im a reject-i have 2 friends-im quiet and shy-the popular kids alway dont even act like im there-i swear to god im invisible to everyone plz help me
2006-12-23 15:38:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
first thing you have to do is get rid of the shyness. Just act like you would around your friends and don't give a **** how things would work out. Never let environment overwhelm you, look confident and secure at all times. Straight posture, chin up, shoulders back.
2006-12-23 15:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by Clumsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off... i dont think u should be worrying so much about popularity or ur visibility in h.s.... as long as u have a few good friends that u can turn to when u really need them... then u should be all set... but if ur worried about not having friends because ur bored... or u want to go out and hang out with people... then u still shouldnt sweat it... just be urself... and maybe try out for sum sports... join a club... get urself just quietly involved in sumthing that surrounds u with more people... then just use that natural charm that im sure u have :)
bottom line... dont sweat it... h.s. is over in a blink of an eye... and when u get out... you get a chance to reinvent yourself... and use all the things u learned to mold urself into a much better person
2006-12-23 23:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by Pr!nce$$ Iza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your still in school, well i know what your talking about but believe me once school is over it's all going to change. Once your out of school you'll open up to your personallity. now you only see other kids and think that is what your personality needs to be, well it doens't. I know it's hard to believe but once school is over you'll start to love life and be glad your out of school. Being popular in school was always been seen, looked at, of just being the talkative one, but in the real world it's not the same. there are no popular people in the real world b/c there is always someone better then them. the world is a lot bigger then the school there at now. i promise!
2006-12-23 23:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by mojoekai_usmc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lesson number one stand up for yourself and allow yourself to be noticed. You have to want other people to see you to be noticed. You need to start by being confident and comfortable with yourself. Show others that you really are a great person and if they still reject you it's their loss not yours. Never change yourself for anybody, popularity isn't all it's cracked up to be anyways. As long as you're happy with who you are that's all that's important, be the best you you can be.
2006-12-23 23:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by liz04ca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
character won't change at once. so, just be yourself. as long as you have one- two friends whom you can share your thoughts with, it's fine. join a sports/ clubs, this will help you to develop your character. being popular is not the most important thing in life. to be a good listener is sometimes better off than a person who likes talking and attention.
2006-12-23 23:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being introverted. You are just smart and listen to what other people say first. The popular kids won't be popular once highschool is over with.
2006-12-23 23:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by sno 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We are so alike. That happened to me. But i turned my life around.. first i started by caring about my apperence. i always try to look good. secondly i started to talk more, introduce myself, try to find common ground. some ppl may be popular but nice at the sametime. try not to be too afraid. but remember dont loose who u really are, as long as u are happy with ur self, thats all that matters! best of luck
2006-12-24 00:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just trust in your good friends. crowds and popularity are overrated n e how, and most of those people will use you. Just gain ur self confidence bu being you, and try to read self help books. there is nothing wrong with having two best friends...
2006-12-24 00:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I need to say that the quality of the friendship is more important then the quantity.. In my opinion.
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You Have the Power to Control How People Treat You
You can make people like you or hate you; respect you or criticize you; support you or chop you down.
You can also get people to trust you, support you and help you succeed.
The way you do this is outlined by L. Ron Hubbard in The Way to Happiness.
"Try to Treat Others as You Would Want Them to Treat You"
"Just figure out how you would want people to treat you.
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"It requires no great stretch of imagination for one to recognize that if he were to be treated that way regularly by others around him, his life would exist on a pleasant level." -- L. Ron Hubbard (*integrity: honesty, truthfulness)
Three Steps to Get People to Treat You the Way You Want to Be Treated
1. Make a list of each person you wish to influence: spouse, children, parents, employees, bosses, co-workers, colleagues and so on.
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2006-12-23 23:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by Michael B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-23 23:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by thelastryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋