I recently got an office job in an expanding company. Although I was hired soley for the position, another coworker has been assigned to work with me temporarily until her actual dept gets up and running. Thing is, she has taken it upon herself to attack me verbally, misrepresent me to management, be the center of every conversation to the point of talking right over the top of me, and speak condescendingly to me (name calling). Why should this be happening when ultimately I'm no competition for her?? What should I do about her until she finally moves on??
2006-12-23 16:47:45 · 9 answers · asked by adrift feline 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
God coworkers can be really horrible I have to agree with you on that one. A lot of people dont feel strong standing on their own two feet and will take us nice guys and rub our faces in the dirt to try and make them look better to the boss in a moments notice. As completely pointless as this route is because theyre NEVER going to feel worth anything to the point theyre trying to get to by doing this in the first place. Rule no 1. Never trust ANYBODY you work with. 2. You have got to confront her on this issue. This sounds like it has been going on way too long and its ridicuous that anybody should have to tolerate her self centered, ridicuous behavior. If people know youre the nice type that will let this behavior slide, man theyre going to keep on walking all over you. You have GOT to stand up for yourself and tell her youre going straight to the boss to report this kind of innappropriate behavior. No sense in wasting your time in talking to her personally cause she obviouly doesnt give a f**k. You cannot concentrate on your work with this kind of stuff going on repeatedly, TELL your boss, please for you and all us other too pleasant respectable people who are too nice and for your job's sake!
2006-12-24 07:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Carebear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is quite common for people joining a workplace afresh. If u are docile and quietly bearing type this will go on. Not only this girl but also others around keep watching you through magnifying glasses. First you should be confident of your capabilities in office work and get to know the proecedures, rules etc. about what your work area is. Then keep acquiring new friends in office by moving around with others and maintain good relations with them, especially ur boss. this way people will be on your side in times of need. Its common sense that a person behaving like this with u cannot help behaving the same way with others. So she must have already got many enemies around. so wait coolly. Get to know about her reputation in the office on behavioural plane. one fine day tell her how her behaviour affects her own self in the long run and offer her that in case she mends herself u are willing to forget past and be a good friend.
These are the things from experience and i was successful with these ideas. never be first to complain to anyone about her. all the best
2006-12-23 18:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by gaanamurty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's competing with you? And it would please her to see your defeat. Don't get yourself trapped in her web. Fight back but in an educated manner. Make a friendly competition but don't push it too hard on yourself. Try to focus on your work rather than her because it's you who'se gonna loose it all, not her. Just do your best and just have fun instead. If you can't really stand the feeling of pressure from her, either move to another department which is nonesense because she's just temporary with you; or fight back. It's your call. Hope I helped in a way! Good luck!
2006-12-23 20:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to office politics. If management is letting this go on it doesn't speak well for your company. If you plan on staying you'll need to do more than take notes on it. While I agree with Hemi if this person is that kind of nut case they will most likely hang themselves but you may need to help it along.
First thing to remember is that most people don't actually know you they just know of you. And what they know of you is what they hear of you. If this person is running around destroying your reputation you need to counter act this and pretty quickly. I'd privately confront this person and ask them about it and let them know you're not going to sit by and let them destroy your reputation.
If it doesn't stop you might be forced to defend yourself by discrediting your attacker. Make sure any misteps made by this person don't go un-noticed.
2006-12-23 17:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by Roadkill 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start a documentation trail, and document every time you have a hostile interaction. Names, dates, times, who witnessed it, etc. Yes, this is time consuming, but you will need it as documentation if things ever get bad enough to involve your supervisor.
2006-12-23 16:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by mvsopen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your supervisor about what's been going on . Tell them if she doesn't knock it off, the company will be hearing from from your attorney. You do not have to put up with that crap.
2006-12-23 16:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by S.A.M. Gunner 7212 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't concern yourself with her. If the time you have to deal with her is limited, what's the problem?
Life is full of people like this. Stand up for yourself or stop bitchin!
2006-12-23 16:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by N/A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do your job and wait quietly for the chance to make her look like the idiot she is, if you give her enough rope, she will hang herself.
2006-12-23 16:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by hemi_beepbeep 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'll hvae to ignore her.
2006-12-23 18:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by lonesome me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋