I heard men cheat cuz they r bord or arnt getting what they want/need at home! how do you find out what that is if they wont talk to u? my bf has been calling dating lines and wont talk to me about what it it is he wants and isnt geting from me! he used to rock inbed and now well he cums fast and wont do anything to finish me! is it ok to cheat on him? i think he isnt intrested in me anymore and wants to cheat! should i cheat on him or can i fix the situation? i dont get y this is happining any real advice would be appreciated! by the by i dont want to loose my bf
2006-12-23 17:32:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. dont cheat on him unless you want to end the relationship
2. he probably feels different about you and there isnt much you can do. i would suggest asking him what he wants to do. if he still doesnt say anything tell him you want to take a break and give him some space. i would say it doesnt look good but the worst possible thing to do is to keep nagging him. guys hate that ****.
3. if you guys do take a break make sure he sees you on a date or with another guy. not fooling around, just out to eat. guys hat to see their women with other guys and hell get really jealous, maybe even jealous enough to ask you back
good luck!!
2006-12-23 17:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by a2z_247 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if you think he is cheating, or wanting to, and you want to cheat on him, or are at the very least considering it, I don't think your relationship is going to last.
Don't know your ages, but it sounds like maybe you would both be better off ending this relationship before anyone gets hurt more than they already are.
I understand that you don't want to lose him, BUT, how would you be able to even consider cheating on him if you want to keep him?
And the reasons you have for men cheating (IE: they are bored or are not getting what they want/need at home) is not the fact in most cases. A man can be a really hard to understand kind of guy, they can cheat for ANY reason, or no reason at all. But the same can go for women....
2006-12-24 01:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by slpkwp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, all men don't cheat. If a man cheats on you it is more of a reflection of his character than your ability to be a "good" girlfriend. Making the choice to not just end an unsatisfying relationship but rather go out with other people and continue on in the original relationship is a character flaw. If you are unhappy, and know he is cheating (which you will if someone is cheating on you), then get out while you have not invested any more of your life to a liar. If he is cheating on you, he will do it again! If he does it to you all the time, then you are just letting him do what he wants, and calling yourself his girlfriend, but you are no such thing in his mind. If you were he would be treating you in a way that doesn't make you doubt his fidelity.
2006-12-24 01:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by CriticalThinkX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - it really does sound like the spice has gone out of your love life...
You need to do something to add some spark and get him interested and into it again... both men and women tend to get bored doing the same old sex thing over and over and over...
Liven it up - there are all sorts of things you can do, though I'm not sure what would be appropriate to write here.
Light to heavy bondage, some mild or heavy sado-masochism, outfits, roleplaying, toys... all of them can liven things up.
Then there are locations - bored in bed - have you tried the shower? bathroom floor? couch, kitchen, dining table? or outdoors or in a hot tub?
Do you know what clothes turn him on? My most recent ex discovered (or I told here...) that seeing her aft end in a thong and nothing else was a pretty sure fire way to get me to jump her...
That lasted for a long time... never did really wear out actually, even when she put on a lot of weight...
If you're nervous, you can run the ideas by him before hand, or if you're confident - run the ideas right over him...
Anyway - give it a try with some of the ideas I've mentioned or find others here or online - cheating won't solve anything - though a threesome might (risky - they tend to end badly...).
Best wishes.
-dh
2006-12-24 01:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should cheat. Walk away first. If he's interested in you he'll come back and then you can talk about what you expect in the relationship.
2006-12-24 01:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slpkwp beat me to it. I am a guy and not all guys cheat but I have and for NO REASON. It would be best to leave if things aren't working out before you have more to lose.
2006-12-24 01:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the problem with a relationship that is so high depended on sex thing, so superficial, do you have a deep relationship, a real one? not just physical?
2006-12-24 06:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by blue violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditto to the first answer from pthewooh.
2006-12-24 01:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋