last month, my best friend died, we knew each other for 10 years. 2 days after her death, i went insane, she was the only person i really connected with, i loved her so much. i became suicidal, i went to her house in her room where she had a bottle of vikadens stashed, i grabbed a handful and when i tried taking them something had hit my hand so hard to my face it wasn't even funny/ i freaked out forever. i dropped the bottle and ran home. that night when i couldn't sleep thinking about her, i saw shadows on the wall, vauge and yet clear. i swear i could hear her voice but i couldn't understand what she was saying. she invaded my dreams too, too this day every night i see her, i hear her and she talks to me. i know i;ll see her tonight but i dont knoe what to do,
2006-12-23 15:26:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
she keeps telling me to burn candles, at least i think. im worried
2006-12-23 15:48:28 · update #1
I already answered this question for you. You have to let her move on. I don't know what your beliefs are regarding the afterlife, but I feel that it HAS to be a place of peace and contentment ... don't let your pain prevent her from moving on.
2006-12-23 15:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wants her Vicodins back. Nah, just fooling. I don't believe in the afterlife, ghosts, and that sort of supernatural. BUT, I do believe that your connection to her was so strong that your subconscious has created her ghost. You know that she would not have wanted you to kill yourself, you know she would want you to move on with your life, and to remember her as your friend. But since your conscious mind is so overcome with grief it won't allow the manifestation to fully manifest, so you can't understand the message "she" is trying to send to you. She loved you as much as you loved her, and there is life after death. It resides in the memories of the living, live on and keep your friends memory alive. That's what she would have wanted. And that is something that you already know. But maybe you just need her to tell you that, and since she can't do it, well. I'll do it for her buddy. Take it one day at a time, I can't promise that it won't hurt, it will, I'm sorry for your loss. But that connection can never be made again, especially in death. And most definitely not through suicide, the living need you more, so share the friendship she showed you with someone else. And forgive the wisecrack about the Vicodins.
2006-12-23 15:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
shes a guardian angel its that simple. but perhaps she is telling you its time to move on with your life, to let go. no im not saying to forget her but you need to stop grieving over her. perhaps that is why you cant understand her. the next time you see her in a dream walk up to her hug her tight peck her on the cheek and whisper a sweet goodbye. let her soul find peace as you yourself should as well. I dont think she wants to leave you a broken person, so keep on living life to its fullest if not for you then for her sake. do the things she could never do and tell her that you two will be together again someday. but it isnt your time yet. just let yourself relax, find peace, and let it all go. the both of you will feel better.
2006-12-23 15:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This kind of loss is unexplainable......it takes a long time to get over the hurt and sometimes it feels like you are in hell .......you are hearing the memories of your relationship with her , those things are stored in your mind and can be retrieved at any time..but sometimes the thoughts are intrusive , and they seem to come from somewhere else another world maybe....whatever the case your feelings of loss are normal and in line with the feelings of loss that you have experienced.....
oh yes, pills and suicidal gestures aren't the answer....maybe you should see a counselor or talk to your other friends or a trusted adult..good luck !
2006-12-23 15:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by cesare214 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-15 07:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by zell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide if you want to continue seeing and hearing her or not. If you truly believe what you just said, then why are you waiting for her to reappear and not moved out. Your mind may be on overload in the grief process and you need to take a stand for your own good and sanity. Seeing her in your dreams is not that uncommon, but seeing her outside them is. If you do not believe she is real, then tell her in your mind to go away. You may be in a state of past regression or guilt. be strong and true to yourself, if she was your friend then she would have wanted the best for you.
2006-12-23 15:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by AJ 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It may be pretty scary or trippy, but just accept it. You really cared about her, so she must have some strong bond with you. You must have a gaurdian Angel now. Just don't kill yourself over it. I'd personally kind of like having someone watch over me and ensure my safety.
2006-12-23 15:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by ☆Tąrą☆ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is my beleif thru experience that often our friends and family stay close by us until our greiving process is over. I have had many experiences and i KNOW they are around us until we finally find peace and comfort.
You need to pray and ask the Lord to give you comfort. Talk to your friend.....outloud. They can hear you. Talk to her. Tell her how you feel.
Its not insane, its real..............
2006-12-23 15:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by SunValleyLife 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It wouldn't be right to kill yourself over her now would it? She wouldn't want that to happen to you. Don't kill yourself because of this. Let her know that you won't harm yourself and maybe she'll give you some peace.
2006-12-23 15:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by mocdip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss.
However, It is just your imagination. your sorrow has made you imagine that your friend is still alive, in order to comfort yourself because you loved her so much.
if your best friend was alive, do you think she would be happy to see you doing something stupid? doing something foolish? treasure your life. your best friend did not have the chance to fufil her own hopes and dreams, so you should cherish your life and live an even fuller life. your best friend would be happy to see you happy.
dont commit suicide. there are other people who care.
2006-12-23 15:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋