My friend has an older girl and a younger boy. She treats the boy way better than the older girl....10 & 6.
2006-12-23 12:20:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you love both the same but in different ways. I think as parents it's easier to baby the baby and also we be more strict with the girl because we want her to grow up to be better and independent and not depend on a man, when all we want for a son is for him to be a momma's boy. I think the love is the same, it just sometimes shows in different ways.
2006-12-23 12:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I do think there is some truth to that daddy/daughter and mama/son relationship. Girls and moms tend to have more in common than they either one care to admit. I have 3 sons and I love them all very much, but I like different things about each of them. That is what makes them unique. I tell them I will always love them, but there are times I don't like them very much. Plus if the girl is the one that is 10, girls are starting to become more independent and headstrong and that is very hard to deal with. I was a step mom once and had another son and a daughter. Out of the 4 boys, she was the worst to deal with, but her dad didn't see that. Plus the 6 year old is the baby, and she may know that is her last child and he will always be the baby and get by with more. I know, I was a daddy's girl AND the baby. I was spoiled rotten, but disciplined as well. A happy balance.
2006-12-23 12:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by katrina64 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly it is possible. In this case though, I think that the 6 year old needs more attention, and care. When he gets older, the attention SHOULD even out.
My brother gets all the attention in the world when he wants it, because he is a failure at everything academically. Something I exelled at. He has to have attention all the time with all of his home work. I never got that attention. He excells at sports, and I am a failure at them. But instead of getting attention for that, I seem to get in trouble, believe it or not.
The point is, that it may seem like she/he loves her son more than her daughter, but I doubt it. He may get more attention for somethings when he gets older that she doesn't. The main idea is to make sure abuse, or neglect aren't involved
2006-12-23 12:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does happen within families that have children of both genders. I do not believe that she is treating one better than the other as much as she is probably treating them differently. Many parents tend to have two separate sets of rules for boys and the girls. I don't think that she loves one anymore than the other. God bless****
2006-12-23 12:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One loves all their children no matter how many. Now each child warrants more attention or handling than some and this sometimes makes the observer thinks the mother loves one child more than the other but this is not so.
2006-12-23 12:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes,it is possible to have favorites.
but only rarely.
the reason they may treat the boy better may not be because they love him better.
it may because the child is younger and needs more attention.but they love them both the same.
2006-12-23 12:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by Beca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Is it right? No.
Sometimes we associate our children with difficult things in our lives. Maybe she wasn't in a place where she wanted to have kids when she got pregnant with the girl. Maybe she just feels like she gets along better with the boy.
Regardless, her children need her to love them unconditionally and without favor. I have seen what you are describing happen so many times, and it hurts the children so badly.
2006-12-23 12:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by Eric's wife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is possibe
but
it should never be like that
you love all of your children the same
maybe treat them different being a boy and a girl
but not love one more than the other
2006-12-23 12:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not right. sometimes they treat the younger ones beter until they grow up more because then they will have a better life
2006-12-23 12:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the younger person needs more attention!.....the other may feel left out, but the parents probably love them both the same.....
2006-12-23 12:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by Shay. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋