How do I break the news to my 7yr old daughter that Santa is not real?

Question

She has an older cousin 11yrs old who spilled the beans, now my daughter is confussed and upset that her cousin would even suggest that Santa is NOT real!

When she confronted me, I diverted the question by asking a question. I asked "Do you think Santa is real?" She said "Of Course, DAD!" I left it at that.

My problem is, because we are much poorer this year (we live in Michigan!) there will be half the presents she is used to getting. I know she will feel as if she was bad this year, and that Santa is punishing her. So I ask, how do I break the news to her?

Answer 1

just tell her the truth. none of its real.

no santa, no devil, no god. just move on. theyre all childish beliefs for children.

she'll be ok.

Answer 2

I live in Michigan too....economy is horrible. I understand completely.

Anyway, I don't think you need to break it to your daughter at all. First call up the parent of the loud-mouthed 11 year old and ask the parent to talk with their child about being sensitive and about pretending about Santa to make your 7 year old have a better Christmas.

If your child doesn't mention it again, let it go. If she askes again, tell her that Santa is a big part of Christmas and his spirit is what makes it so magical and tell her that YOU believe! Say to her that lots of kids don't believe but Santa still visits them. Let her stay little a year or two longer.

As for having fewer presents under the tree, you could, for a girl her age, go to the dollar store and buy her craft kids, dress up items, books, paints, stuffed animals, markers, games...all kinds of cool items for a dollar or so each. They really have some nice toys at some of the dollar stores around Michigan and great stocking stuffers.

That would give her a few more things to open so maybe she wouldn't notice the difference so much.

But more importantly, plan other activities except just presents. I'm sure you have other plans that day. Start the morning with a big special breakfast...before or after presents. Take the focus off of the gifts. Spend time as a family more than ever.

Or make gifts for other people.....focus on giving. Sit down with her and make cards for her loved ones: grandma, aunts, uncles...

Do something different that day. Check out a matinee if you aren't super busy. Or rent some old movies that she might not know about like ET or movies from the 80's or 9o's...kid movies.

Pop some popcorn, get in your sweats or PJs early and hang out as a family.

I am pretty sure a kid her age will not really notice the loss of gifts and that she'll appreciate what she gets.

Answer 3

Ok Tred, I have the answer for you. I told my own 7 yr old that there was a secret to Santa. She also has older cousins who put doubt in her mind about it. So what I told her was that grown ups know the secret to Santa and that when she got older or just later on she will figure it out. That being that Mom and Dad are "Santa" so to speak. I finally told my older son and he wasn't hurt to find out that a big fat jolly man doesn't come and bring presents. When he becomes a parent one day if that be, he will be "Santa" for his kids. I did explain the history behind the story and that help him understand. So if you do want to tell her now I would explain like that and because mom and dad or whoever in charge is the "Santa" they have to come up with the money for the presents they should understand. My son use to ask me when he did believe "Why do kids have to be asleep when Santa comes, What would happen if we stay up and try to catch a look at him?" We would tell him Santa would throw pepper in your eyes :) ....We laugh about it now. I hope this helps. God Bless you and I hope you have a Merry Christmas!

Answer 4

You don't. You could tell her that Santa is going to come again sometime next week. Then on Dec. 26 (through 30) go to a Good Will or similar store that sells things at a greatly reduced rate, and buy her something that looks nice, clean it up a little if it needs it, and wrap it. Tell her Santa came back and left the gift/s for her. PS By posting this question here, you evidently have a computer and the Internet. It seems like you have some money for some things. Please don't leave your kids out.

Answer 5

you do not have to tell your child that Santa is not real, they will find out eventually when they get older. If you have to tell your child, you say "Santa is part of the holiday spirit of Christmas, of course he's real!" (that way you don't feel guilty of lying)

A technique I like is to have your child write out a list of things that she would want for Christmas, telling Santa that her family is poor and is not asking much. Have her seal the letter with an envelope. Pretend you are going to mail it at the post office but instead read it in private. Pick out the gift that you could afford and buy it before or after Christmas. If it's too late to buy it now, buy it after Christmas when it's on sale. Or buy it on eBay.com
then wrap the present. If her gift is going to be late, tell your daughter that Santa Claus will bring the present tomorrow (or in couple of days) because he made a wrong turn, so he is making a U-turn.

If you manage to get her gift before Christmas, track Santa Claus's destination and show it to your daughter here-----> http://www.emailsanta.com/XmasEve_Tracker.asp

I hope this helps. Merry Christmas!

Answer 6

What???Santa not real?? Of course he is. It is the spirit of love, and giving without expecting anything in return that is Santa. Not some fat man wearing a red suit. Rather than worry so about how many presents you can afford...find some meaningful way to show the real spirit of the holiday.

Answer 7

Just be very truthful to her and she will be a lucky child to have honest parents 'cause CHRISTMAS IS LIKE SANTA CLAUS

You know the Fatman is a fake and a fat, white lie, but you go along with it anyway, as you deceive the kids and make them future liars to their own kids.

The Dictionary of the Bible says that: By the 5th. Century, the Church (of Rome) had concerned itself enough to have set December 25 as the date of Jesus’ birth. This had been the date of the Festival of the Sun God Zeus and to the Christians a greater light was come, Jesus Christ, the true light of the World.

Fact is - the Sun God is Zeus, and Jesus is really Jezeus, and the Romans worshipped Zeus, and you can see Barnabas being called Zeus by the Priests of Zeus in the Acts of the Apostles 14:12-13, in the Bible. Mithra was another son of Zeus, but Je-Zeus was Zeus come down as his own son, which made him strictly a Roman God.

Sunday is also the day that was set aside for worship of the Sun God (Zeus) by the Romans.

The Winter Solstice gives us the shortest day in the year, December 22, as the birth of the new Sun, so Rome shifted it to the 25 December in order to celebrate the Feast of the Circumcision eight days later, on 1 January, in accepting Jezeus Christos as the Living God of the Sun risen from the dead.

Zeus and the Fathers of Christianity did not know there was a Southern Hemisphere that did not share the Sun God Zeus or his four seasons, or his twelve disciples or twelve months of the year with the Northern Hemisphere, and it is for this reason that Australia celebrates Christmas twice each year, with the White Christmas falling in June but is called Christmas in July since they know it is a lie.

So Christmas and Christianity were as ignorant of the nature of the Planet as was Santa Claus of the South Pole, and just as the Pope was afraid that Christopher Columbus might fall off the flat Planet in his attempt to reach India traveling westwards, so were Santa Claus and Zeus afraid to go below the Planet and into the Fires of Hell.

When Pope John Paul ii declared the Shroud of Turin a medieval fake after having it scientifically carbon-dated in 1988, he failed to point out that the Bible describes the use of two shrouds, with one for the head and another for the “body” of the 100 lbs of aloes and myrrh, the other perfect hoax.

TRY SOME HONESTY THIS YEAR.
EXPOSE THE FRAUD OF SANTA THE UNHOLY.

BRING THE TRUTH OF THE MESSIAH FROM THE QURAN TO LIGHT SO THAT MEN WHO ARE BORN BLIND MIGHT SEE THAT THE ONE TRUE GOD CAN HAVE NO SON OR NO PARTNER
.
HE IS ONE, HE ALWAYS WAS, HE IS, AND HE ALWAYS WILL BE!

PEACE ON EARTH AND GOODWILL TO ALL OF HUMANITY!

Answer 8

Christmast and Santa are about joy, love, peace, and sharing with your family and friends. Play some games with her, start traditions with her. It doesn't have to revolve around Santa Claus. She needs to learn its not always about gifts. It's about the magic, love, and Christmas Spirit.

One idea would make all the gifts made out from you and Mom. Then maybe have one lil special gift that is from Santa. That way she still feels the spirit in her heart.

Merry Christmas, and best of wishes to you and your family!

Answer 9

YOU DO NOT TELL HER!!!

You find something to give her and tell her that some years santa has a harder time. THink of something like that. DO not ruin Christmas for her by saying Santa is not real

Answer 10

Just because she may not be lavished with a lot of gifts this year doesnt mean it should spoil her belief. Let Santa live on in her mind and soul. When the time is right it will figure itself out, she will figure it out. I'm sure you can play it off, she trusts in your word, fix her spirit!

Answer 11

Tell her about the REAL St. Nick and about what he did. Tell her that he was so great that people celebrate it to this day. It's always hard for children to find out that Santa doesn't exist, but telling her this way lets her know that he was real.