Do you all think giving a 15 year old a baby shower is appropriate? I asked this question because a friend of mine refused to let her daughter attend her teen friend's baby shower recently. My friend felt that the pregnant teen's family members are celebrating that the 15 year old is pregnant. What do you all think?
2006-12-23 12:57:48 · 36 answers · asked by Shay 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Karaboo and Heartless Vampire, please re-read my question. You both are not answering the question correctly. Your responses has nothing to do with what I asked. Thanks.
2006-12-24 13:20:06 · update #1
I think it is a sensitive subject...
If she is keeping the baby, there will be a lot of things she will need and she will need a lot of support. Criticism and judgement will not change the situation she is in; and she is most likely already under a lot of scrutiny and stress.
I don't feel like that shower should be with her same age peers (Parents of the friends will not want their daughters to go, because they don't want that situation to look "okay"); rather relatives, neighbors, and close family friends.
She did make a mistake; it shouldn't be "celebrated", but she needs to know that she is still loved and that these are the people to turn to for advice. One of the activities could be a notebook of advice (helpful advice, not sarcastic or critical...) and they could list their phone numbers in the event that she has questions in the future.
2006-12-23 13:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should have a baby shower, just like a grown-up woman when she has a baby. A teenager, more than anyone, will need the gifts anyway. The gifts are for the baby's use and they make the mother's life easier. A teenager will need all the help she can get, and that means not only the gifts themselves but the emotional support of family and friends.
2006-12-23 13:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there's nothing wrong with attending a baby shower for a 15 year old. Lets say it was the other way around and it was your daughter would you give her a baby shower???? Sometimes people gotta remember that when you throw a baby shower you're celebrating a new life whose is not at fault...
2006-12-23 13:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by NENA 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well as long as she knows that its wrong, then i think she should be ok, becuase I belive that she is giving her friend help and support yet still learning an lesson of how hard it is to be an pregnant teenager. If she is excluded from this, she will never learn, so let her go to the baby shower just to welcome her to the real world. It will probally be hard for the mother but it will all add up in life for her at the end of it all, maybe then when she is about to lay on her back she will think about how hard it is for her friend.
2006-12-23 15:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by tryisha s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a pregnant teen needs all the help she can get. A life should be celebrated. This teen is going to have a very hard life from now on, she deserves a little help and fun. I think her family is just trying to make the best of a bad situation.
2006-12-23 13:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
A 15 year old NEEDS help with baby things. The baby shower is appropriate and necessary.
2006-12-23 13:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A baby shower is not only to celebrate, but to prepare for an upcoming child. Who needs help and support more than an unwed teenage? They need to know that their friends and family aren't going to drop them because they made a mistake.
2006-12-23 13:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it is appropriate since no one is perfect. So what if she is 15 years old. This is her first child so is titled to a baby shower. I think it is great that her family is there for her.
2006-12-23 13:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by Lynn 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I also think that a baby shower is a way to celebrate the pregancy of a women and a baby shower would not be the way to go with a 15 year old teen! its just not appropriate why should you be celebrating the pregnacy of a teen? being pregnact as a teen isnt good at all unless she happen to get raped! and if that girls goes to the pregnact girls baby shower she will be tempted to go and try to have a baby now that she is seeing that her family is celebrating the pregnacy! you do not want your family to go around negative things such as that!
2006-12-23 13:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I can see both sides of this, but of all the people that get pregnant who can least afford to go out to buy all that is needed ?a teenager. so a shower really is needed. I think that a shower is still appropriate.
2006-12-23 13:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by Pandora 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋