My husband and I have had our little quirks in the past, concerning
wants and needs between us.
But this one takes the cake.
For months I have been asking him for a storage building because
all three of our closets are packed with stuff.
Stuff under the beds too, all of which can be stored in a storage building out in our 'big' yard.
He kept telling me 'LATER', telling me he had to measure and decide where to put one!
All these months i am still waiting, but he goes out two days ago
and buys himself a brand new mercury grande marquie.
I never even knew he was shopping for a car.
I was furious!! He paid cash for the car (we have money) but
cannot pay $1000 for a storage building.
I assure you we need one for all this stuff.
I haven't had too much to say to him for two days, mostly because I'm still in shock.
So, am I unreasonable to be upset over this.
He's pulled similar stunts like this, but never buying a new car without me knowing. What's the deal here guys?
2006-12-23 19:54:48 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So go and BUY a building----------------apparently he didnt ask ask you what your thoughts were on buying a car----why ask about the building JUST go do it. Some places that seel the buildings will deliver them to you and set them where you want them. So decide where you want to set it, and the size of it, and go buy one. If the greedy husband says anything to you tell him you bought yourself a Christmas present--------he will get over it.
2006-12-24 06:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be your husband thinks you should clean out and get rid of the junk and quit holding onto the stuff you want to store. Maybe he forgot about the shed.
One other possibility is that it is winter. And he'd prefer to wait until spring or summer to acquire the shed. Sheds are nice to have. I bought one 12' x 14' shed cleaned out the junk from inside the house, within 6 months my wife had acquired more stuff and filled up all the closets with more junk. It was nice for about 3 months now the shed is totally full, can't even walk into it, and the closets, under the bed and all the former places are totally full too.
I'd sit down and have a chat with him and ask him again about getting the shed.
2006-12-23 20:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was very rude doing this. I don't think he should do something like this. You ARE married, and he should tell you the plans he has and so on.
And i I might say is acceptable to buy a new t-shirt without him telling you, a car is much more expensive.
I think you should pay that 1000 on your own to do the storage building, just as well...
2006-12-23 19:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by Iedu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my idea of a committed relationship is that it is a partnership.. How unusual is the car thing.. If it's way out of character, I would certainly want to know why he thought that was o.k. and of course, the same rules would apply to me...
The storage thing... Why can't you hire someone to do it since he obviously isn't going to anytime soon... In fact, I would say it like this... "Look, we need to do something.. So, here's the deal, If you haven't done it by this date (say 2-3 months), then I'm going to take care of it myself".. period. Who says it has to be all his decision anyway... you can make a decision right??
- good luck
2006-12-23 20:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just buy a Dam storage shed behind his back. Then tell Him thats for wanting to buy a car and not a storage shed. And you might want to throw a few cuss words or somthing in there too so he takes you serious:)
Good luck;)
2006-12-23 20:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jah-Mall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a slight possibility....perhaps he's going through some kind of mid-life crisis where he feels as though he needs to have something new, or treat himself in a way.
And secondly, I'm sorry miss, but you need to realize something. You're on a rock hurtling through space, you're lucky to be alive, feel good about what you have and not "oh where, can I put all this stuff that I just can't live without". You need to find something better to do with your time. For example, meet all of us at the burning man festival next august and live life!
peace and love,
rob
2006-12-23 20:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being unreasonable. Buying a car is a major purchase...and sort-of a responsibility in a sense. If he got the car...definately demand the storage....and if he doesn't get you one...then go get it yourself. I know what you mean...i too am married. Husbands have a tendancy of doing weird things like this. Good Luck
2006-12-23 19:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have an uncommunicative relationship but you do have money. Here's what you do:
Buy the storage building yourself and pay someone to put it up where YOU want it. He can hardly complain; after all, you have been asking him for months and he just bought himself a new car.
2006-12-23 20:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a matter to end the marriage, but yeah, this merits emotion. I would spew. People take others for granted, especially those who they've spent years with. That's the trick. Trying to make a relationship seem like the first day, every day.
2006-12-23 20:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be irritated too. Who makes a major purchase decision like that without consulting a spouse?
I suppose that some will say that you should give some stuff away, or that you have too much stuff. But, the real issue is why he would make a large purchase without even talking about it first. I'd be p****d.
2006-12-23 19:58:38 · answer #10 · answered by paulooly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋