I am extremely interested in human sexuality, especially that concerning deviance from the social sexual norms. I want to ask people online and in-person about fetishes, paraphilias, etc. but I realize these are embaressing and awkward subjects to talk about with a complete stranger.
I would like to know if the phrasing of the question is important. Is casual better than proffessional?
Would a stranger asking you questions from the get-go be too forthright?
How would you like to be approached?
2006-12-23 19:00:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
EDIT: I am looking for serious answers to my question.
And I am going to school for this, thanks.
2006-12-23 19:07:52 · update #1
I think the way you went about it right here is a really good start - sincere, honest and humble. Although, to avoid comments like the first response, I'd start by giving your credentials and educational intentions. Your original question was a bit creepy around the edges, so I can understand Judy's hostile response.
I think that online, you'd have a better chance with people being honest about the sexual activities they may enjoy or fantasize about, but find too embarrassing to discuss face to face.
There are plenty of Adult Google and Y!Groups and fetish sites with member boards/forums that you may want to approach for possible subjects. People are pretty open to discussing such topics when they feel they are safe with others that share their special proclivities. People love to discuss their own thoughts about where their fetish orginated - childhood memories or experiences. If you're looking to speak to individuals, start looking at fetish blogs - these people are already open enough to put their sexuality into a public diary - you can't get much more willing than that. Hey start a blog of your own, you'll attract people to discuss their activities with no problem
You could start with a questionaire - maybe an online multiple choice survey - with an area at the end for people to give more detailed info in essay form. Just remember that some people answering your questions may be virgins, may not be active in their fetish, it may only be a fantasy - something they explore online, or while masturbating - you'll also be addressing people of different sexual orientation - so be thoughtful of these issues when you design your questions. Below are some online questionaires that might inspire you. None of them were perfect and some are better than others, but if you read through them all and try to answer them from different peoples' perspectives, you may be able to come up with a half way decent survey - 'how would I answer these questions if I was . . . gay, transgendered or a virgin or a fantasist only. While looking through some of these online surveys and trying to answer them from my perspective I found many answers to the questions to be too general and my answer wasn't one of the one's offered. In my opinion if you don't offer enough choices, people will abandon the survey before they complete it feeling as though they're not the target subject.
I've included a link to the wiki for Paraphilia - there's a great list at the bottom - some I'm surprised by and at the same time I'm in shock the list is so short - I would think the list to be endless.
Good luck.
2006-12-23 20:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by emmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get someone to tell you the truth to almost anything you need to let them know your intentions for that information and do not criticize them on it. Thats the main reason people don't give out that information because they are afraid of what you might of it. Let them know that you wont criticize them and to show that it might even take some spillinbg of your own secrets. If they are too embarresed to answer "How would you like to be approached" first answer it yourself to them.
2006-12-23 19:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by Ugly Duckling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you could start by telling about one hot different sexual secret that you had experienced or wish to.. In the process, making them attentive by letting them ask questions, so u would know they are into it.. And when you know they are, you could approach them with the kind of questions u have!!
2006-12-23 19:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by jobless 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to an adult toy store and ask the sales clerk. I'm sure they have had to answer lots of "interesting" questions.
2006-12-23 19:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem telling people that I like to be gagged, tied up and strangled during sex. On a good day I like to be beat as well.
2006-12-23 19:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by waxingtheturtle2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you started asking me about my sex life, I'd call the cops. You want to know about this stuff, get your doctorate in psychology or psychiatry first. Until then, you are just a pervert who needs to be locked up
2006-12-23 19:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Casual would be good, phrasing would be important. Couple that with a hot babe and I'd spill my guts.
2006-12-23 19:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends... if they're 8, play truth or dare, if they're a teenager, wait until they're drunk... if they're an adult... work for the CIA
Haha whoops, I definitely didn't read the rest of your question... sorry
2006-12-23 19:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by Romi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
email me
2006-12-24 06:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by DoubleD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋