This year is a hard year, so we decided that we were not getting each other gifts, because at the moment my kitchen is ripped apart for remodeling and that finishing that would be our christmas present for each other. There is 5 presents under the tree from him now. Even today he reminded me today, how there was no money. So what do I do? What he did wasn't right.
2006-12-23 16:24:18 · 23 answers · asked by smw_91 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be a gracious receiver. I long ago have learned the lesson not to throw a fit on these occasions and ruin Christmas and his gift to you. Remember that the most important thing is your relationship and your love. He did not mean to hurt your or show you up by buying you presents, but to show his love.
I have literally been on my death bed, and I did not worry about money or the lack of it then. I did feel bad about the times I nit picked when things like this happened. I try to live by the theme of "what will I be thinking of on my death bed, or what would I have wanted to do differently..."
Many, many women don't even get gifts from their husbands or have to pick them out for them to buy (I did that, but that's okay). It shows thoughtfulness to pick out a present that you think the other person will like.
2006-12-23 16:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO YOU REALIZE HOW MANY PEOPLE WANT TO CALL HOME ON CHRISTMAS? DO YOU REALIZE HOW LONG THE LINES ARE THERE TO USE THE PHONES? DO YOU REALIZE THERE IS USUALLY ONLY A FEW PHONES IF NOT JUST 1? Boo hoo! It sucks, but, seriously, toughen up! My husband said he waited in like for 2 hours and 45 minutes today to use the phone. And he got cut off at the end because they were closing the phone place for the night. Come on, get a grip here! He's deployed to Iraq, and you're crying because he didn't call you on Christmas. What about HIM and how HE feels on Christmas that he's stuck in Iraq, in the desert, without his family or his friends, a warm bed to sleep in, a good meal in his stomach, dealing with all the **** over there? And he ruined YOUR Christmas? You got some nerve. I know it hurts, but you really need to put this into perspective. How do you even know he didn't BOTHER to call? There might have been hours long for a wait. You don't know, and you're just jumping to conclusions, saying he ruined Christmas. Get over it! So sorry that he's "such an asshole" for doing what he has to do to defend and serve our country. Grow up, think about what he's going through.
2016-05-23 03:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot even imagine complaining about a husband who remodels a kitchen no matter what else he does. Be glad you are not married to a lazy no-good self-destructive Sh&()head like I am. You have no idea what a ruined Christmas really is. Cherish the man and get him something from the heart. Most of us would kill for someone like him and maybe just letting him know that you are aware of how much you value him is the best gift of all.
2006-12-23 17:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tie a bow around your self and tell him that you are his Christmas present... He would probably enjoy that more than a present under the tree.. Do not fuss at him about the presents under the tree...because their will be a year that you can afford it and you are going to be upset if there isn't anything under the tree... by the way the presents could possibly be something for the rooms you are remodeling..
2006-12-23 16:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that the gifts under the tree came from a store? If he's a thoughtful & creative man, he may have come up with something to put under the tree that he knew would make you smile but didn't necessarily have to cost money.
You still have time to use your immagination yourself. What can you do for your husband to make this Christmas a special, & memorable day for him?
No one can ruin Christmas for you unless you let them.
Merry Christmas to you & your Husband.
2006-12-23 16:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel angry or bad about what your husband did. This shows to you how much he loves you if he wanted so much to get you gifts for Christmas. You don't need to go buying him gifts as well...I'm sure you're the best gift he received in life. So on that very special day of Christmas, do something nice for him. Most important, show to him (in whatever way you find most suitable) how much you love him. I'm sure it will be a Christmas to remember in spite of all hardships. Because after all, love is always the most important thing in life. Merry Xmas to you
2006-12-23 16:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by Maria wants no hassle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he meant to hurt you by putting a few christmas presents under the tree. He was probably just trying to be thoughtful because most woman say that and don't mean it. I would just explain to him that you actually meant what you said. And see if he could return the gifts he got you if you truthfully do not want them...
2006-12-23 16:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by xlaurenk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that your husband didn't mean to hurt you in any way...I don't know your man, but I know that if my husband and I decided not to do gifts that he would still find a way to give me something even if he had to make it...My husband has often told me that giving me things and providing for me makes him feel more like a man, even when there's not really money for the extra things he does....
maybe this is the way your husband is thinking. Just be glad he wants to give you things, and that him in your own way ;)
2006-12-23 16:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nice your husband is remodelling your kichen, You will feel good after it is ready. It is ok if you dont have money. Give red roses to your husband. Go out and feel the festivity. Stop feeling that he ruined your Christmas. Be cheerful. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-23 16:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both no your under pressure in regards with money, he bought you some presents fine, you both knew that you were tight with money. They might even be cheap presents, who knows. But I am sure he will understand if you don't get him a present, if he doesn't then I just don't what his thinking. It's not like his a little kid expecting a present on xmas day!
2006-12-23 16:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Bruce T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋