When women get married, or move in with their men, do they just stop trying, because they dont need to anymore

Question

Been a lot of jokes about this like "Why does a bride smile as she walks up the aisle?......... because she knows she's given her last blowj0b"
But is there any truth in it?
EG
they dont make the same effort they used to in things like presentation, sex, keeping in a good humour, being attentive to their man
What do you all think?

MEGAN
Get some sleep hun
No-one minds that
If you're tired that's ok

ASKAWAY
That's a really good point

WOW, THERE IS A REALLY GOOD BALANCE OF VIEWS HERE, ESPECIALLY FROM THE WOMEN

SANTAS ELF
You are pent up and angry about something. Don't blame it on me. you know nothing about me. I am nothing like you just described. Your daughter would be made the happiest woman alive if she ever married me. I would make sure of that

PANDORA
You think like a man
If you and you fella ever split up, will you marry me?

COOL, EVERYONE SEEMS SO SWITCHED ON TO THIS, THERE IS HOPE AFTERALL, MAKES ME SMILE

SSTUBBS30
Only a question, dont launch at me, however I do agree it comes from both sides and the tiredness is a factor. Just so much to do isn't there

KAREN W
You really have it sussed. it was so simple, the visual needs of a man, and you have yours happy and attentative to you
Top woman you are

SAM W
Great Answer, lots of good points.
I actually never stopped desiring my girl and my passion for her only ever invreased the longer we went on, I never stopped trying to please her, (however so did the frustration).
You sound switched on and happy. I am glad

Answer 1

Unfortunately, I think that our culture trains us (through the media) that if a woman adhere's to a certain prototype, she will be that girl in all the brides magazines that sell a certain lifestyle. Many girls are brainwashed into wanting to be a "bride" as early as pre-school. We are taught that a sexy, young, slender, attractive women has what it takes to lure a man into marriage and qualify for a ring that is at least 3times his monthly salary!!! After all the wedding fanfare, the fact is that you are now married to each other and have to begin a "real" life.
I think our society is very hypocritical when it comes to relationships and marriage. Who ever said that a woman who becomes a mother has to bundle up in her own household? Why do we refuse to allow a mom to be sexy too? (At least in her own home) I think that mom's need to teach their daughter's the real deal about sexuality, marriage and motherhood. Most mom's act like they we sooooooo different from their daughter's and let the girls learn the hard way. I agree that many women forget about "presentation" after a long day at the office, or a longer day caring for children, but since men are such visual and simple creatures, I think the extra effort has to be made to at least be pretty, clean and soft for your husband. And like someone else said, when you're married, you should feel comfortable enough to make love with abandon even more so then when you were single. And a smile lights up any woman's face! If women could just learn these simple things they could wrap a man around their fingers a thousand times over.

Answer 2

Oh, and men don't do this as well?!?!?! How many men act exactly as they did before they got married? Very few. Like it or not, it is human nature to get somewhat complacent and comfortable in marriage for BOTH partners, not just the wife. I think the thing that changes the most for the wife is brought on by becoming a mother. Which absolutely wears a woman out. Perhaps if both men and women understood each other a little better and both were more understanding and forgiving there would be less of this particular attitude.

Answer 3

Been married for quite a long time - of the 20 or guys I have known for over 2 decades, I would say this is true in about 6 out of every 7 cases. In other words, about 85%.

If you get one of the 1 in 7 women, you will be happy forever. But most put sex on the far back burner once they are married.

Answer 4

Well, I never really tried to be anything. I was always myself with any lover I had and now that my current lover lives with me, I just walk around naked more often. When we first started dating, I'd answer the door in my pajamas and not cute pjs either. Big ugly pj pants and a big ugly hoody making me look about 50 lbs heavier than I really am hahaha because I'm a skinny little girl under all this clothing. I never wear make up. I don't really need it. I love sex. Humour is my second nature and being attentive to my lover just comes naturally 'cause well he's my lover and I'd want the same. I have been told that I am a weird one though.

As for housework and cooking or children? Probably one of the first things I said to my lover was, "I don't clean often. I don't cook; I microwave or order pizza and children are such a buzz kill." He's usually the one who cooks and cleans. :)

Answer 5

I think everyone makes a change. I had the most wonderful bf ever! We moved in w/ each other and had 2 kids and he now thinks that I am his personal maid/cook.
He use to be so kind giving, but now he is awful! I wouldn't mind giving blow jobs if he would stop acting like I'm hired help! I haven't changed at all, if anything after kids I want sex more than before, and he's like a ***** holding it back from me! He's tired or doesn't feel good? what the hell!

Answer 6

in my experience it's usually the men that do this. e.g. you'll see very many more flabby blokes than you will flabby ladies, and it's always the women going on about cleaning up and toilet seats and all that...

This is the reason why nature evolved jealousy into our lives.

Some people need to feel the pinch of it before they work out that heir partners are human beings and need to be respected as such, and just because she's not going anywhere doesn't mean you have to relax so hard you encroach on her quality of life.

That's why I think jealousy if it's needed is not a bad thing. it's there for a purpose and while perhaps it's not pleasant, it's nature's way of saying "mate! look after your mate!"

Answer 7

hi i was married for 16 yrs and dont like it at all iv now been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs and would go to the end of the world for him
i have put 3 stone on since we met and i dont shave my legs every day any more sex is still great which we have about 5 times a week i dont know if its because i think iv got him now or because i feel right with him i can be myself and its ok
i never had that was my hubby i may have been alot thiner but i was never happy

Answer 8

No, I think it is because men like you make rude remarks and stop trying themselves. Maybe having to work, take care of the house and the kids and anything else the "man" doesn't do leaves her with no time for herself. What about men changing their type of humor, being attentive to their woman, being gentle and caring when it comes to lovemaking (not sex as you put it). Boy, you are the type of man I am glad that my daughter did not marry or that I did not marry or my mother did not marry.

Answer 9

I have to admit this is a good question. Some girls feel like they don't need to be attentive to their spouse after marriage since they got what they wanted from them. Where other feel like after a while they get tired or becomes dull to them. However, some do still treat their spouse the same as they did when dating. But sometimes its not just wives who stop being attentive, husbands are the same too. if your wife feels like she's not appreciated anymore the feelings will be mutual. Sometimes both spouses have to look back on the day they be came one and remember what they vowed that day to each other and what brought them there..

Answer 10

It's a sad fact, but yes, MOST women figure if I can get taht ring, this poor sucker is mine. BUt wahts even sadder is that society has everything backwards about female sexuality.

Women are their slutiest (hey, ima girl to, stfu..) before they are married and when they are looking for their mate, right? Now, I'm not saying that you should be a prude or anything BEFORE you get married. NOW, when you DO get married, women dress up like eskimo's and think that because they have "wife" status, they don't have to be sexy, cute, and have sex.

BUT in reality it should be the other way around. The single woman should be more moderate before marriage and that wild kinky sl*t when she's hitched!! Just because you are "married" doesn't mean you have to fall into this horride steryotype that you h ave to act proper in the bedroom. NO!! Thats one reason you got hitched, was the have sex..right?

Same thing with cooking, and hosuework, and everything else. We try so hard to impress our men, and trick him into thinking that we are going to be like that till we die!

I can't speak for every women, but it's so sad that we act like this! I treat my man with the FULL respect he deserves and in turn, he treats me like a Goddess.....