Why do people cheat? Then when they get caught they are so upset. If you love someone, shouldn't you respect them 200%? Or is it a 'problem' that some people have?
2006-12-23 16:15:20 · 22 answers · asked by redsox fan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To me------
NO_NO_NO_NO_NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
If you truly LOVE someone, you would never jeopardize your happiness that way, because they are enough for you-------or you work on it until you BECOME each other's dream.
If you cheat, you do NOT love that person.
2006-12-23 16:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why people cheat on each other. I do know that they come up with every excuse in the book for why they do it. My first cheated on me and his excuse was I was no longer attractive to him after I gave birth, which I understand is a normal response. I think it is just a way out for a lot of people. I have been in a marriage for 11 yrs. now and there has not been any sex in it for the last eight, yet I wouldn't think of cheating. It took me a long time to realize it was not my fault after a year of thinking it was. So I think it is just a problem for not just some but a lot of people. I feel that if the spouse loves you all the way then they wouldn't cheat on you. But that is my opinion and I guess I am just old fashioned or have my head in the clouds.
2006-12-23 16:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by myninny54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell No! They are busted and now they are upset that they are busted not that they hurt their spouse people like that are usually cowards and selfish. There is no excuse for behavior like that if the cheater is unhappy or what ever they need to have some guts and share they're feelings with their mate even if it hurts however this takes tact and class to do as well. The spouse deserves respect and both parties can work whatever it is out and if possible the marriage could be stronger than ever, if they get help and become honest with themselves and with thier mate.
I hope this helps
2006-12-23 16:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do cheaters really love their spouse?
If most people really 'understood' the meaning and concept of what 'true' love is, there would be a lot less adultry..
So my answer to you is ''NO'' they do 'NOT' love their spouse.
Love and marriage go hand in hand, and with that union there is a total commitment to each other, but when a spouse cheats
the commitment is only one sided, which is a ticket to disaster.
Cheating husbands (in my oppinion) are 'selfish' losers,
who are using their over active ego by sleeping around.
You show me 'ONE' man who has been unfaithful, who can give
a 'truly' REASONABLE answer as to why he did it, and I'll show you an Abominable Snowman.
It never happens...
They are 'always' full of excuses, and the 'poor pitiful me' mentality.I've seen it many times.
2006-12-23 16:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its the case where the person loves their spouse more than anything but they just aren't getting something from him/her. So they cheat to get what they are missing but they don't want to leave the person they are married too. In other cases its that they don't love the person they are with but they don't want to get a divorce for one reason or another. Not all cheaters fall out of love with the person they are with, sometimes they just need something more or they made a really bad mistake and it didn't mean anything to them. Sometimes people also get really upset because they are mad that they got caught.
2006-12-23 16:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jesse's Girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I love my boyfriend, and would never, EVER even think about cheating on him. Now, if he truly loved me, he would be committed to me and only me, 200%. A cheater does none of this. They breach that trust and love for someone else who seems more enticing than who they have. Does that sound like love? No, I'd have to say that if you can cheat on your loved one, then you did not truly, 200%, or even 100% love them.
2006-12-23 16:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Maico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, cheaters love themselves above all others. When you love someone , there is no way you would cheat or lie to them. Truth and love go hand in hand, deceit, lies and cheating are a form of hate and theft. Honesty, loyalty, compassion and communication are the most critical components to a relationship, which if absent there is nothing.
2006-12-23 16:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by EM-water2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cheating is not promited in my marriage and if you really love someone you will not even think about cheating on you spouse. not even when you are arguing. it is really hurting for the other loyal spouse will always wonder if your cheating again that's why if you really love your spouse you would not think of others in any way that will cause your love one to get hurt
2006-12-23 16:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Dawn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women cheat for different reasons.
Why Men Cheat
The most frequently cited reasons for infidelity among men include
more sex (the desire for a more active sex life)
sexual variety (a desire for different kinds of sex)
opportunistic sex ( taking advantage of an opportunity to have sex without the fear of getting caught)
to satisfy sexual curiosity (about a specific female)
a feeling of entitlement (the belief that it’s a man’s prerogative to cheat)
the “thrill of the chase”
the desire to feel important or special
sexual addiction
Why Women Cheat
The reasons most frequently cited for female infidelity include
a desire for emotional closeness and intimacy (someone caring to confide in and bond with on an emotional level)
a desire for attention (wanting be the center of a man’s attention again)
to reaffirm her desirability (To feel validated as a woman)
to re-experience feelings of romance
a desire to feel “special”
boredom
loneliness
sexual excitement
, these aren’t the only reasons men and women cheat. There are other reasons as well. But the bottom line is that men are cheating on their wives primarily for sexual reasons, while women are cheating on their husbands mainly for emotional reasons.
2006-12-23 17:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, most men cheaters love their spouse...
Mens cheating seldom involves the heart, it involves a different organ..
Womens cheating usually involves her heart...
2006-12-23 16:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who cheat only love themselves. They are selfish. There is no excuse for cheating.
2006-12-23 16:23:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋