My sister lives with me she is 13, But I don't think its healthy for her to start dating. We had a big fight on it. I don't want her to go out there and start having sex and everything stupid that teens do this days . I am just trying to make sure she doesn't make any mistakes in her life .Should I let her go ahead and start dating.
2006-12-23 15:56:07 · 28 answers · asked by unknown 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
GOD NO! If she is living with you and you are her guardian you have all the right in the world to make rules for her and her safety! You are soooooo right with what u want to do and the values you want to give her. She is so lucky to have you and Im sure she knows it. U can always take her to the gynocologist and have her given the SHOT which keeps her from getting pregnant for 5 years! You could let her group day date. Like skating rink-mall- or movies. You drive and pick up. Meet her friends before hand. Maske sure u have a number where they r going and her friends numbers and make sure she knows all the safeties about leaving anywhere alone with a stranger blah blah blah...... BUT I woukld say she is no where ready for night time dating or car dates! Who cares if someone else is doing it- this is YOUR sister and you do what u feel is right and best for her. Let her know its all out of love!
2006-12-25 14:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your her sister, not her mother. When I was 13 I was having sex with everyone guys and girls. If your sister hasent even started dating yet your lucky. The only reason for you to stop her from dating is if you dont trust her, but if thats the case she'll just do it behind your back. She's not asking your permison to date she's asking your acceptance of it because realy she dosent have to tell you if she's dating or not. So if you want to be able to keep an eye on it all you need to let her, that way you can meet the people your sister is dating and keep an eye on everything.
You realy are being a ***** though becuase she's your sister
think about how you fealt at that age.
Stop acting like her mother becuase your not. Your here sister. I dont care if you are the one raising her and what not. Sure be responcible and all that but you realy dont have a say in if she's dating you just have a say in if she tells you about it.
let her date
2006-12-23 17:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Nymphomaniac 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
NO NO NO NO NO!!! You're absolutely right to not want her getting involved w/ boys that young! If you read Yahoo Answers at all you know there's tons of kids that got involved in relationships too young and are now knocked up. Besides, these 13 y/o girls seldom get pregnant by 13 y/o boys, right? It seems they REALLY want attention from older boys--they want to be able to date so they can come across as mature.
It's normal for her to start showing an interest in guys at this point, and there's nothing wrong w/ her associating w/ boys. An option you might want to offer her is a supervised co-ed party w/ a few of her classmates and do games and stuff that will allow them to interact w/ each other. As she gets older, let her hang out w/ groups of friends, but discourage her from getting involved in "relationships."
It's so good that you're looking out for your sister like that, and I really hope this works out well for both of you!
2006-12-23 16:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by luvablelds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't be dating at age 13. Keep her in control and talk to her but don't act condescendingly. She is a child and will only date more guys if she begins to date at an early age. She will lose her virginity by age 16, have slept with two guys by age 18, and probably will be pregnant or have a pregnancy scare by age 20. Don't let her date.
2006-12-25 08:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by cynical 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you read the parent who posted a question about her 13 yr old daughter being pregnant with twins???
I think at 13 it's okay to be friends and go out in groups to the movie or for pizza, that kind of thing, you're not being unreasonable. Dating shouldn't begin till 16 and at that it should have limits until they are an adult.
2006-12-24 12:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by mirmade13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way. 13 is way too young to be alone on a date with the opposite sex. She will of course, object. But being a "parent" isn't about being friends. It will be harder because you are her sister, so she will probably resist your authority even more. I would try to get involved in a church youth group where they have supervised fun and she might even begin a relationship with God which would be the best decision of her life.
p.s. just take a look at all of the questions from 13 year olds. They have no business being in an exclusive relationship at this tender age.
2006-12-23 16:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by kyletexas_123 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is no need for any 13 year old child to date. It is way to young. She can wait for 3 years and date at 16. I will not allow my boys to date until they are 16. Not even group date until they are that age. Keep strong and say no!!!
2006-12-23 17:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went on my first date when I was 12. Of couse he was too young to drive as was I so we went with my sister and her boyfriend to the movies. I wasn't allowed to go out without one of my sisters or parent there until I was 16 and then I always had a cerfew of 11. Of couse I wasn't as stupid as some of these girls today are so I would just make sure you let her know how important it is not to rush into sex. And let her know she can trust you with any questions she has about anything. Once she starts driving and can go do whatever she wants by herself there won't be much you can do. I would just make sure there are rule and limitations set. And a cerfew, no 13 year old needs to be out with her boyfriend til midnight.
2006-12-23 16:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by dawggurl47 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
limits start with them make sure she knows the risks of sex and why it is a good idea to wait. maybe start with group dates she can go out with a bunch of friends. NO dates alone that is only more pressure on her.
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2006-12-23 16:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. She might be thirTEEN but she's still considered a pre-teen in my book, let alone that no one that young is mature enough to understand the concept of love, of sex, and at that age there really isn't any pleasure in love, or sex. Put her dating age at 16.
2006-12-24 08:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋