I have gotten myself into the worst position any pregnant women could find herself. This is my story. After five years dating a man who started out being a great guy turned out to be a selfish "you know what". So after getting my degree in massage and trying to make a living where he wanted to be only to find out it wasn't working, I decided to move to a place where I could make a living. 2 weeks before I move I find out I'm pregnant { while on birth control}. So I decide to stay. Now 20 weeks into my pregnancy and he is totally ignoring me. He's rude when he talks to me, he tells his friends I give him no freedoms, and he disapears without saying anything. He has been a great father to my 6 yr. old from before but now what is he doing? This man is 32 and his major goal is getting ****ed up and alcohol and drugs. Now I find myself with really no place to turn no job and no money. What am I to do?
2006-12-23 13:46:11 · 6 answers · asked by babyboyz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just so you all know He is not a drud addict he is more an alcoholic and he wasn't any of it until recently. I didn't meet the man this way I'm not that stupid.
2006-12-23 13:57:39 · update #1
Start making resumes--check in surrounding areas for postings for your background. You won't be pregnant forever---plan for your future--stick with this guy until you can find daycare for your kids and try to make the best of the situation while you are there. Good father or not someone that just gets *****ed up is not a good example---children mimic what they see(later in life)
Is he saying that the child isn't his? Start gathering information on filing for child support. Good luck to you.
2006-12-23 13:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by MamaCat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide if you have the strength and resources to mother another infant at this point in your life. If not, please go to counseling at a pregnant women's center. They will give you all the help you need to get your life in order and help you make the decision to keep or put the baby up for adoption. There are wonderful agencies in the large major cities that will work hard on your behalf to get you through this difficult time in your life.
Please think of yourself, your 6 year old and the growing life you are carrying. This man might be 32, but he does not sound responsible or mature enough to father two children.
Get back on your feet with the help of social services, the church or your family. Forget that man.
Look within yourself. You are strong enough to go to school. You can depend on using your training to get a good job once you focus on all you need to do.
Good Luck. You deserve better than worrying about a man who wants to indulge in irresponsible behavior.
C-F
2006-12-23 21:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what Im getting is youre staying with him because you dont have the money to get out of it? Have you tried really having a hard talk with him? Is he being a jerk for a reason? Is he mad that youre pregnant?
I dont think its smart to live with a guy filled with anger and alcohol, especially with children in the matter.
2006-12-23 21:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been able to understand why women stay in an abusive relationship. Especially when children are involved. He's not fit to be with you and your child. You deserve the best a loving man can give you and your kid. Leave!
2006-12-23 21:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by cswint2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your silly head out of your *** and start acting like an adult and a parent. How can you even say that an alcoholic and drug addict is/was a great father to your child? How could you even bring your child into a home with such a person? Get out, get out now.
2006-12-23 21:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you must deide whether as man is worth it to stay with if he is harming the welfare of your happiness and your children. No man is ever worth being unhappy over. If he is with you then he is with you. if he isnt then get rid of him this is advice from a man
2006-12-23 21:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by lorneandtee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋