my mom doesnt have much money at all one small income 2 kids with needs doesnt work anyway she got me 5 or 6 small things for christmas and a new puppy(it came from my dads friend so it was free it doesnt count)but my stocking isnt going to be halfway full i know everything she got me yet she doesnt know that i know what she got and im worried if i tell her she will feel really sad and guilty and try to buy me more which is just wasting her money to make me happy last night she was on the phone and i heard her crying because she couldnt buy anybody anything not even her own parents i dont want to tell her but on Christmas if i act surpised shell know(she always does when i act)then shell get sadder than she is now and try to make it up by using all the money she can spare to buy me something expensive and that wont make me happy at all it will upset me because that money is for her school so she can pay instead of having to quit what should i do i want to make my mom happy anyway i can
2006-12-23 14:25:14 · 35 answers · asked by female football player 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i have a "life savings" that i worked for here and the amount is 800.00 (no i didnt steal anything!) i got her a 400.00 dollar massage table so she could work doind that(that is what she goes to school for) and i took 350.00 dollars worth in bills without her knowing and paid them im willing to do MUCH more
2006-12-23 14:34:18 · update #1
and i wasnt snooping!!!! her room got trashed because my lil sis and my dog tore it up so i was trying to clean it for her and i found them it is just books(i love to read) a new chain for my dirtbike and a mug
2006-12-23 14:38:34 · update #2
i meant it doesnt count as in what she spent her money on which im greatful for! if she would have bought that dog it would have been 400.00 dollars and i dont want her to spend that much on me i dont care what i get as long as im with her and my lil sis!
2006-12-23 14:41:32 · update #3
everything you said comes back to my life if i were you i would tell her you know and tell her how you feel about everything
2006-12-23 14:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Brittany 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
aww honey I feel for your family. I am in the same boat. I work alot of the time and only 17. I was in an accident which totalled my car and had to spend money for a new one. My mom and step dad are not in a good financial spot. Lets put it this way my 24 yr old boyfriend takes care of me more than my mom. She is never home and just works all the time cause she is assistant manager at $tree. I did not buy much for anyone and had little money like $200 in a savings account and in my other savings account had $200 so I had to cash my $250 paycheck to buy stuff and feel terrible i can only buy 2 things for my little sis which are a new hair/blow dryer straightner combo and a wireless controller for her video game system. I also bought my mom a new vac for the floor and thats about it for my mom which she already opened so sucks she got really nothing to open on christmas so I bought her a $10.00 blanket which is really nice but had to do alot of bussing tables and cleaning at work and feel like a bum the way I get treated at work like a slave when my job is register not maid. I bought only gift cards and just now broke. I feel for you sweety and actually is wonderful you paid her bills. Just forget about the presents and just maybe you can not remember what they are. Wait till after christmas if she says if you knew what the gifts were and just tell her no so she does not feel bad. Tell her being with her family is the most perfect gift anyone can recieve and christmas is not just gifts it is love.
Kiss her and hug her and tell her one day you will be thanking her for the life she has given you. You are a wonderful person. Be strong for your mother and either way you will always have a person to love and you are good to for having strong feelings. Your mom just is having a rough moment with holidays and everyone does just some have it worse than others. Hug her, kiss her, tell her it will all be ok and no matter what the best present is the live, love, and happiness your mom, sister and you share and that is the most important thing with life, a family and holidays
2006-12-23 14:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by swept away in hopes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you can start being grateful. The puppy was free, so it doesn't count?? At least you realize that she's trying to buy your love, and that's probably b/c she thinks it's the only way to get through to you. Oh, so you're only getting 5 or 6 small things? My husband's family had 6 kids, and they each got 2 presents--one from their parents and one from "Santa." Stop counting the number of packages and start counting the thought she's put into it!
How about as a Christmas gift to her, you take on some extra responsibility around the house? Do a little home-made "coupon book" w/ things like "Good for one day of no whining" or "Redeem this coupon for vacuuming the house." Helping her around the house will help your mom feel better b/c she'll know she's raising good kids and not spoiled little brats who sound a little bent out of shape b/c their stocking won't be *full* on Christmas day.
Oh, and try staying out of her stuff. I'm sure she won't be happy when she figures out you've been snooping, if she hasn't already. Moms are a lot smarter than their kids give them credit for!
2006-12-23 14:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by luvablelds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is NOT about gifts, it's about family. Every family goes through tough times. You should be focusing now, more than ever, on how you can stay close as a family. My mother died about 4 years ago. During the holidays I think about her the most. When I think about her, I NEVER think about the STUFF she gave me, because it just meaningless stuff. I think about the conversations we had and the times we had together. Start building some new memories that don't cost money. Make her a pancake breakfast on Christmas morning, play a game together like UNO, or something you haven't played in years. Give her a letter for Christmas telling her about some favorite memories you have with her and telling her how much she means to you. Volunteer together as a family to help a local charity out with your time. (They get lots of volunteers during the holiday, but very few after the holidays are over.) Go to a local church together and sing Christmas Carols. Keep your focus on your family and not how much, or little, crap is in your stocking and under your tree. You've got a mom that loves you. I'm envious of that and wish I could still have my Mom now at Christmas.
2006-12-23 14:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry all these people are telling you to be grateful and such when it seems to me when you say the stocking will only be half full and alll that youre just trying to show the situation. paying bill for you mom is obviously not being a brat. its mature and although you mom probably doesnt want you paying bills with your money no matter what the situation is, its a nice gesture. I think you should talk to your mom about the finances though. You dont have to mention christmas but offer to get a job if you can. say she can pay you back later if taking your money bothers her (even though you dont want repayment). if christmas does come up tell her you dont care about presents, that for christmas you want her to be happy. thats what its all about anyway. oh and try to make your mom proud by doing well in school. she'll be happy knowing you will be successful in life even if her situation isnt the best right now.
2006-12-23 14:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Just act surprised anyways & giver her a hug & say that it's a great Christmas because you're all together & healthy. Better days are coming-let her know that you know that, too. This time of year can be hard on everyone. You sound like such a sweet kid. Tell her with the new puppy & all you couldn't ask or really want for more & tell her that you're proud of her going to school & not having enough money won't last forever & that you know others with less & you're happy to have what you do-good luck & Merry Christmas!
2006-12-23 14:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sandra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her an early present - a letter/card telling her how proud you are of her and that the best gift she could ever give you would be to see her succeed in fullfilling her dream of graduating from school (college?). Tell her how much you love her and all she has done for you and your family and that no amount of money could have bought the memories you have. Remind her to read your letter whenever she is feeling down and feels she should be doing more. Let her know you understand about sacrifice and that if she feels the need to do more for you, she can make it up to you when she graduates and is better able to. (Tell her you'll accept an IOU if she wants to be insistant but that she can't trade them in until she graduates!)
You are a very perceptive and thoughtful daughter and your mother is truly blessed.
I hope she cheers up soon and that you and your family have a very Merry Christmas!!
2006-12-23 14:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by devils'littleangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to act surprised to look like you didn't know what she got you, just say "How did you know? This is just what I wanted!" Or some variation of that. And if you have ANY MONEY AT ALL of your own (or you can see if an aunt or someone can help you out financially) buy your mom a gift. Ask her what she wants, and if she says she doesn't want anything, buy her something you know she likes. Come Christmas Eve, she will be delighted to open a present that you got her. Also, tell her that you love her and that you don't care if she doesn't have any money because she is you mom and you love her.
2006-12-23 14:36:08 · answer #8 · answered by Answer Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER the best present that she can give you is to use any money she has for school and do well. Tell her she can buy you some expensive gift when she graduates school and gets a good job. This will be like a dual graduation gift. You MUST make her believe this. And, by the way, the puppy DOES count, even tho it was free. My daughter (19) got me a mug for coffee that said the best presents are mom's. I cherish it. p.s. YOU ARE SPECIAL.....Merry Christmas
2006-12-23 14:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, parents always want to do the best for their kids and feel terrible if they feel they haven't given them everything.
Sounds like your mom is doing the best she can. Be honest with her, tell her you know she is sad because she is doesn't have a lot to give. Let her know that you realize the sacrifices she is making now is for the good of the family and there will be better Christmases to come, especially if she keeps going to school.
She may still cry, but knowing that YOU notice and understand will help her.
2006-12-23 14:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by jooliejools 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur mother that all u want 4 christmas is 4 her to not spend money on u & most importantly, 4 her 2 b happy...tell her that if u can SEE she's RLY happy, that'll b the BEST GIFT of all! now go give her a big hug and tell her u are ALWAYS going 2 love her NO MATTER WHAT!
tell i said that i can sympathasize with her and i understand what she's going through and im here if she wants 2 talk
& tell that king william 2 SHUT THE HELL UP!
do NOT kill urself, ur mom NEEDS u & LOVES U!
2006-12-23 15:16:55 · answer #11 · answered by javalavajuice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋