it's not about me its advice for a friend who needs my help....
2006-12-23 12:48:25 · 25 answers · asked by LaDy In ReD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tie his nuts to the back of my pick up truck and put the pedal to the medal !!! while singing "whos sorry now?"
2006-12-23 13:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by rev. needy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would jump for joy. It would give me a valid moral reason for leaving my wife and I wouldn't owe any alimony. For your friend however it may be different. Asking advise on the net isn't going to get you answers. No one here knows the history, why the spouse cheated, what the relationship was like. Tell your friend to do what is best for them. Make a decision based on their needs. once a cheater usually a cheater but not always. Can they live with it. do they think it will happen again? Can they stand the pain if it happens again? These are questions your friend will have to answer for themself.
2006-12-23 21:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends, if its a brokeback thing, definitely get out of the relationship. If its just a run of the mill type well, ignoring the situation doesnt make it go away. There are alternatives such as counseling. Dont just walk away thinking that the other person is just a whore. It could be that the other partner is actually missing something in the relationship, but can get it elsewhere. Either fill the gap, or divorce.
2006-12-23 20:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not ask any questions. I would not hesitate. I would simply end the relationship and do as much damage to their $ situation as I possible could. This is not being vindictive. This is teaching an important lesson that must be learned. If life with me was so bad then leave me first. This at least teaches me a lesson that I'm a lousy husband and I better change or accept the single life. Cheating! That is unacceptable.
2006-12-23 20:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have to agree with the other answers I read,,, You took the vows and you should stand be them.. No ones should be cheated on after receiving those vows from their partners but it does happen.. some marraiges can be fixed with couseling but I think that will always be back in the mind of the spouse that was cheated on. Good luck with your friend but I would try to stay out of it as well ,,,, It will have to be her decision
2006-12-23 20:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by patrick c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you what I did-leave him-based solely on the fact that I know myself well enough to know that even if I forgive, I rarely forget. Also, he had cheated on his first wife and I knew this. Past actions usually predict future actions. This is strictly an individualized thing and no one can tell someone else what to do or even give advice. Only listen and be there, they will eventually figure out what is best for them to do.
2006-12-23 21:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by regenald123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my six older brothers.And they would kick the crap out of him.Them I would divorce him and keep the house,kid,new truck,and anything else I want or I will let them kick the crap out of him daily until he signs it over to me.I don't play with liars,cheaters or abusers.I a man is sorry enough to cheat on his wife.He deserves to get beat down.Us wife's or Even Husbands shouldn't have to worry about getting something that will kill us from our own spouse because they have a problem being faithful.
2006-12-23 21:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters never change. A wandering eye will always be that way. I would tell your friend to dump the lout ASAP. Get shed of the excess baggage and start over.
2006-12-23 20:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get proof. Try marriage counseling. If the spouse won't go or take the marriage counseling seriously...DIVORCE. The Judges hate cheaters!
2006-12-23 20:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would really depend on how he responded when he was confronted about it. if he lied, wasn't repentive, wasn't willing to be accountable or not wanting forgiveness, or justified his actions by blaming her for his choices, than theres nothing to do but move on. if he is sorry, and this isn't a pattern of behavior out of him, than if this is his first time, and he is willing to make amends than give him another chance.
2006-12-23 21:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's no big deal. He probably loves his wife, but wants something new on the side. Can't blame him for that. Try eating the samething everyday for the rest of your life. It's tough and something new on the menu is nice.
2006-12-23 20:57:14 · answer #11 · answered by realist1100 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋