Ok! I really need some tips on how to get popular and get noticed more offten. I feel invisible and I can't get one guy to notice me! Please help!!!!!
2006-12-23 16:03:04 · 14 answers · asked by ally_cat0o4 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stop trying so hard to blend in with the popular girls! Believe me, been there done that, it doesn't work. Don't try to mold yourself into someone else. God made you just the way you are for a reason, so don't try to turn yourself into someone you're not. You weren't made for that. Also, pleeeeeze don't do stupid, ditsy, silly things to get noticed. I've seen so many girls in my class do this before. It's sad. When you're lonely and left out, try searching the room for someone else that's lonely and left out and try starting a conversation with them.
When you wake up in the morning, don't think, "what should I wear/say/do/look like today to make myself get noticed by my peers?" Instead try thinking to yourself, "Today I should try to be a light and joy to everyone who crosses my path, and if i see any one who looks like they're lonely or hurting, I should try my best to comfort them."
I started to transform my waking thoughts a while ago, and ever since I feel less lonely, and people start noticing the difference in you.
About guys noticing you, one reason the more popular, sillier girls get picked first, is because they're plain easy to get! A boy worth your time is a boy who won't spend his time on the easy to get girls, but instead wait longer to scan the better apples on the highest branches of the tree.
2006-12-23 16:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by mandamandapanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl!! I want to tell you straight out that popularity is an illusion. People who are themselves are usually well-liked. People who are well-liked for that reason are comfortable with themselves. Get it: comfortable=well-liked? If you try to be something you are not, people will know. Here are some extra things to get you noticed!
ok first, do not switch to slutty wardrobe. Girls will despise you, but guys will love you--for the wrong reasons. Friends are always a help and how to get more--- I know you've probably heard this a bunch before-- but get into activities!! Even if you stink at something, throw yourself into it and laugh about it. A little spontanity never hurt anyone. Don't get too desperate, and remember to be yourself. If you are fake, people can tell.
Remember to have fun!!
2006-12-24 01:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by Marc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are trying too hard. Just be yourself. Join some clubs and meet people with the same interests. Volunteer someplace where other teens volunteer. I think it is important to dress nicely and be clean - that does not mean you need to spend a lot of money either. Be friendly but not intimidating. Try to be more positive about yourself and take off the sign on your forehead that says "I have no friends". Good luck and I hope the new year brings you more happiness.
2006-12-24 00:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never resort to dressing immodestly and being easy. Guys will lose respect for you and respectable guys will avoid you. It is better not to be noticed until the right guy comes than to become popular by making yourself cheap.
You have great value because you are created and loved by God. That does not change based on whether or not guys notice you. It doesn't matter if you are popular. What matters is that you are kind and you treat others as you want to be treated.
Sincerely
Katherine
2006-12-24 00:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be confident! Laugh and just put yourself out there. When you do that people automatically notice smiles and feel more comfortable approaching you for conversation. Once you do get your crush's attention, take interest and ask questions to find out what he's about. Remember too, even if your feeling down, play pretend and act like you know what your doing and you are confident and self-assured!
2006-12-24 00:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by iheartcali92 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the more u become conscious about being popular the more u will be in the pressure.so to me it is better to be what u are and let it be.i m sure the good of u will shine everyone around.and moreover if u feel for another person u cant help being popular
2006-12-24 00:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ekjon O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look presentable, not too slutty. Be your self confidently and open up more to show off your good personality. Until you feel good about who you are then you will attract more friends and maybe a good boyfriend who like you 4 yr personality and not just good looks. Good luck!
2006-12-24 00:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by stars 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK I could tell you are still in high school. The only way to do this is to make friends with the popular girls in school and build a social circle around them. Unless u are considering plastic surgery.
2006-12-24 00:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
IF U R STILL IN HIGH SCHOOL , THEN JUST WAIT TIL U GO TO COLLAGE OR THE WORLD .. U LL BE NOTICED... BUT IF U R OUT THE WORLD , JUST WAIT FOR RIGHT TIME .. HE LL COME UP .. WHY THE RUSH???? IS IT BECAUSE U R AN OLD AN LADY, FAT OR UGLY??? GOOD LUCK...
2006-12-24 00:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by Ephradu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take ur best quality and run with it. Take ur best feature and showcase it. Wear a color that promotes ur skin color, walk tall, feel important and smile like u got it going on.
2006-12-24 00:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by oc245 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋