my best friend broke my heart. I dont want to fall in love again and dont really see it happening again because people are basically just assholes.
2006-12-23 12:38:52 · 28 answers · asked by jelliclecatharsis 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I never want to fly again, it scares me to death, but I will eventually because it is so thrilling. The sun will still come up tomorrow, and the next day...
2006-12-23 13:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by Clrinsight 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is alot of people that don't wont to fall in love again because they have had there heart ripped out an thrown away by pathetic people...Most the time though in the long run you will get past that, as you will probably find someone that you connect with wonderfully. Someone that is everything you could ask for in a person. You just got to give it time and don't rush into things when you are trying to find someone. Take things slow to figure out if you believe they are the one for you. But anyways it is very normal but like I said you will most likely get over the fear of getting into serious relations again. Hope this helps.
2006-12-23 20:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really stomped on your heart after ripping it out of your chest. You don't think you can ever enjoy anything ever again. You'll never experience fun or pleasure. You don't care if if you eat again. You don't give a flyin' **ck if you cause anyone else the same hurt you feel right now. You are the only person in the whole world who has ever felt this crappy.
At least you think so.
You're not. Listen to everyone above who asks you to be patient. You'll get over this.
2006-12-24 02:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lookin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal. I feel like that right now in fact. Those of us who have been hurt like that will always carry a little something with us that will make us uneasy about falling in love again.
I've even talked myself into never being with anyone again and that I'm perfectly happy on my own, because I don't need anyone. I'm stronger than that...I'm my own person.
There will be people that say you'll get over it...and you might...but you might not. Depends on how bad you've been hurt, but we really don't NEED a partner or lover. We just need friends, people to talk to. Everything else...is just extra...
2006-12-23 20:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing you are hurting. The best advice I can give is to take things one day at a time. You need to keep your mind occupied. You will think of her especially if you really loved her and gave your all to her for her to just stab you in the back. However you will live and breath without her. You just have to stay close to friends and start worrying about yourself. It good to be generous to others, but if your future relationship always remember to look out for yourself. Promise that yourself that you will take care of you first. You will get through this it just will take some time. Find people to go online and talk to and get out there and date but don't foolishly go out there on the rebound just make some new friends okay. I promise you it will be just fine, and someone will come along and be there for you. I hope this helps if you need to contact me feel free.
2006-12-25 16:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by sexxy_fem1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only natural to want to not get hurt like that again by swearing off love. While it is better than becoming a huge s l u t by acting-out sexually in vain attempts to escape the heartache, hopefully you will grow to realize that in the long-run, it was all for the best as you will one day in the future find a love that is worth waiting for. Sometimes love hurts and other times it can heal too!
2006-12-23 21:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by taowhore 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are not "aholes." Some people are, most people are not unless they have a reason. When your hurt, its just easy to categorize everyone the same. I agree, just don't date for a while or even think about it. Get over the hurt, put it behind you and sooner or later the urge to date will return on its on (or not). If the people your around truly are *holes, find a new place to hang out.
2006-12-23 22:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear jelliclecatharsis,
This is normal, sadly. I was deeply hurt but not in your way. It took me ages to open my heart but I can say I will be aware if love or friendship come my way again.
You have taken a great step in discussing your feelings. Don't let your days pass in a grey haze,
Go for walks, Open your eyes and see everyday things.
Thinking of you especially at this lime.
Rose P.
2006-12-23 21:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by rose p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. You're in the grieving stage. Eventually, someone else will make your heart beat fast again and you'll recover. Even when you do fall in love again, you will have fights and experience ups and downs.
2006-12-23 21:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can completely understand the feeling and it is normal to feel that way for a while after you have been hurt it just takes time before you feel that you will be able to feel love again but don't worry things can be slow moving when it comes to love but i hope that you are alright, just try to keep your head up. i do know your feelings and it depends on who you are if you feel that love is something you don't want to be involved in for a while then that is completely normal, good luck with things
2006-12-23 20:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by jordy'stattooangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are not alone. I know I would feel the same as you if my relationship ended. I would date pero never anything serious. If that happens, it wouldnt be soon. Just the thought of going through issues with some one new is not worth the time.
2006-12-23 23:14:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋