2006-12-23 15:23:04 · 19 answers · asked by JJ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you live in the fraternity house and have any room mates, how do you think that they would react? How do you think the brothers that you are closest to would react? How do the other fraternity brothers view gay people? You say you're confused about your sexuality, but I think that you know which way you lean and your confusion is not about your sexuality but is confusion about coming to terms with it. If you are attending college in a larger city, you can find other gay people without having to tell your brothers about it, but it may be more difficult in a smaller town. I began to come to terms with me being gay when I was in college and living in a fraternity house, so I know what you are feeling firsthand. For now, I wouldn't tell them. I had a brother come out and it didn't work out well for him; he transferred to another college and it pushed me into more denial of what my sexual attraction was until I had left college.
2006-12-23 15:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't.
If you are confused about your sexuality, then talk in private to a counselor at your school. Don't fall for that very good, brotherly feeling you might have with your fraternity brothers that everything you say to them will be met with total acceptance. It won't. The truth of the matter is you probably don't know most of these guys from Adam (what they are really like) and most are probably not mature enough to handle that kind of information. And once that information is let out, don't think it will be kept within the circle of your fraternity brothers.
2006-12-23 18:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you can not tell any of them. Most if not all fraternities have this macho male image to protect. A gay brother would make them the laughing stock of other fraternities. Worst they will be branded as a gay fraternity. You will surely be ostracized. Expect them your brothers to make your life difficult. Believe me, I used to be a member of a fraternity. I had to quit. I told the Grand Master or the Frat President about my situation and was thankful he was understanding and not a homophobe. I told him I am for the welfare of the fraternity and my leaving will save it from further embarrasment. I pledged my loyalty to the fraternity ,that I would continue to respect its principles, traditions and secrets. I asked the Grand Master to keep it a secret and not to further discuss it with the council. Should someone really insist, I gave him the permission to make any violation that would allow me to leave the fraternity. I would rather be labeled as a traitor than a sister. You do not need an added burden to your studies.
2006-12-23 16:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by PAXson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, they will figure it out on their own, if you tell them the ones you tell will think that you are targeting them. It doesn't matter if you are male or female or an ape, everyone figures it out sooner or later, and if they don't they don't. Ask yourself why you are confused, in your heart you know the answer, each person on this earth makes choices, good and bad. But if you can't answer this question I suggest that you find counseling to make sure, cause making the wrong choice at your age can make more problems than it's worth. Most of all be honest with yourself.
2006-12-23 15:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to tell your fraternity brothers do you like being involved in macho stuff
2006-12-23 16:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to tell them unless they are really good friends. They might get a little freaked out by it. If you trust them and know they will be there for you, just let them know you want to have a serious conversation with them. If they are true friends, they will understand and not make fun of you or treat you any differently. One of my good friends hid the fact that she is gay for three years of our friendship. I don't treat her any different than I did before. Hopefully everything will work out for you.
Good Luck!
2006-12-23 15:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by r_finewood 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At tea? Seriously though, why the need to share?
If you feel the need, call a council or something, or tell the Prez first. Ask his reaction and what you should do about it.
Good luck.
PS Telling them your "confused" makes you "bait." Decide first, then stick to your guns. No one likes weakness and that is what indecision is. Decide on your label, straight, bi or gay and then announce it. This way, they won't smell fear and go off on you as someone who is "unsure."
2006-12-23 15:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-18 22:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very carefully. You have to ask yourself how well you know them, and how good of a friend are they to you. Start by telling the person you most trust and see how he reacts. I wish you well.
2006-12-23 15:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
From as far away as possible. I doubt they'd be very understanding or sympathetic, do you?
2006-12-23 16:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋