the divorce, he want divorce. He want to start a new life but still remotely hope that miracle would happen.
You community, please he wants help and needs your best advise. What he must do? They are already separated.
2006-12-23 21:03:18 · 12 answers · asked by Novatna Dokic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is really tough, I know especially when there doesn't seem to
be an answer. I think in these situations, professional counseling seems to be the best route. If not then you keep going circles asking yourself the same questiions over and over and reliving every element of the relationship. It seems like any reason would be better than what goes on in your head.
2006-12-23 21:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there must be a reason why, either she hasn't forgiven him for something and held onto it for a long time, or she is with someone else, and if she is all the pleading and begging will not work and he has to accept it, put aside his ego, and i know that's hard, and allow her to do whatever she wants, as we can't stop others from living how they choose, we can only control ourselves. if he is the one who wants the divorce, he can't expect her to stop it. miracles do happen but not often, people have to put forth alot of effort o restore whats been broken, and sometimes our own ego's get in the way. maybe he needs to postpone the divorce for a while longer, and just distance himself from her for awhile to see if she might rethink the situation.
2006-12-24 11:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is unwilling to communicate with him about why this happened, then there is not much left he can do. The key to a relationship is communication & without it, they will never be able to mend their relationship. If their relationship was so perfect, then maybe she is living a life that he dosen't know about about behind his back. There has to be a reason why she dosen't want to be with him. Especially if they had a good relationship. Those are rare to find. He should do what he has to do to start trying to forget about her & start a new relationship with someone who will appreciate him.Take care
2006-12-24 05:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my question is, why was he begging for forgiveness if he didn't do anything wrong? Maybe, she saw something or heard something and he is not letting on about it fully. If she saw something, that will be enough for her not to want to ever go back, she is nipping it in the bud before it gets worst.
If your friend was truely faithful in everyway, why would she dump him and not talk with him?. Something is missing. The only way to find out is for them to seriously get together and talk about it. Something obviously broke the communication they had.
2006-12-24 06:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by Nightstar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to talk with a lawyer and start divorce proceedings. She can't force him to stay married to her. He can't force her to make a decision but he certainly can make a decision for himself to get his life headed in a new direction. He doesn't need her consent to divorce her. If he will get an attorney, she will also have to get an attorney and the two attorneys will do the communicating for your friend and his estranged wife.
2006-12-24 05:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should seek professional marriage counseling. They both need to attend.If a divorce is the only solution, the counselor will advise him of this.
I have an unpleasant feeling that this wife loves her husband, but she loves somebody else perhaps a little bit more.
2006-12-24 05:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by Bruce 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He can divorce her even without her consent. It is even easier as she has deserted him and refusing to live with him in spite of his persuasion. Some thing must have been missing in the marriage which your friend chose not to disclose.
2006-12-24 05:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fall hard and pain and cry till the ground floods, then stand up again and thank god for letting him see the odds of this world.
tough experiences make us cry but as soon as time help us get over it, we'll grow and learn and be a more insightful person. -opportunities that not everyone has.
2006-12-24 05:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to live again. Marriage is like a purgatory on the soul.
2006-12-24 05:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by Hotwad 980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to move on. She sounds like she just fell out of love with him. It happens.
2006-12-24 05:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by Pache 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋