Is this common. Is it a mental thing should I get checked out, or not worry about it. Any advice about how to stop hating people. I hate people because I think almost everyone is stupid, Selfish, and shallow. I know your not all that way but I would say most people.
2006-12-23 17:59:20 · 18 answers · asked by Dustin C 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You hate shallow, selfish and stupid people and you come on here?
Kind of like hating clowns and going to a circus.
2006-12-23 18:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by GG Alan Alda 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
If it were me and I hated like you do, I would go find a peaceful place, where you can do some very deep thinking. Something from with in your self is out of balance. I think you hate your self. Before you can like others you will truly have to like and respect your self.
You must care enough about your self to ask the question, so you need to care enough to find a therapist.
At times we all need someone to lend an ear. I have been lucky and have found a friend for life who has never betrayed my confidence in her. We have been best friends since 1970. She is 90 years old and is the most assertive, kind, giving and caring person I have ever known. She is 20 years older than I am. She seems at times to have about 20 times more in site than I do. My husband feels the same about her. She has been my inspiration the love of life. many - many times
It takes a lot less effort to love life and those around you than It does to hate.
In 71 years I have only disliked 2 people. One was a girl in grade 3. The other was a woman, I worked with. She had a mean streak that no one liked.
Get help. You owe it to yourself.
2006-12-24 03:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are suffering from what I call soul sickness and it is not uncommon. I have found some easy things to do to get over it:
Meditate - really try to sit still and quiet your mind and breath deeply. Someone told me that if I could slowly count to 16 during each inhalation and another 16 on each exhalation that I would be in a meditative state. It is surprisingly hard to do (and I have to start at like 6 and work my way up!), but a brief meditation session - or going to sleep with breathing exercises - can be very helpful.
Visualization - we all know that nothing is all good or all bad in this world, but sometimes it pays to remind ourselves in pictures. Sit quietly and get a picture in your mind of yourself - see yourself at ease and peaceful. Smiling, contented and confident. Then add more people to your picture. Maybe start with family or people in the public eye - see them happy and contented, enjoying life and being kind to others. Then keep expanding your focus to include as many people as you can - feel the warmth and peace within you. Do that 2 or 3 times a day for a couple days and you will feel great.
Peace!
2006-12-24 02:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by carole 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Many people don't take the time to look for the good in others. We're geared to instant information download nowadays; if someone happens to flash a less than stellar facet of their personality, it's expedient to think, "Oh, well... THEY suck!" and not bother to look anymore.
My advice: challenge yourself to find SOMEthing deep / good / interesting / noble (whatever) about the next three people that p*ss you off. You might be surprised, or you might not. But at least you'll know they've earned your opinion, as opposed to you making a snap judgement.
2006-12-24 02:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mona H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah maybe you should go talk to a professional about that or just stop hanging around shallow and selfish people. It seems like a lot of people are like that but you shouldn't let it bother you.. you know.
2006-12-24 02:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by incubabe 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
unfortunately i think you are right. your hate is based on wishing people were not generally stupid, selfish and shallow. i guess the best way to stop hating them for that is to find a way to use it to your benefit. then you will value those traits in them. it is definitely not a mental thing. it shows that you care.
2006-12-24 02:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should understand that some people may see you as "stupid, selfish, and shallow". Maybe your associates deserve your judgment, but you seem to have a problem if you pre-judge everybody ...or most people. You haven't met everybody.
2006-12-24 02:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a sister like you. She got help and is much better now. She decided that she had an over exaggerated sense of entitlement to everything being her way, on her terms, etc. which will never happen, so she stayed pissed off at everyone when it was really her all along.
Perhaps you should consider seeing someone.
2006-12-24 02:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sheryl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from those stupid, selfish and shallow people then
2006-12-24 02:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Manny 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
People that hate others typically don't love themselves... i know that myself because I'm not happy in my own skin... For example, I'm not happy because everyday I get older, I think the chances of me winning the noble prize is getting smaller
Learn to grow and do things that expand ur mind and when you feel better about yourself, than you will not hate others.
For example, all noble prize winners are non-haters and worldy people.
2006-12-24 02:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋