Well I am (20 years old) and tonight I was at home listening to some jazz music and drinking when my door bell rang. I answered the door to find it was my neighbors mother in-law (57 years old) Who is there for the holidays. She was asking to borrow some eggs for some kind of holiday desert she was baking. I invited her in and while I retrieved the eggs from the fridge. Well we got talking and she decided to stay for a Christmas drink. Well one thing lead to another and before you know it we had polished off a 6 pack of beer. "Helen" said thank you and reached to give me a kiss..well one thing lead to another and ..you guess it we ended up in the bed and made love...I guess it was her enchanting way about her..that seduced me. I usually am strong willed..but NOT tonight...I am in a lot of trouble...I have a party to go over at my neighbors house on Sunday evening with my wife and I am sweating bullets. How will I explain this if this gets out to my neighbor?
2006-12-23 18:10:35 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why all the hate people..It's Christmas....I was just enjoying a few beers and relaxing..I think it is her fault since she was my senior..She seduced me..
2006-12-23 18:25:38 · update #1
A few of you asked if she was a hot 57 year old..YES..She looks a bit like Jaclyn Smith (The actress)...the worst part is tonight in the heat of the moment we did not use any protection...
2006-12-23 18:34:10 · update #2
It is not the first time this has happened for me either..We have 31 houses on our private street..and at least 2 of the women on our street I have bedded..I cannot control it sometimes.. What can I say I love women..many of them
2006-12-23 18:57:41 · update #3
In a way I wished that it did not happened the more I think about it now..but pondering back on what happened about 3+ hours ago..WOW..I have mixed feelings..
2006-12-23 19:26:01 · update #4
tell her u don't remember that and that u were drunk at the time, and to tell u the truth i think wat u did was hot, and i am 25 so try it with
ps: if u did that with a 57 year old person, and u cheated on ur wife that means that u don't really have the right feelings for her, and u should tell her that, and maybe find a older woman that keeps u wanting more.
2006-12-23 18:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Katleen F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as protection go, a 57 yr old woman should have a tough time getting pregnant but that doesn't mean she didn't have a STI. You can get yourself checked out for FREE by donating blood. When you donate blood, they have to check you for EVERYTHING (infections, high cholesterol, etc) and all the information is confidential.
Its not fair to use the excuse that she seduced you. You're a grown man, accept the responsibility.
Evaluate the situation, are you happy in your marriage?
Talk to "Helen" about it and find out how she feels about it, she was tipsy too, maybe she is just as worried about you telling someone as you are about her.
In the end, honesty is best. If worse comes to worse, its better your wife hear it straight from you than from someone else. Plus, if you really feel about it and genuinely want to remain married, your wife may understand you and give you a second chance.
Think about what is worth more to you and do what your gut tells you too.
2006-12-23 18:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jocey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont if he's a snitch. Man I hope she looked good for 57. Maybe the thrill, the age, or just sneaking around made you do it. Now. youll want it all the time. was she sexy? she have some teeth at least? hope she wasn't wearing Depends down there lol. I d keep in to myself, I hate people cause people are jealous and talk too much. Some people need to learn their lesson with their big moughts. good luck home slice
2006-12-23 18:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the hell are you married for at 20? thats the bigger question. sowing your wild oats AND having a wife is going to be tricky as we all found out tonight. a 57 year old sounds good to me, they have been there done that many many more times than these young know it alls telling you it is wrong or gross. doing it with a 20 year old dead fish woman sounds like a waste of time to me. mature women are alright. it's the wife of yours thing that's going to get you in big trouble.
2006-12-23 18:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth always has a habbit of sneaking up on u. Like a shadow. It's going to come out sooner or later and I think it's just better if your honest with everyone because when they find out about it later, it's going to do ore damage than just telling the truth. The truth will do some damage but there's no other way around it. We all have to face our worst fears and we al do things in life that we regret. This might be something you regret... and something you might have to live with... but teling the truth will probably make you feel better than living with what you did and or everything going for the worst because it somehow got out (what you did). So I think you should tell everyone the truth... and fix things like that.
2006-12-23 18:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by X Anonymous 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My answer as a girl... IF this was truly a one time thing (which only you can answer) I would not suggest that you tell your wife. If it is an ongoing thing, that is another thing; if it was more than that... well that is something else. As for the neighbor, ask them if they can be discreet. As a woman, I believe that a man can make a one time mistake and sincerely regret it; if you think that your wife will never know about this ONE TIME INCIDENT there is no need to let her know. ALTHOUGH, if you think she knows, you should confess. There is nothing worse than a man you know who is cheating/has cheated who won't own up to his actions (believe me, I know from multiple experiences!)
****EDIT**** Since I have seen you subsequent posts, I know you are not a one-time offender. You need to come clean to your wife so she can get the alimony in the divorce that she deserves!
2006-12-23 18:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by 123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That woman should be ashamed of herself. 57 years old Shame on her......Guess she had to boost her ego some. You should tell your wife before it gets out and she hears it from someone else. Don't let anything like this happen again. I bet you have a beautiful wife and you messed up. Don't drink with other women anymore. WOW...I just don't know what to say. I blame the woman more than I do you, but you need to keep your pants on and be faithful to your wife.
2006-12-23 18:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by Junkyard DOG 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tsk-tsk. joke. i've done things to get in trouble many times....
i dont think she'll say anything to her kid. i dont know many older women who tell their kids about their sexual relations, (other than my mother.)
go to the party, try not to act all tense and guilty-like. that wont help anything. go up to her during the party with your wife and introduce her. make it look to your wife like youre just mingling and trying to be socialable. at least that way the woman knows that youre married and she probably wont say anything. (that is if you didnt know her prior to tonight, and she didnt know you were married. you probably should have told her you were married. but oh well the damage is done.)
given that she comes from out of town and was doubtfully looking for a meaningful relationship. so she most likely wouldnt want to ruin your marriage.
good luck. merry christmas and happy new year.
2006-12-23 18:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by beb27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol is the drug for turning ugly women into super models.
Say nothing...do nothing...and stay low. Be a fly on the wall.
Hopefully you can hang out in front of the TV watching "A Wonderful Life".
2006-12-23 18:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by Neo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ooh that's bad but tell the truth because if you lie eventually they are going to find out and that will kause more trouble!! did you drink 5 of those beers because what kould u see in a 57 year old YUCK!!
2006-12-23 18:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by ghetto fabolous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋