I had a boyfriend and we decided to finish the relationship, on july 31 we had sex for the last time and part separate ways. I was very deppresed and one night my exhusband came to my house. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex (this was on August 9). On August 31 I found out I was pregnant, but I havent had my period since june because I am very irregular. My doctor made an ultrasound and told me my due date was April 25, 2007. But then I had another ultrasound that said my due date really is April 28. I am very confused and sad. I honestly never thought I will be in this position because I am not that kind of woman, but I could not think of abort. Please help me, I am desperate !!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-23 13:13:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Science & Mathematics ➔ Alternative ➔ Other - Alternative
10 days is not enough time to differentiate who the father is using due date. Unless there is an uncommon blood group in one of the men, that method may not be accurate, either.
But I imagine what you really want to know is - "How can I find out who the father is without telling them both that I am pregnant, and that they need to donate a sample for testing?"
I assume you want to know so that you are reasonably sure that you can go up to him and say "I am pregnant, you are the father", and not go through the embarrassment of being wrong?
DNA sampling will be the only sure way. But getting a sample from one or both men may be possible without their knowledge. If you have a hair brush, razor or other personal item that only they used, this could have DNA sample on it. If it is not being used for legal purposes, it could be done in a specialised lab, at your expense, and be compared to the baby's DNA after it is born. The comparison can then either exclude or confirm that man as the father.
The other option, if you already have children with your ex-husband, is to compare their DNA with the baby's.
Good luck.
2006-12-23 14:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by Labsci 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Considering that you did not have any more sexual contact for the past weeks before July 31st, I would say that the parent of that unborn baby be your boyfriend's. You can definitely get a more accurate result by asking your doctor about conception time.
The reason for me choosing the father as your boyfriend is because normally it would take about 3 - 5 weeks to determine whether you are pregnant. Counting back from the day that had sex with your ex-husband, it is only about 22 days which is slightly more than 3 weeks. Then considering the time required for the sperm to "swim" to fallopian tube and so on, it could be just about 20 or less days. So, I would presume that chances for your ex-husband to father the child is lesser.
Well... I am not a priest or what, so whether or not you want to keep the child, it's entirely up to you. If you want an alternative to DNA test, that would be blood test but chances are it is less accurate.
2006-12-23 15:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by PIPI B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm guessing that she had her period on the 4th of April? If she's got a 28 day cycle, she's ovulating somewhere between the 12th and 16th day of her cycle which would put her ovulating anywhere between the 16th and the 20th to where either of you could be the potential father, but you had sex with her twice in that period, so there's a good 75% chance that the baby is yours. You all will have to wait until the baby is born to be absolutely sure.
2016-05-23 02:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say your ex-husband. According to a certain website, they say that it should be about 38 weeks after that "day". So counting back 38 weeks from estimated due date (April 28), it's on the week of August 9.
2006-12-23 15:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by jubbablumberin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you rule out DNA testing? It is the most reliable.
Blood test can also give you an answer, but that depends on which kind of blood your two partners have. In some cases you may get no positive answer from that.
2006-12-23 14:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by PragmaticAlien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your doctor should be able to tell you how many days have passed since conception time. Ask him/her about that , and that way you should know. I know this because a friend of mine went through the same thing and that's how she was able to identify the fther.
2006-12-23 13:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by chicksliketoshop 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do a blood test on the fetus, they can usually tell from the blood type if your two partners had different blood types. It doesn't always work, but might in your case.
2006-12-23 13:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-23 14:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by adrian b 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋