DO you think maybe I just don't like people?

Question

I don't know, I'm just so angry at myself and sick of other people's BS. I'm in high school and kind of bitter because I'm looking back and feeling like I didn;t do enough with people and I tried to make friends this year but I really just feel like I f'ed it up already and have basically given up. I don't even try to join in their conversation anymore i just sit by myself. And I don't mind being alone, in fact I usually have a few hours alone every day late at night. And I don't know I'm just so dissillusioned with people, I used to think everyone was wonderful but now I can just see how they all suck. But I do see a lot of good things in people too and make excuses for them. Maybe I'm just so focused on hating myself right now I can't enjoy other people.

Answer 1

No, this is just some phase of your life when you feel a little depressed and disillusioned, dont worry, this happens to me every once in a while (sadly for me but it doesnt mean it's going to be frequent on you). You just have to try and see the positive side of all the bad things that surround you, believe me, everything has a positive side, it's just a matter of personal perspective.

Dont worry you're perfectly normal, and this will pass, just cheer up!!!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!!!!!

Answer 2

Are you sure that it's not just hormones? This time of year? I've noticed, as I'm old enough now to make an observation, we go thru stages all the time. I had some difficulty understanding linear thinking. It is not a straight line but like the waves in the ocean. I understand that we also have a biorythum that can tune us up or we get out of tune. Some people need a lot of light and others are sickened by floresent lighting. A great talking book is 'getting unstuck' by pena chodron. It's quite entertaining and won't bore you.

The word depression is a word that will entitle the user to send you off to someone else as they can't figure it out. The docs use it to give you meds. It's a 'junk' word. Try owning your feelings and be the best depressed person you can with a 15 minute pity party. Then try a doc. Try living with feelings first, rather than becoming sedated. Try the book and silence before letting anyone take your emotions from you.

Answer 3

Be careful it sounds like your are depressed. I'm sure you hear about teens committing suicide all the time on the news. They were depressed & diallusioned too. They didn't start out planning to commit suicide it grew into that. You have no control over it cause all you see is it is the right thing to do. It is true the world is in a sad state and looking worse all the time. I think the world is depressed.
Why are you so sad? I think if you take a look around I mean a deep look, you can find a little joy in something. Maybe little children, puppies, butterflys, the clouds, the smell after it rains, chocolate, grandm & grandpa. They are all happy thoughts. Try to focus on those simple things. It can put a smile on your face when your just sitting alone or surrounded by imbesels. Those bad moments & feelings will pass. Just because you didn't put yourself out there & talk a lot doesn't mean you can't start right now. Lighten up don't look at things so seriously it will drive you crazy. Take it from a 45 yr old woman who has seen a lot of crap and that would bring anybody down, there is always somthing to be thankful for family, roof over your head, a warm place to sleep, luxury of a shower, Internet, Sattelite TV, friends, music, good food and your own self worth!
I want to wish you a Merry Christmas.

Answer 4

Withdrawing from people, hating yourself, a bitter attitude - these are all common things that happpen to people who are suffering from depression - not major depression, but a more mild form. I think you are probably right about being unable to enjoy other people because you are busy hating yourself. I noticed that you have asked a couple of other questions related to depression, and it looks like you have come to the realization that something isn't right. The next step is doing something about it.

Its not your fault you feel this way, depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the things that affect mood. You don't need to feel like this - most people overcome these feelings with antidepressants, counseling, self-help, or some combination of these things. I had similar problems for almost 15 years before I did something about it, and it only took a couple of weeks of antidepressants for everything to turn around. Don't make the same mistake I did. It only takes a 10 min. visit to a doctor to get a prescription for an anitdepressant. Counseling takes a little more effort, but its definitely worth it. You still have a lot of time left in this school year, so you can salvage what's left if you want to.

This site has some good info onlow-level depression:
http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/depression/dysthymia.asp

Answer 5

Wow...I completely feel with you - i used to be like that in high school. I'd beat myself about it because i would try and be friends with people and really give myself, time, and care but people just weren't "mutual" as me. They didn't want to spend the time as much as i wanted to and i really wanted to give up. I got sick of people in general and thought they were all the same. Let me tell you this: don't hate yourself because of it. Just have some time apart for a little and when you start to feel okay about them, give 'em another chance. I'm kinda going through what you are right now - i've been friends with some people since high school but lately they've been "cold" about hanging out, so i cut the plug. If people aren't willing to give the time as you are to them, they're not worth it. And if you notice the whole world is ignoring you, give yourself alone time - relfect a little. Instead of finding ways on how you hate yourself, find ways how you love yourself and why you're worth it to other people - sorry so long but i hope this works!

PS: between you and me...we both know you're better than all of them anyway ; )

Answer 6

I don't believe it's because you don't like people, exactly, more like the way they act. At least that's the way I feel about some people.

The fact that you are becoming aware of the way people can be just means that you have had an awakening. Sounds like you have been touched with a bit of maturity. It just means that you have developed an insight about people and to carry with you wherever you go.

Look, how you ever had the opportunity to meet someone that you instantly disliked, even though they have done absolutely nothing to you or said anything about you?

I have and I suppose it's just a gut feeling, but I am usually right about that particular person.

For goodness' sake don't hate yourself! It's a wasted energy, and serves no purpose.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with that. You are just growing up. You are more matture than those other kids so you find hanging out with them boring and stupid. It's ok to sit by yourself especially if you are happy and ok with it.
Anyway, you have plenty of time to make new friends next year, or when you go to college or when you start a job. You just need to find interesting people that would make you click.
Good luck and have fun as much as you can.

Answer 8

i just got done going throught something like that except i didnt' give up. Maybe it is because the people that you were hanging out with were different that you and you tried to act different and you just got tired of it or maybe you are like me and you just are getting tired of everybody being to snoby or to friendly that it is just so annoying....just hang in there you will get through it!

Answer 9

i so totally know what you're going through, that is like me right now. like in the morning at school i usually would talk to my friends but then i went to the library instead and stayed there till the bell rings to go to class. i have done that for the past few weeks and it doesnt bother me at all, i just do my work. i would talk to my friends a lot during lunch and stuff but now i just like stand next to them and just think to myself. i just dont feel like talking to people anymore and i just do my work. my friends are nice and stuff but i lost interest in the conservation they talk about.
I THINK you still like to talk to people, but you're just not interested in what they have to talk about and that you like to think to yourself because other people dont know what you are going through.

Answer 10

wow you sound like me in hs lol but dont quit find some friends too hang out with that you dont feel like killing. also hs is NOTHING get ready for college and do good thats all that counts b/c you dont have to like people when your rich ;)