Do you think religion matters in considering marriage.>?

Answer 1

Religion matters on several levels:
What is your spiritual focus on a personal, community and family level?

Has your background led you to expect to celebrate Weekends or Holidays in a certain manner? How about your partner's seasonal expectations?

Were you or your partner raised within a spiritual or religious household with religious teaching? What would the expectation be for any children?

Would you or your partner expect to mark major life events within the confines of a religious community? A birth, death or the marriage ceremony itself?

These can be serious questions for one or both partners.
The questions should be asked before the marriage.

Good Luck!

C-F

Answer 2

Yes. However, it does not need to be a deal breaker for every relationship. It depends on the couple. For me, it was a deal breaker.... I am Jewish and I married another Jew. He was actually the first and only other Jewish person I ever dated. He just turned out to be the one. I feel that with divorce being so prevalent these days, why not have one less thing to argue about... I am lucky in the fact that although we are both Jewish, neither of us believe in the whole organized religion thing, but we were brought up with the same values and traditions so we understand where we are coming from.

And then you have kids to consider. My kids are Jewish. I could not imagine marrying a catholic, and having my kids go to church with their fathers mother... Not that there is anything wrong with that, if that is what you believe in, but I don't - so why would I let my kids be part of something I do not believe in (organized religion, not being catholic - I myself have not stepped foot into a temple in at least 20 years do to my distaste for organized religion).

I have one set of friends that are a mixed religion couple. They are pregnant now with their first baby, and the fights have already begun. They always felt like they were not religious, but spiritual. To tell you the truth, if left to just the 2 of them everything would probably be fine. But know with a baby on the way you have one grandmother mortified that there is not going to be a baptism, and the other besides herself because there will not be a briss (spelling?).

I guess to sum it up, it depends on your relationship with you partner and how strongly you each feel about each of your religions. The second part of summing it up is this... and I hate to admit that this matters, but the rest of the family. If you 2 as a couple are OK with it, is there rest of the family (picture when you have kids in the mix, because that is when it really matters)? If others are going to pressure you, and make problems you need to decide if you are willing to accept that. Are you willing to support each other no matter what, even if it means pissing someone off?

I guess that is it.

Good luck!!!

Answer 3

You should. This can cause a big problem when you have kids some religions are very hard on that. If you marry a Jewish guy or a Muslim you will have to raise you child in that religion. If it does not matter to you then you wont have a problem.

Answer 4

well......i think it does somewhat. however, as long as both people and their families are tolerant towards each others' religions, the marriage can work out very well. basically, in my opinion, as long the two people find a way to accomodate each other's religions, different religions shouldnt be too big of a problem in a marriage.

however, people of different religions may have completely different traditions and customs, and it may sometimes be very hard for the other person to get used to those customs

Answer 5

I think it plays a major role in getting married. Firstly speaking from a Christian point of view, to marry someone from a different religion will cause problems when it come to raising children should you decide to have any.

Also if your spouse in Buddhist and your are of a different faith and one of you are having spiritual trouble how can you really help each other effectively especially if you are both avid believers in your respective faiths.

When your Buddhist spouse tell you just need to medicate and recite some chants and you are of a different faith you really cannot support each other as spouses should.

Maybe that is because I think spouses should be able to operate as one unit not that they should lose their identities but their collective views enhance the effectiveness of their union in life.

This concept Christians should apply to themselves too because a conservative marrying a liberal are just asking for disagreements in their marriage. I just say avoid it if you can why make marriage harder than it needs to be.

That being said it is not impossible to have a happy marriage but you will have major challenges if both of your are firm believers in your faith.

Answer 6

Yes it matters. It can totally define a relationship or break it up .

Answer 7

i do believe that when picking a mate that it is best if we choose someone who is a believer, who knows the will of god, and lives his life based on god's will. as for religion i think if a Christian marries a non christian it may cause difficulties later on.

Answer 8

Yes it matters.

Answer 9

Yes, very if you are a religious person and attend church regular..Some religious cultures and very strict, and may put a lot of strain on a marriaege......

Answer 10

Sometimes.

You might want to get that "legal" stuff off your blog BEFORE Yahoo sees it though.