2006-12-23 17:47:39 · 25 answers · asked by suresh r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hate is a very strong word. Remember that he has brought you into this world and he feels that it is his responsibility for ensuring your well being.
What ever he is doing is only for your own good.
Respect him now and avoid regrets later on in life.
2006-12-23 18:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Longfellow 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My best advice- he loves you and he wants the very best for you.
That will never change- no matter what you do.
So, learn to forgive his mistakes- his constant nagging is just his anxiety at being a failure of a father if his child does not fulfill your father's views of your potential.
Talk to him in a neutral way- tell him you love him, and you understand that he wants the very best for you, but also explain that you would like to make some small decisions and learn to fall or fail for yourself and learn from your own mistakes.
I married an Indonesian girl- so I completely understand where you're coming from with the issue of the over-protecive/domineering parent.
The best thing to do to him is TALK. POLITELY and RESPECTFULLY- shouting and temper-tantrums will get you nowhere.
Talk and negotiate some kind of boundaries and compromises- and remember if he is talking about some of your behaviours or friends, bear in mind that he is older and wiser than you and he may just have a point.
Be good. CHAT with your daddy- he won't be around forever.
Merry Christmas and Goodwill to All!
2006-12-23 22:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Ministry of Camp Revivalism 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He keeps irritating you? Well if you try to remember your past, you have continuously irritated him too when you were young. I am sure of that. Why don't you have a heart to heart talk to him instead? A parent won't "irritate" you unless you are up to something which will eventually be detrimental to you. Generally all parents want,is the BEST for their kids. Think about it! Ask him why he does it and consider his rationale. Love him .
2006-12-26 16:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad and I used to butt heads all the time. We fought about anything you can think of. I was called every name in the book by him. But one day, he died. We started to make amends shortly before he went into the hopistal, but he never came back home. After he passed away is when I realized alot of the things we fought about, he was right about. I finally started to see things in a diffeent perspective. It's been 3 1/2 years since he died and I still miss him alot, arguments and all. Next time you get a little irritated, stop and think a little about what he says.
2006-12-23 18:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you don't hate your dad.All parents irritate their kids, I know this from being a mom to 2 boys. What do you do to him? Love him, be kind when he gets on your case, that may just irritate him, turn the table on him. One day you won't have him and thats a sad day. Try to enjoy him now.
2006-12-23 18:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by lucysmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't hate him. He is the only dad you will ever have. Respect him because he deserves it . He is doing the best he can to raise you. Parents don't get no instruction manual you know. We just have to wing and hope we made the right choice.
Tell him that you love him. It will make a world of difference.
2006-12-27 07:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by faith4all35952 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really mean that you hate your own dad, do you? Is he on your case because he wants you to be better than you used to be? It's hard to say if you don't give any example.
Most parents want their children to be better; they will tell you over and over again. It's the parents things. Maybe he doesn't know the best way to communicate with you so it sounds more like a nag to you.
2006-12-23 17:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by childofGod 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE TAKE SOME TIME AND READ THIS
An old father was sitting with his extremely talented son on the sofa in his home, suddenly a crow came and sit on the window & the father asked his son, "What's that?" the son replied "A Crow", after some time again his father asked "What's That?" the son replied "A Crow", after some again his father asked "What's that?" this time bit irritated the son replied in a loud voice "A CROW", after a few seconds again his father asked "What's that?" this time frustated he shout on his father "What the hell is problem with, you cant you listen, I told you its A CROW, A CROW, A CROW & dont force me to do something I dont want to" so the father gets up from the sofa goes into his room and comeback with diary & showed to his son what he wrote in it, when his son was small he asked his father 125 times the same question and every time his father replied to him without any frustation or irrtation & each time he used to ask it, his father used to love him more n more.
HOPE U UNDERSTAND KNOW. so deal with your parents very softly and lovingly. cz if u'll feed them with ur own hands u cant repay a single pain of ur mother which bare while delivering u.
LOVE THEM AS MUCH AS YOU CANa, BUDDY you are lucky you have parents, asked them the value of parents who dont hv.
2006-12-23 19:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by like_2b_frank 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All depends on how he irritates you. But after all he is your father so you should listen to him. Unfortunately you won't figure out what parents go through till you have kids. They sacrifice a lot after kids are born. Well good ones do anyways. But if he is abusing you then you should tell someone about it, and not just physical abuse, mental abuse is also against the law to my understanding.
2006-12-23 17:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by <}}}>< 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
with out makung ur mom experience remoted get close to for your dad. at the same time as he comes from artwork be waiting for him with some solid information. talk your issues with him, yet dont surprize him with ur unexpected replace of behaviour. enable him experience particular and loved through u. supply him a more desirable-elementary attractiveness, he might want to stay as a lot because it. at the same time as u experience u r taking section in his self belief, then very gradually enable him recognize how u experience, at the same time as he is going off. please do not over do it, he might want to not experience, like u r giving him some phylogical therapy. and as others right here have adviced u, its their existence regardless of each and every thing, so dont intrude too a lot. study ouzbilla at the same time as tempers are warm at ur domicile, and take a check out the standard taking section in of Surah Baqrah, its reported devil has to flee from the position this surah is recited. that's going to also convey barkat to ur domicile. more desirable if u get a cd of Imam al Harmain's cd. my complete existence has replaced when you consider that very last 2 years and that i under no circumstances bypass over a unmarried day. would Allah bless u all, Ameen !
2016-10-16 21:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know honestly. In my case I turned my back on my parents religion and ever since my dad has been an assh*le to me. So I subsequentially quit talking to him. I have some communication with my mother, but it isnt the same anymore since he became a royal d*ck. Try asking him, ask him why hes being a d*ck. Slash his tires if its a stupid reason.. ok don't thats illegal.. lol But its a fleeting moment isnt it? Good luck dude/dudette!!
2006-12-23 17:52:16 · answer #11 · answered by mobile1mechanic 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋