advice PLEASE?

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I want to know what I can do now, my partner left me yesterday, RIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS though she said that she wil always love me forever and that she is sorry about leaving me, my mum made comments about her that she hated.....she cried when telling me that she and I wern't together anymore....and it made me feel really sad, angry and hurt....all in one and well now I really just dont know what to do anymore at all, I sent her an email saying that I will always love her, always care about her and that maybe one day we could get back together but right now I just dont know what I can do to cheer myself up and make xmas with the family bearable, it was spose to be with Laura :( now just thinking about what we had planned for tonight.....I dont know what to do now so if anyone could give me some advice that would be great...how to make xmas bearable and what else to do now...thanks all

Mitch :(

I couldn't keep what my mum said within me as otherwise it would eat me up inside....I couldn't lie to Laura I simply couldn't do it, its that simple

she said she would NEVER LEAVE ME EVER and always be there for me, what a lie I think that was now...I am hurt, sad, lost, angry and confused if it makes sense

I feel right now like this thing called life and the world should end, i should have died when little and now I dont know why I didn't, god I feel sad angry hurt and depressed about the world and life

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear about Ur gf, try to talk to her again one more time, tell her that she's in love with you not your mum and the one who's hurt is you not your mum. if nothing changed then just let go and tell her that you will get over her, it won't be easy ...
make new plans with your family and friends, tell your self that it's her lose not yours. if she cares about you being sad on Xmas or hurt she will go back to you but it seems like she cares about her pride more so why would you care you deserve happy Xmas, so make it.
don't give your self a chance to think, spend all the time with your family and your friends, have fun, chat on net, and when she crosses your mind tell your self that you deserve being happy and you are doing what's the best for you.
Good Luck.......Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

Answer 2

Her actions are based on her hurt feelings and leaving was probably her initial reaction. After putting some thought into everything, she may realize that you did nothing wrong. Give her a little time to think things through - once that happens, you may be able to straighten things out. You definitely need to talk to your mother and let her know that it's unacceptable for her to speak about the woman you love in the way that she did. It sounds like you both love each other, so there's a chance you can get back on track. Just remember that no matter what, you'll be okay. You'll either get her back or you will slowly start feeling better, but in any case, things will change one way or another and it's NEVER worth thinking that you're better off not being here.

Answer 3

Well you may not like to hear this right now, but I really don't think it was right for your partner to break up with you before Christmas. I'm trying to understand if she's saying she was breaking up with you because of hateful comments your Mum made or not.
There is a saying that is sometimes hard to do: Sometimes we have to fake it till we make it. So do your best to be kind to others during this season and maybe that will help you. I know how much this hurts.

Answer 4

well first you need to grow some balls and talk to your mom about the comments that she made--it won't make your girlfriend come back but you could tell her that you talked to your mom. it will make her feel a little better. this is really hard subject. yes i'm sure the both of you will love each other forever but if you don't clear up the mom thing now ur relationship will never work with anyone. all you can do now is move on and keep yourself busy. don't think of what could've been. life is constantly changing, but you just have to deal with it and roll with the punches. easier said than done i know.

Answer 5

Mom's will usually find fault with a potential rival any ole way. Your love is young and the words 'forever, always and never' are not concepts they could possibly comprehend. We left them for the angels as they are simply not possible for mankind. We wish but that's like wishing for christmas past.

Now with that in mind, I think the best men are men who treat their mother's with love and kindness but firmness. After our dad died our mom decided that my brother was to divorce his wife (she stated her reasons) and he was to cater to her only. I simply said that if he planned to live with our mom for the rest of his life, that he knew it would be hell and that his wife was the best woman for his children and he owed her his loyality.

He left mom, didn't call back and is the best dad and loving husband I've ever seen. Do not ever allow your mom to talk to your girlfriends that way or about them. Simply say, I think it's time for a popcorn break and leave the house to find some. For a while, your mom will be left alone a lot and you will be going out for popcorn a lot but eventually she will get the picture and stop the harpie act. No matter who will be afterwards or how many girlfriends you ever have... never put your girl through that kind of ordeal again. Start your boundries... for your family.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry. Just keep you chin up buddy and do the best you can--you hurt right now--try not to talk about it much with the family--and try to have a nice with the family too--even if you're having a rough time of it. You may even try to call her at some point to tell her happy holidays if it makes you makes you feel better. Only if you're up to it. Just relax. It could work out.

Answer 7

Hey Mitch ;)
You'll finally be together if it is destined to be so. You've already tried your best. Don't stick to that thought as you won't be able to do anything about it anymore. Try to get some friends around, do something nice together. Be close to your mom, you may find the reasons she made all those comments bout your gf later on. Cuz i believe that everyone's actions are related to one's reasons which you may not know. But "secret" doesn't really exist so you'll know it some day.
Go on...n' when you have to do it, try to do it happily...it's much better than just to sit n' mourn. You get ma courage.

Answer 8

Hey sad story sorry to hear that but really if she care about you she would have not left she would have stay with you for better or worse think about it i know you love her and she says she loves you but maybe the destiny holds something better for you so try to move on be happy this christmas not sad remember no one is worth are tears if there the ones that made us have tears on our eyes.....

Answer 9

I think I would have a talk with my mom!!! Your girl shouldn't be mad at you, she should be mad at your mom. (My mom used to say all kinds of bad stuff about my guy, called him names under her breath, etc. and HE heard it more than once and so did I) We are both OVER 40) I told him just to ignore her. It's my life with you and not hers. If she doesn't like you, who cares. I also told my mom this. (which she didn't like, but oh well) Go after her!!!!Explain it like I did. Tell her that you wanted her to know what your mom said cause you didn't want to lie to her but that you don't share your mom's views. Unless you are like 15 or something, this should not be a problem.

Answer 10

FIRST OF ALL IF YOU REALLY LOVE HER THEN GET HER BACK AND IF SHE REALLY LOVES YOU SHE WILL. AND TELL HER YOU DON'T CARE WHAT YOUR MOM SAID .AND BE ON HER SIDE. TELL YOUR MOTHER THAT YOU DID NOT LIKE WHAT SHE SAID AND IF SHE HAS ANYTHING ELSE TO SAY ABOUT YOUR GIRLFRIEND TO KEEP IT TO HERSELF.YOU CAN ALSO TELL YOUR GIRLFRIEND WHAT YOU TOLD YOUR MOM. HOPEFULLY YOUR GIRLFRIEND CAN GET OVER WHAT WAS SAID. AND BOTH OF YOU HAVE A BETTER RELATIONSHIP. BUT YOU DO NEED TO TALK TO YOUR MOM.AND TELL HER. SO SHE DON'T DO IT AGAIN.