I have a horrendous time talking to just one person as I stutter and forget everything I want to say, or have HUGE trouble thinking of how to say what I want to say.
However, I am good and normally complimented when having to speak to a group of people.
Why is this?
2006-12-23 18:24:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I would think it's because with person it feels more personal. The group speeches are your ease zone. You don't worry. you feel comfortable with a group because then your faults (as you think them) aren't that noticeable. Whereas speaking to one person alone, makes you feel vulnerable and makes you feel more pressurized makes you more aware of your stutter as well as thoughts.
Try to relax and stick it in your mind that with a one-on-one conversation, theres hardly anything you can say or do to make things worse. You are you, and you're smart, you won't say the wrong thing. Speak slow and calculated. And remember what's the worst that could happen? Even if you say something, under pressure, that you feel you shouldnt. Just remember what's the worse taht could happen. And soon relaxing your mind that way, you'll relax, be comfortable and feel at ease. Which will in turn make you more aware and in control of your speech. Good luck. Have faith and patience, you'll be fine. I hope I didn't confuse you.
2006-12-23 18:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a speech problem but it's normal as well. I also stutter but it has to do with my self-confidence, depending on whom I'm talking to. I also often forgot what to say but because I'm often nervous so I think a lot. Maybe you have the same situation? Or if not, don't worry because as you've said, you're normally complimented and your problem's just psychological like mine. Just relax when you're talking to someone no matter who she or he is. And don't think too much because it can jumble up things in your head. Take it step by step; and you don't have to impress the person. Hope I helped in a way! Good luck!
2006-12-23 18:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by sheer♥black 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you sound so like me. I often lose my train of thought, due to the lack of being able to find the exact word to explain myself. I have these long pauses in my speach pattern where I am mentally searching for the right words in my vocabulary. the words will be right on the tip of my tounge, but for some reason I sometimes have trouble getting the correct word out. It's not like I'm trying to be overly wordy, and use lengthy words to make myself seem more intelectual. It's pretty much just basic thoughts, and words I stumble, and studder over which makes me uncomfortable, and that leads to more of the same.
2006-12-23 18:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by baloneycurtains 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because a group of people won't respond generally. They are there to listen, not comment. This would be a direct result of the emotional abuse you suffered as a child I would guess. One on one conversations with someone always got cut off and you got humiliated. You should recognize that not everyone out there is your evil family member. Some people respond because they have a different point of view that is valid. They aren't trying to silence your views or opinions.
2006-12-23 18:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by your_name_here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe Your Just Nervous Around This Person Just Relax Is All I Can Say
2006-12-23 18:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by ciara l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal, it can go either way, when there is just one person you have to focus completely on them, with a group there is more going on and you dont think wuite as much..
on the other hand, many people get more nervous around a group, it just depends on the person..
2006-12-23 18:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_g_grl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that when you have a speech, you have rehearsed what you will say, but when speaking to people, you have to be spontaneous. Spontaneity is something you need to work on.
2006-12-23 18:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by Professor Sheed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact opposite problem. Maybe we can get together and combine our strengths. Sorry, I don't know how to answer your question.
2006-12-23 18:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jason C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the opposite. Perhaps its what your talking about or who your speaking too.
2006-12-23 18:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by SummerRain Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are speaking to one person, close one eye(either one) and stick your pointer finger in your left ear. try this. it really works.
2006-12-24 17:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋