I want to get her immediately into therapy and support group. Any suggestions will help.
2006-12-23 14:19:50 · 15 answers · asked by paanbahar 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She might think she is 'abnormal' because she is surrounded by people that think she is abnormal.
In any case, if she really is your friend you would realise that you can already give her all the support/therapy she needs. She needs a friend that won't judge and support her in whatever choices she makes.
I think it's really really sad that her closest friend obviously thinks she is a freak. We all have a right to be respected and loved whatever we are, why are you so special as to deserve respect from people while your friend is not?
You can try and 'cure' her but there are some things that can't be repressed. If you try and force it out of her, it will come out in other ways - self-hating, loneliness, depression and potentially even suicide. Is that what you want for your 'friend'?
If it turns out naturally that she is no longer attracted to women that's fine as long as she got there on her own.
She could a sympathetic non-judgemental counsellor that (is not anti-gay) but neutral who will help her talk through her feelings and help her decide whether she is gay or not and help her find a way to enjoy her life whatever decision she makes.
2006-12-24 05:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by How many questions can there be? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that you would consider someone you call a friend "abnormal" for being a lesbian is ABnormal, hateful and bigoted. If a "friend" felt that way about me, I doubt I'd care to be around them anymore.
...and no one can change who they innately are! those who claim to be able to "change" us through "therapy" are bigots who wish to brain wash us. they want us to live a lie and pretend to be straight to make THEM happy. do you not care if other people are happy? or do they have to fit in your narrow-minded little molds to make YOU happy? that's just selfish!
2006-12-23 16:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were a real friend you would help her realize she is not abnormal, not try and convince her she is. True friends stand beside each other, and support one another, and accept each other for who they are. Be supportive, not critical.
2006-12-23 15:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it isn't your place to get her into therapy. she doesn't need it. what makes you think she's abnormal? what makes her think she's abnormal? maybe to many people are telling her she is instead of supporting her.just a suggestion. oh, by the way, i'm straight.
2006-12-23 14:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
there is been various analyze executed the place this is declared that persons of a similar orientation the place born that way... yet oftentimes human beings do on no account desire to confess it simply by kin they have been raised with or the pals you spent time with have been against it... i've got constantly been brazenly gay, yet my better half had a similar subject you do she grew to become into referred to with a kin that grew to become into very religious and frowned upon homosexuality because of the fact in the past her cousin had got here out and that they disowned her... It basically particularly relies upon on countless ingredient, yet i in my view think of this is basically the way you have been referred to and the folk around you... you in all probability subconsciously looked at females yet by no skill admitted to your self till you have been old adequate to know...
2016-11-23 14:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to butt out. Trying to 'cure' her is akin to trying to make a left handed child right handed. You bet you can make her write with that other hand with enough punishment, but it lead to all kinds of other problems. If you're really a friend educate yourself.
2006-12-23 17:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by jane7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She Should tell you to get away from her. You are trying to hurt her. Denying herself will only hurt her, causing her mental and emotional pain. You are no friend. If you were you would tell her she is normal and does not need to live her live as a lie
2006-12-23 16:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is NOT abnormal! Some friend you are if you can't accept her for who she is!
2006-12-23 15:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by theP0OCH 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It must be so so sad to live in such a miserable existance.
2 words: Seek Help!
2006-12-23 14:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her nothing is wrong with her, because there isn't. If she's not going to accept herself for who she is, nobody else will.
2006-12-23 14:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by ☆Tąrą☆ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋