i think my fiancee spends more time with his friends (male) than with me i visit him every other month i don't have any friends here but him and his sister which is practically the only person i have here to talk to other than him!yesterday he left the house at about 12 pm & never came back till minutes pass 9pm once again i was left home by myself the whole day with no one to talk to i spoke to him about it he said sorry but this is not the first time this incident is happening so i was upset and wouldn't drop it!So he claim i was being annoyin & gettin on top of his nerves & he has a sort temper so he proceeded to hiting me around to cut a long story short i ended up with a busted lip, a swollen right eye,i currently can't hear properly out of my right ear,bruises & i was forced to have sex with him he beated me last night and this morning.i will admit yes i was being very nagging but he has no right to do what he did a friend said i pushed him to do it do you think so!
2006-12-23 15:48:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear,
listen here this sounds like a train that has already crashed. Though I'll give you my opinions and suggestions your going to do what you want anyway.
I suggest that you get out of this relationship now. If he is short tempered and you can't communicate to him your feelings or concerns, there isn't a relationship to begin with.
His fist shouldn't be pounding you dear child and any excuse from him or his friends does not justify that in any way shape or form.
Get your belongings and get your behind out of there this instance! It will only get worse as times goes on and lets not even give the thought to marrying such a creep as this. He isn't worth your time.
Don't give me this "but he loves me" stuff cause sweetheart that's a lie! I don't want to hear "but I don't have no where to go" Because my dear one that is a lie as well.
Every second a woman is being beating and even killed due to abusive relationships. Don't be one of those stats!
What on earth is he doing out do you wonder? Playing pool? riding around in the car with his buddies? I'll say he's up to no good. And there you sit waiting with no one to talk to much less anything else.
Do yourself a favor and dump this abusive so called fiancee you can do better than that and you know it!
Nagging someone doesn't give them the right to beat you either. He is just using his fist cause he doesn't have sense enough to use his brains to talk to you about this!
You listen to me now you deserve better than this!
Good luck dear I know you'll do the right thing. Don't be dumb and listen to his lies move on before your located at the county morgue!
2006-12-23 16:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't care how nagging you were your fiancee the man who loves you should never hit you. You need to get out now! This is never going to get better. You need to get a life. If you had better things to do you would not be sitting around waiting for him. And let me tell you he knows you are waiting for him. Why do you think he stays out all the time he knows you are going nowhere. My gut feeling is you will read this know I am right but you will stay anyway. Women wonder why men are like this it is because women have created these guys. Guys who know they can get away with anything because you will doing nothing about it.
2006-12-24 00:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT NOW! This is the danger zone and you're walking right in it and staying a while. Get outta here fast before he ends up killing you. Men are physicaaly stronger than women and if he ended up really beating you up one night you'd be gone. If I were you I'd leave him and have a restraint order put on him cuz he'll obviously be mad when you leave him and may try to come after you. With the restraint order you're safe. I hope everything works out okay but just get yourself out of this hole cuz you're truly stronger than this and can make it through. Good luck hun.
2006-12-24 00:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, no matter how nagging you become, he has no right to beat you and force you to have sex (that's rape) even though he's your 'fiance'. What you have to do is report him to the police. Do you believe that if he loved you he would have hit you like he did? You are not even married to him and he treats you like sh*t. Do you think it's gonna get better after you marry him? You should get out of there as soon as possible. I don't know your situation, but you should get help from authorities and other organizations. He's abusing you emotionally, mentally, physically, and probably even verbally. YOU HAVE WORTH. Don't offer yourself to someone who doesn't deserve and appreciate you. Call the COPS NOW and GET OUT of there!!! He might keep beating you if you don't.
2006-12-23 23:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? This will only get worse with marriage. Being with a person who is making you so miserable prevents you from finding your true love. Don't you deserve that? Leave him!
2006-12-23 23:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THNK THAT YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS AS SOON AS
POSSIBLE, HE A JERK TO HIT A WOMEN I DONT CARE WHAT
YOU DID OR SAID HE WOULD BE IN JAIL. TIME TO LEAVE
HIM ALONG IT ONLY GOING TO GET WORST. AND YOU
KNOW THAT, HE USING THIS TO KEEP YOU IN LINE.
STOP VISIT HIM, TIME TO CUT LOOSE THE TIES TO
THIS BAD SITUATION. BEFORE IT GET MUCH WORST
ABUSE OF ANY KIND IS NO GOOD. AS FOR HIS FRIEND
HE A JERK AS WELL. DONT BELIEVE HIM YOU DID
NOTHING WRONG.PLEASE GET SOME HELP.
2006-12-23 23:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM !!!!!!!!!!!!
he is probaly cheatin on you and is trying 2 put it on u like your doin something wrong. You shouldn't be with someone who disrespects you he must not really love you and you shouldnt love someone that treats you like trash
2006-12-23 23:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by LaLa :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him FAST! before you end up a statistic.
2006-12-23 23:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by dyamismom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
figure out what to do with out him, and if you can't be alone maybe you shouldn't get married. dump him right now!
2006-12-23 23:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by jooje@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out immediately --
2006-12-23 23:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by Tajay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋