I want to ask my girlfriend to marry me...but i want to ask her parents for their permisson?

Question

who is the right person to ask? the mom, the dad, or both at the same time..or both at diff. times?

Answer 1

their permission? what kind of idea is that? This is the 21st century boy. What will you do if they don't agree? stop seeing her? This decision doesn't concern anyone else but you two, Why try to make anyone else feel like they have anything to say about it; they don't.

Answer 2

I'd ask them both together so neither has hurt feelings. Just make sure that you're 99.999% SURE that your girlfriend will say yes BEFORE you go to the parents. Don't be in a hurry for marriage. Make sure you've both finished your degrees first. Make sure you both have your lives on track, BEFORE you get married. Make sure you are both complete people before you get married and you will have a better shot at a very happy marriage :)
P.S. Don't be in a hurry to have kids either. You'll need to get to know each other as a married couple first. That way you'll have a better shot of being happy parents too. Good luck and congrats!

Answer 3

Depends on the Family.... if they seem old fashioned ask just the dad. Asking them both at the same time may be nice as well.. but more nerve wracking for you.

My husband asked my father before marrying me, and my dad really thought it was gentlmanly of him. Showed him what a great guy he was, and that he really deserved to be with me.

Good Luck !

Answer 4

Ask both of the parents at the same time, if they are both married. Follow your heart, in matters like these you can only do what you think is best for your situation. If your intentions are good and you really love her and want to be with her for the rest of your life, you cant go wrong. Go for it!! God bless....

Answer 5

Well your a good man for asking. It's becoming more and more popular to just disregard asking the parents. As for asking I would say both of them. They both raised their daughter and I'm sure it is equally important to both of them if you ask both of them. As far as tradition goes though it's generally the father you ask. Hence the reason the Dad walks the daughter down the aisle to you. He is "giving her away to you" so generally you have to ask to be given something. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Traditionally you would ask her father. This is because he is the one who provides for the family. You ask the father because you would be taking over that responsibility. However, if her parents are divorced, I would go with she lives with/raised by.
I personally went through this 6 months ago. My fiancée’s parents are divorced, she lives with her mother, so I arranged a lunch meeting with her mother and asked her.

I wish you the best of luck and Merry Christmas

Answer 7

Traditionally you'd ask the father. My boyfriend told me he was going to ask my for permission to marry me from my 17 year old son...how sweet is that?

I think in this day and age, it'd be ok to ask them both at the same time (assuming they are still married).

Good luck!

Answer 8

If they are still married, I would say ask both at the same time, it shows respect. If not, work out times with each to ask, don't say who you went to first.

Answer 9

I would ask them both, at the same time, in person.
Good luck and good going! You are doing the right thing to ask permission. Just make sure you ask her soon afterward so they don't let the secret slip.

Answer 10

I wouldn't so much ask for permission as I would ask for a blessing. You should approach both of her parents, tell them what you are going to do, and then say you'd like their blessing. It's a sign of respect, which gives you no room for a 'no' or awkwardness on anyone's part.

Good luck.

Answer 11

Traditionally you are supposed to ask the father but if the parents are seperated then which ever parents has taken care of her more then I think I would ask them, you could have them come to a dinner that you pay for and then bring it up...