Is it just me or...my husband doesnt do much with our 2 year old son.?

Question

Or wen he does, its for a very small amount of time or its justing watching tv, nothing constructive.
He works and Im a stay at home,but his job is whenever as he is in te trades, some times he doesnt work for 2 months straight, other times he does. The things is I can never remember him planning any outings or ideas to do with our child. I am the one who alwyas comes up with things to do.
I do almost everything, even when he is home.
I cook and feed the child, bathe, do his laundry and clean his room with him, read to him, play with him, go for walks, plan things to do.
I cant even recal him doing much of this, not anywhere as much as me and the raising of our son.
Plus when I do paln up an outing, my husband gets annoyed and gets all moody cause it means we have to go out, like to a play place or museum.
I dont know what to make of this, do you? Im 26 and he is 32.
I feel like I do everything other than make money, the only thing that is missing!

Answer 1

You are describing a very common father/son relationship for that age. In no time, they will both be able to share sports, video games, cars and women!

Planning outings is a good idea. Your husband might gripe, especially if it is during his personal relaxation time that he might have expected to spend with you alone.

Consider that there is a problem your husband is dealing with: trouble SHARING you with your son. Some men are very slow to adjust to that. It sounds like you are a very conscientious mother who carefully provides for her son's needs.

Don't forget to be a wife, too. Find a baby sitter and let your husband know that he can have your attention and play time, too.

A family needs to achieve a good balance when small children are in the house.

A 30 year old man can't relate to the 2 year old as much as he can his own wife. Also, few men can relate to the hard work and effort that it takes to be a mother.

Throw a blanket over a couple of chairs to make a cave for your husband and son have an adventure in. Have your husband show your son how to play with a block of wood or cardboard box from the garage. You might stimulate some extra father son time with some suggestions.

Good luck!

C-F

Answer 2

I totally sympathize with you, gal! I too have experienced this. I don't have a husband that has as flexible schedule as him, but my husband does spend time with our son. He is missing out on knowing his son. I would tell him that if he wants more time with you to either help with your son, or help with chores. If he doesn't then he is just LAZY. This is not a good example for him to be setting for his son.

Answer 3

It might be of your child being so young, your husband might not know what to do.Things will change when your child gets older.