It seems like the only logical thing to do, especially when the girl is 16 or younger. And maybe 'Mr. Impregnator' is nowhere to be found. There are thousands of nice married couples who can't make a baby & they would provide for it well. While a young girl can't provide much of anything & it just seems so selfish to keep it.
2006-12-23 13:09:49 · 23 answers · asked by scaredeycat 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I'm adopted. Successful (despite being on Yahoo! answers). I found my birth mother and she is happy that I was well raised. So please, no dumpsters :)
2006-12-23 13:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It sure is. I think that is a horrible thing to do. These teenagers do not know a thing about life but they think they know it all. They either do something stupid like throw it in a dumpster or recently that story on the news about the teenager who gave birth and then threw the baby out the window into the courtyard. I totally agree with the fact that there are married couples who cannot conceive. I have an aunt like that who is dying for a baby. I let her babysit for my 4 month old while I go to work. Anyway these babies having babies thing is not cool because even the ones that do keep the babies look stupid and they think they are playing house.
2006-12-27 12:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by Crash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alas, it is only logical to you, unless of course you were/are a teenager who has/will give up there child for adoption, otherwise.... I myself know & think it is the "Fear Factor" Of course it is so easy to say Why do they do the things they do ? The biggest problems are teens are so afraid to face what anyone would have to say about the "mistake they make" and more over the fact of diasspointing a parent or whomever takes care of them, or even the scareiness of not knowing what to do due to not have the right info given to them.
I myself was face with predicament when I was 19 it would been so much easier to have an abortion, but I didn't feel right doing that and then I could have ran away and have done 1 of 20 - 30 diffrent things with the baby ( if hopspitals had there "safe drops' I might have very well done that).
Instead, the conclusion I came to after talking to as many ppl outside of my family about adoption. I talked to some people and figured out my plan, I am glad I was able to obtain info and get ppl behind me so to be able to handle my family ( even tho I got kicked out anyway) but the fact remains that I had ppl to help me out.
I know there are tons of girls out there who would rather die before dissapointing someone else ( which for the life of me I can't explain away except the issue lying within how there family life is )and then there are the ignorant and some that don't feel like it is there baby these r the ones who just don't think ( and denying) , and that my friend is sad,
I mean really did you ever try to be be logical with a 14-16 year old about something as trivial as feeding a dog everyday....? I know it sound off topic, but here I have a niece she is in the age range, and she complains ( I mean seriously whines and the whole nine about feeing there family dog) so I sit there and ask her would it be ok if I didn't cook dinner for you tonight ? or not make breakfast in the morning ? ( she does not use the stove) I mean if you had to (fully)depend on me or your mother to feed you wouldn't it suck ? you might starve if I decided it was a waste of time to feed you cause it is more work for me for no reason and I told her it was unfair to think that it would be ok for the dog to go with out food or water for ther night ( of course I would not let that happen), but it is her chore in the house... ) anyway so she cried histerically then the whole ohh aunt I will feed him every night and not complain and so on and so forth... and what happened the next day she complained the whole time ....
I don't know if I lost you in the scene of it all..... my point being my niece can't fathom why it is important for a dog to eat everyday. do you really think they are going to fathom why they should "do the right thing" with a baby that they have probably been denying for the past 9 months
So my end to this is I am happy to say I were not one of those teen to be ingnorant, but I have a son ( with a great family, that I chose) and this is because not of logic, but because I thought there had to be a better way even after having all the other thoughts to process
So does this make any sence ? and I hope it answers your question
2006-12-23 21:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by drkbabe73 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are absolutely right however if these girls are getting pregnant something is obviously not right in the first place. Many girls are not well informed about procedures and dont want complications. They want to get back to the life they had before pregnancy. Also everyone has access to a dumpster but those from poorer families are usually not near adoption agencies or even hospitals. It really has nothing to do with selfishness however. Its more fear that puts these babies in dumpsters.
2006-12-23 22:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by grl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be selfish for the 16 year old to keep their child.. i am pretty sure they should have the right to keep it without being selfish. I know there are tons of older adults wishing to adopt b/c they can't have their own. But why would you call them selfish if they want to keep their child. And I am not saying abortion is good.. but i'm not saying its bad.. by why would you want your 12 year old daughter carrying full term just so she can adopt??? She would be made fun of, riduculed, talked very bad about and have lots of ppl hounding her. That is what parents are for too... to help them with the responsiblity.. whether it was due to rape or the girls negligence at having sex without protection and crap. You can't call them selfish for keeping their child though... yes to place their child in adoption is ten times better than putting that child in a dumpster... I wish our teeny boppers and our next generation children were alot smarter now a days... i'm tired of seeing some 11 or 12 year old pregnant b/c they are already sexually active and they are out having multiple partners but not doing anything about safe sex and taking precautions and going out there and having like 6 abortions before they decide to actually have a child of their own.. there would have been 6 happy couples to take their children for them... but also like i said... who would want to have that 11 or 12 year old carry full term and go through with that in their life... so i am completely for you and against you at the same time... but i don't agree with your selfishness b/c they do decide to be mature and keep their child and raise them... that is there choice and no one elses.
2006-12-23 21:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I suspect the reason they do it is because they are afraid of what their parents would do to them if the parents found out their underage daughter was pregnant.
The other part being, it is very risky for a young girl to give birth, it can lead to complications and even place the life of the mother at risk especially if she is very small in size.
Sex is not for children, it should be reserved for mature adults alone.
2006-12-24 01:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm responding to the last part of your question: So it's selfish for a girl to keep her baby?! WTF?! Obviously you've never had a kid. You've never known what it's like to grow a baby inside of you for nine months, to bond with it, to give birth to it, and then to feel a crazy rush of love for this tiny human being that you created. You have no idea how unbeliveably hard it would be to turn around and give that child to someone else. How dare you say it's selfish for teen to not give up her baby! Newsflash: It's her baby! When you experience pregnancy and childbirth, then you have the right to say something to thoughtless and cruel!
2006-12-23 23:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by alimagmel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um, because sometimes they want them and can provide good care. Because the foster care system is unfortunately warped in some areas. Because there are too many kids in the system already and if those "nice married couples" really want a kid then they should do the world a favor and adopt one that is not a baby instead of trying to find teenagers to get babies from.
2006-12-23 21:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by redzodd 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yeah but trying to convince a teen-age girl to give her baby up for adoption is like telling her to protect her self from getting pregnant in the first place. You can't win they don't listen!
2006-12-23 22:08:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Amen...I got pregnant at 16 and gave my son up for adoption. I can tell you it was a very hard thing to do and that might be the reason that young girls do not place children up for adoption very frequently. I can tell you that both my son and I are better people because of this. He is wonderful as am I.
2006-12-27 15:11:14 · answer #10 · answered by sydney72103 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you even begin to imagine how hard it would be to give a baby away that you created knowing that this human being is a part of you, i don't think so. I am 16 and I know i could never do that.
2006-12-24 01:58:21 · answer #11 · answered by luvmyboy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋