2006-12-23 15:52:11 · 15 answers · asked by ***ashley*** 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What i mean by this, is that if i tell my father he looses every inch of hope that one day i will mother a child and he will be a grandfather, just telling them that i am friends with a woman makes them raise their eyebrows at me like i am the devil standing in front of them.
2006-12-23 16:18:59 · update #1
By asking, "if they love me, won't they understand?" Besides, lets face it, those around us are not as blind as we think they are. They too can pick up on cues and hints. Sometimes they choose to turn a blind eye to the cues, but they are aware of them. The people around us are usually as bright as we are, so they can see what we're up to at time.
Besides, when you love someone, its their happiness you want. And that works BOTH WAYS.
2006-12-23 15:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To quote the immortal bard Shakespear (or however the hell it's spelt!!) ....
"Above all else...to thine own self be true!"
The truth might hurt the person that you're about to lay it on.....
But in the long run it'll hurt a lot less!
I've held some things in for a long time just because I didn't want to hurt others.But that ended up EATING me up inside because I held it in.I wasn't being true to ME!
When I finally said "Fuggit" and dumped my heart on the table it was all good! To hell with everyone else! Don't hide yourself!
Be true to yourself! Put it out there! If this person truly loves you as much as you love them then they'll get over it!
2006-12-23 16:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by Danny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are always going to be times when we have to tell someone we care about news that may surprise or hurt them. Not being truthful about who you are can be a tremendous burden to bear. You are facing about the hardest thing we as humans can do and the only way it can be done is to be truthful. The outcome cannot be anticipated and honestly, you can simply hope that they will understand and tell them in a way that they might understand you best. You have to be prepared to let them be hurt and angry and not cave in if they do. Being true to you will make you strong and you have to hold to that truth to keep your strength.
2006-12-23 16:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Isabel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things always come with a price...if people truly Love you back it would be called unconditional Love, and then it should not matter. However be ready for whatever critisim there is to come. Nothing is ever easy, but it's better than a load of bricks on your back and lying to cover up the truth. Reality sucks sometimes but we all have to face it one day or another ....I wish you luck!
May be shocking at first...but they will get over it! If not it's sad but you have to be you!
2006-12-23 15:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should there be hope of your having children? There are a million ways to conceive - many that don't involve sex with men. If grandchildren are the obstacle, do some research... Then have your cake and let your dad have his too!
2006-12-23 18:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by foghnanross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect goes both ways. It isn't fair for them to force you to live a lie and build false relationships just to save themselves from having their lofty, bound to not work out, dreams disappear. Just my take on the whole not coming out because it may hurt relatives emotionally thing.
2006-12-23 21:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all due respect how would you coming out hurt the ones you love? I think it's great that you're thinking of them but they also have to think of you & your happiness & if being gay is who you are, then if their love is true they'll deal or better yet it won't phase them at all
2006-12-23 16:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by gitsliveon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will learn to accept who you are because they love you. You need to be free and express who you really are or your going to loose the most important love of all; yourself.
Take a deep breath and just tell them.
2006-12-23 15:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are your parents, you love them, but you didnt chose to be who you are. The longer you hide who you are the harder it will get to tell them. Its just the way things are. They will learn to accept who you are after all your life isnt realy about what they want.
Good luck.
2006-12-23 16:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by SexyLilChick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts to rip off a bandage too, but it is necessary as part of the healing and completion process.
2006-12-23 15:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋