I ended a relationship 6months ago that has left me spinning. I'm finding the holidays sadder then ever. Anyone else going through this? I feel like I look around and everyone is so happy and that just makes it worse. ugh. Want to share your story?
2006-12-23 15:43:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry and hope things get better for you. Hang in there, this too shall pass.
Unfortunately, I know exactly how it feels as I also ended a relationship earlier this year and feel more empty and sad this time of the year. Part of it is feeling sorry for myself and the other part is pleasant holiday memories from years gone by.
It is tough, it is very tough, but you and I have to be optimistic, take one day at a time, gather up all the strength and things will get better, they always do.
2006-12-23 15:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by Good_Enough 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is my first Christmas alone. I married the man of my dreams this past August, and 6 weeks after our marriage, he passed away very unexpectedly. I wouldn't be doing anything at all for the holidays, if it wasn't for our daughter. She's 9 months old, and this is her first Christmas, so I kind of have to make it special for her. I've gone through all of the motions - decorations, tree, presents, etc. Everything looks so dim and distant, though, like I'm looking at it from afar. So yes, I have my heartache for the holidays, and every day in between.
2006-12-23 18:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by wahkea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through it too and it has been real tough since we have a child together. I am with my family now and it is getting better keeping busy not trying to think about it. One thing I know for sure is that you need to get whatever on your mind out to the person who wronged you. Don't bottle up your feelings and don't depend on substances to get you through. Talk to Friends that care and hopefully we can all get through this time. Don't spend it alone although you really want to be alone, You might end up doing something you may regret and your pain could linger on more. Get out of the house and get some air. Good luck and please write again. You are not alone this holiday, I know what you are going through.
2006-12-23 15:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were just talking about this. You know as you get older I think people have a tendency to reflect. Christmas is for kids. What did you do when you were a kid. You need to forget about being alone and just enjoy the holidays. Go do something fun whatever that is. Watch a movies listen to music whatever. Don't just sit around and be sad. Go do something.
2006-12-23 16:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I sorta got dumped in early July, and I grieved about a month, was depressed about 2 months, and then I got all happy:)
In retrospect, I don't know why I was unhappy about it all ending. I know why I was unhappy before it ended: the relationship wasn't about a darned thing I wanted;I forgot to look after my own wants and needs and was busy trying to help somebody else who was a black hole of emotional neediness, and in the end I failed to fill that void due to sheer exhaustion.
That didn't mean that it was easy. But it's good that it's over.
2006-12-23 16:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll have a blue Christmas without you
I'll be so blue just thinking about you
Decorations of red on a green Christmas tree
won't be the same dear
if you're not here with me
And when the blue snow flakes start fallin'
That's when those blue memories start callin'
You'll be doing alright
with your Christmas of white
But I'll have a blue, , blue, Christmas
I'll have a blue Christmas that's certain
And when that blue heartache starts hurtin'
You'll be doing alright with your Christmas of white
But I'll have a blue,blue,blue blue Christmas
This has become my favorite Christmas song, just thought I'd share it with the crowd
2006-12-23 19:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I deal with heartache every day in life it seems..I love the holldays but i could do without it this year..Been tough. But i try to keep positive that things will work out for me...Happy Hollidays to everyone
2006-12-23 15:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by preciousmoments1962 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My 7 year relationship ended last spring. This is my first Christmas without him and it hurts.
2006-12-23 16:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by Daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through it right now and have cried for 3 days straight so far.
If you start crying and can't stop is that a bad sign?
2006-12-23 15:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by dyamismom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we split up a little over a yr ago and holidays s*ck.
2006-12-23 16:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋