me and my girlfriend have bene together for 2 years and three months and my parents found out that we were lesbians. they kicked me out of the house and i didnt get to finish high school because i was in private school so i couldnt afford to pay for it by myself so now they think it would be best for me to go to this boot camp for 6 months that helps wiht life skills and helps me get my ged. do i go? i dont want to leave my girl friend!
2006-12-23 15:37:40 · 16 answers · asked by carissa d 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your parents are trying to control you. They showed this when they kicked you out and when they didn't let you finish school. Now they are trying to do it by sending you to a boot camp. You can get your GED without their help, and you can show that you do not need their approval by getting your GED and begin your own life with your girlfriend.
Instead of offering to pay for you to go back to your school your parents are offering a GED with strings attached, which shows that they are still trying to control you. You are not the one that turned your back on your parents, they are the ones that turned their back on you. It may take your parents awhile to come around, but if you stick up for yourself and show that you are strong enough to do it without them by getting your GED on your own, they will most likely come around eventually and accept both you and your girlfriend.
2006-12-23 16:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't go. Obviously you parents are trying to turn or scare you straight. Why didn't you just go to public school? And I believe 100% that this boot camp isn't gay friendly. You need to go get a job and find a tech school that offers for you to get your GED and go to night school. If your parents kicked you out and is suggesting this boot camp thing, then they really aren't trying to help you at all anyway. Be with your girlfriend both of you can make it together. You don't even know if you went to this boot camp that after you got your GED that your parents will think you are straight and when you tell them NO, they may want you to pay them their money back. Good Luck though whatever you decide. If it was me Hell No!
2006-12-24 05:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by Noclue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. The only thing is it happened when I was in college and you won't believe the hell I had to go through for 2 years before I could finally get out. I feel for you. I only have these words to tell you:
1. You have to live this out. It does get better. Maybe not immediately, but there is nothing else you or your girlfriend can do for now while you are still dependent on your parents. FIRST STEP: GAIN YOUR OWN INDEPENDENCE!
2. Do what you have to do make this work out with your girlfriend. Remember: "What doesn't break you apart will only make you stronger." This will be a very difficult time, and the tests will be brutal, but if you two survive, you know you have a solid foundation, if not, then it just wasn't meant to be. My girl and I will be celebrating our 7 year anniversary soon. Our situtation is even tougher because we lived in different countries but after all the crap, we made it. We've been living together for 4 years now.
I wish you both the best of luck. Stay strong.
2006-12-23 15:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by theP0OCH 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
there are a lot of ways to get your GED, you can contact a local school for that information. Now this boot camp that helps with life skills, does it also include a program to get you to alter your behavior? Because that's wrong. It's like expecting a cat to be a dog, or a bird to be a cat - expecting you to live against who you are. We are who we are and self acceptance is so very important. Look, I'm straight, but I've always been on the disapproving end of my family's perception of how I should be, and I can appreciate what you have experienced. I'm not saying you should not do this, but asking you to think hard about what is being offered to you, and be sure the decision you make is the best one for you. Ask questions. Are they asking you to give up this girlfriend to do this, and would you be willing to do this? Are they asking you to change your lifestyle? What will be expected of you if you accept this? Do you know what boot camp is and what they do there and what you will have to do? I would never tell anyone what to do in this regard, except to be sure you know what you are doing and agree fully to the plan. You may want to consider talking to a counselor about your choice of sexual preference because things can be very confusing. Obtain as much information as you can. This will be a part of your education, the part that includes life. It is really important to get as much of all education as you can.
Best of luck to you, and I hope your next step is the very best thing for you.
2006-12-23 16:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by Isabel 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do need to graduate high school. That's a definite. Do some more digging on that "boot camp." It's likely not what your folks are telling you it is. Get your GED on your own would be probably the best decision. It sounds like your folks are taking you back and pretending to be helping you out in hopes that they can straighten you out. If they haven't said that they accept your sexuality, then that's a definite sign that they don't want you back solely to help you out. They have other reasons on their minds, like trying to force you to pretend to be straight.
2006-12-23 21:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know what to do. The only thing boot camp will teach you is to take orders and become a dog of society forever. Lots of people live in this world so it's good training to be like everyone else but better than that. Your parents, I can't even begin to say stuff about them.
2006-12-23 15:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by Leighton H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you WANT TO GO? Do you want people in your face everyday, yelling that your a maggot, worthless and a piece of waste? Then sure, go. If not, I suggest going to your local Adult Education Center and getting your G.E.D. on your own. Its alot faster and easier and you'll get your "lifeskills" on the job, trust me. The only skill boot camp will give you is calling people, "sir and ma'am," and waking up quickly, all of which are great things, but seriously, do you need 6 months to learn that? I thought willpower and respect would do that.
In the end, ONLY YOU can decide what to do, your parents have made it plain that they don't respect "who you are" or who your girlfriend is. So, respect yourself if they won't. Love yourself and her and decide for the both of you, whats best for YOU and that will in turn, help her.
Good luck!
2006-12-23 15:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's very important that you get your GED, whether it's with your parents' help, or if you do it yourself in night school. You will never be able to support yourself otherwise. You will have to make the decision yourself. If your girlfriend loves you, she will wait for you. In the long run, six months isn't that long. What kind of boot camp is it, and why do your parents want you to go there, specifically? Are they trying to turn you straight?
2006-12-23 15:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by mbm244 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Get your GED on your own. A lot of those boot camps are meant to "scare the gay out of you" which just doesn't work--- if you're gay, you're gay. No need to have your parents spend thousands of dollars trying to un-gay you when it aint going to work anyway. So get a job, work on getting your GED, and hopefully one day your parents might realize that being gay doesn't make you evil.
2006-12-23 16:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by dcgirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can't see boot camp being any help to you what so ever, you do what you think is the best for you.
2006-12-23 15:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by poodle 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋