a few months back and he went with a bunch of friends who are mostly single and the 1's who do have gf's cheated on them!
i feel he cheated i found messages from a girl and he told me it was from his friend who used his phone. she knew his name and he says he dont know her, her name, or what she looks like!
i dont believe it and dont want to be taken as a fool! he started going to porn sites a few months b4 the trip and i told him there nothing wrong with that i like it too but he says it wasnt him it was his friend i dont want to be married any more i never cheated on him i have self control! i guess it bothers me cause i never been on a plane and we didnt take a honeymoon and he goes and take a vacation with his male whores!
2006-12-23 12:56:32 · 19 answers · asked by dominicana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I certainly think some serious communication between you two is in order. Things won't get any better until you talk this out with him and find out what is going on and all. Understand what he is doing and help him understand how you feel about it. Open the lines of communication and things will be effective then.
2006-12-23 13:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by ravensfan172003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's amazing how something as harmless as a little porn will fester in a relationship and very soon become an incurable cancer. Learn from your mistakes! Porn is never the answer. Porn is always a beginning to an end. Let it in just a little? There is no just a little in this cancer. It's more addictive than drugs, and easier to obtain. Now you have lost trust. No way to point the finger because you don't have proof, yet. Now what? Tell me was porn worth it now? Listen, this isn't you fault. Well, maybe just a little since you allowed it. But, he's an adult. He must live with his choices. Can you overcome this problem? Yes. At least make him give you the friends name and in front of him, call this friend. This way if you are right he can't deny it, if you are wrong and he didn't cheat, you can show him what happens when you hang around the wrong kind of people. Association implies guilt!
2006-12-23 13:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds very suspicious.
It's the girl's messages on the phone that a big tip off that the guy is more likely sleeping around.
It also seems weird that he tried to say it was his friends porn, if you are cool with it. But that might be because a lot a of women don't like the ideal of their men looking at porn.
but their is the chance that he was doing more then just looking at porn.
2006-12-23 13:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by goldenbrowngod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart to heart with him. To me, it's obvious that he's lied to you about her. Now whether he actually cheated on you we don't know. Maybe you should try to call her and question her, if she'll talk to you. Of course that may cause trouble...but at least you'll learn more about what happened. If you feel that you can't trust him, then the best thing to do is divorce him. It would be better to get a divorce than to be miserable. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-23 13:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that he is acting like a single guy. If your married and continue with the marriage be prepared to be left alone a lot now that he set the tone for that. Married people do not vacation seperatly with their single buddies. What is with that? It would bother me too dear lady. Get out while you have your self esteem and self worth. I'd bet you can do much better without him.
2006-12-23 13:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like he did something. I know lots of couples who've had this problem before and have stayed together. You cannot just let his cheating go, by pretending it never happened. You have to have him admit it, apologize, and promise not to have it happen again.
2006-12-23 13:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it sounds like you know EXACTLY what the situation is. He's busted, and you have to either confront him or risk being stuck accepting this kind of role. I don't think anyone wants that except him. Call him on it.
2006-12-23 13:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by obligatorycleverusername 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound stupid on his excuse of friend using his phone to SMS. Well, I would never believe this story. Go striaght to the point and ask him again who is this woman, there is no point holding all your feeling as it go worst and you lost trusth in him.
2006-12-23 13:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by vosy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you. It's time to go out sluttin around. Vengence is the only solution for these types of situations.
2006-12-23 12:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though you are bitter about what your husband did and that you have made up your mind to divorce him. If this is what you want then do it and don't look back.
2006-12-23 13:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋