I don't want to be an alcoholic, but I am one, how can I become a reformed character?

Answer 1

The only way is to stop drinking.

I see many people have suggested AA; AA has a 5% success rate, the same as trying to quit on your own. If you make the decision to quit, you can do it in or out of the rooms.

Answer 2

This is the way I look at addiction and how people handle it. Some people just stop because they see that it isn't producing healthful results in their lives.
Some people find that surrounding themselves with sober alcoholics on a regular basis helps curb the desire to drink.
Some people use the 12 step program ~Meetings, sponsor, working the 12 steps, and service to other alcoholics~ and that works for them.
Some people honor themselves and their desire to succeed enough to stop drinking. They get a goal.
And then there are some people who never stop drinking... and they die or kill someone else. They also leave a lot of damaged loved ones behind when they go.
The point I'm trying to make is that you have to find what works for you and not allow other people to tell you what it is that will work for you. Finding that can involve trying and trying again. If you seek diligently and stay on course with your desire to stop drinking, you will find what you are looking for. You have a far greater chance of staying sober if you don't drink. Sometimes it's just that simple.
You know, I've known people who just stopped, and others who died because they didn't stop. So... stop.

Answer 3

You have admitted you need help so you have started on the road to becoming that reformed character. I grew up with an alcoholic father and know first hand the living Hell he brought on us and his family. No one could help him until he admitted he needed help. He went to AA and was a changed man. He slipped now and then during treatment but he finally made it. Please, please try AA. God bless and keep you.

Answer 4

Have you tried to find any groups in your area? Its good to know you have someone to call if you feel you may relapse once you've started to recover. AA is religion-based "accepting a higherpower" sort of thing. If you believe in that then AA might be a good place to start. Its not really that bad at all, beats a DUI or losing your job and family. You have to really want to get better and seek medical help if it applies, otherwise it will not work.

Answer 5

YOU are the ONLY one who can turn your life around. AA does help to give the support your gonna need, but YOU have to be the one who decides that YOU are sick and tired of BEING sick and tired. The road is not going to be easy, but if you have the determination you will succeed.

Answer 6

It's possible to put the condition into remission. If you're an alcoholic- only you would know for sure. There is a way out of the cycle- it is not easy, but it can be accomplished. Cold Turkey is one way, but very difficult for a true alcoholic. Like the others have suggested, try AA- there are meetings everywhere at all hours of the day. It Works! You have to want to stop drinking. You may need to be hospitalized in dire situations...delirium tremens, withdrawal, etc.

How it works
1.We admitted that we were powerless over our addiction, that our lives had become unmanageable.
2.We came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3.We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4.We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5.We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6.We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7.We humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8.We made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9.We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10.We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11.We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12.Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
This sounds like a big order, and we can’t do it all at once. We didn’t become addicted in one day, so remember—easy does it.
There is one thing more than anything else that will defeat us in our recovery; this is an attitude of indifference or intolerance toward spiritual principles. Three of these that are indispensable are honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness. With these we are well on our way.
We feel that our approach to the disease of addiction is completely realistic, for the therapeutic value of one addict helping another is without parallel. We feel that our way is practical, for one addict can best understand and help another addict. We believe that the sooner we face our problems within our society, in everyday living, just that much faster do we become acceptable, responsible, and productive members of that society.
The only way to keep from returning to active addiction is not to take that first drug. If you are like us you know that one is too many and a thousand never enough. We put great emphasis on this, for we know that when we use drugs in any form, or substitute one for another, we release our addiction all over again.
Thinking of alcohol as different from other drugs has caused a great many addicts to relapse. Before we came to NA, many of us viewed alcohol separately, but we cannot afford to be confused about this. Alcohol is a drug. We are people with the disease of addiction who must abstain from all drugs in order to recover.


The Promises


If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us -- sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them.

Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 83-84

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Answer 7

Go to AA. It has done wonders for my brother, and I would even venture to say accomplished what I thought was the impossible.

I commend you for facing your problems- that takes courage. best of luck to you, and happy holidays.

Answer 8

AA or restricting your intake to a few glasses a week instead of quitting.

Answer 9

join aa like me brother! i;ve found a knew peace and serenity

Answer 10

drink things that taste similar to alcohol