some kids are mean ?

Question

a person in a class dresses all inaproprate for school,makes fun of people,tells people the way they should and shouldn't dress,and if you tell someone and she still does not stop, what should you do?

Answer 1

Tell em off. ^_^

Answer 2

Human children are the cruelest creatures on the planet. A cat may play with his food, even if they don't really want to eat it. But, pretty soon they will either kill it or let it go. Kids are mean and they keep being mean until they become adults.

Not that I don't like children, in fact I would love to have children, but I understand a few things about them. Children are not socially fully developed; they are insecure and worried about getting it right. One very easy way to improve your self-confidence is to decrease someone else's. Since this is almost a universal concept other children will join in and do it too. Only when they mature into self-confident adults do they change this behavior, however some never reach that point of maturity.

Understanding the behavior and identifying it are easy, but controlling it is the hardest thing about raising children, especially teenagers. The only way I know how is to turn that behavior back at the person and let her have a taste of her own medicine. Then offer to make a truce. That won't work very well though, and is an almost guaranteed way to generate an enemy.

It might sound like tattle telling, but the best thing to do is to let and adult handle the situation. Of course when you do that then it makes you look weak and so you become an easier target. There simply isn't an easy solution.

If you are an adult trying to handle the situation then it would be best to start with the parents of the child. Tell them your concerns and the damage that their child is doing. If another child tries this then the parents will ignore them, so it has to be an adult.

If that doesn't work then confronting the child is best. Explain how damaging the behavior is to other people and tell her where it comes from. Then try to put her into other people shoes. Before you can hate or abuse another person you need to dehumanize them, children are very good at doing this, as are some adults. If you can make the child see the others as humans with their own feelings then it will be harder for them to insult those children. This works in politics as well and is a good way to build a compromise that both sides can live with.

Teenagers are the hardest people in the world to raise. They are headstrong, think that they know more than their parents do, they are undergoing some huge changes in their body with hormones raging and they want to be treated as adults, even if they don't deserve it. Breaking though all of this to make sense to the child is difficult and most parents and teachers can't do it. But, the parents are the most likely to be able to break through; provided they have a good relationship with their children. If not then it will only increase the problem.

There is on simple answer to this problem, an adult needs to make the correction. The adult has to understand why the child is misbehaving in this fashion, and make that clear to the offensive child as well. Then they have to humanize the offensive child and make them see their targets as humans too. Until you find a way to do that the problem will only continue. She has to realize, for herself, what is wrong with her behavior and that she needs to change it. Even then, unless they want to change, there is nothing that you can do for them.

Answer 3

It sounds as though this person is really bugging you. It might be helpful to know what is behind this behavior of hers to give you some insight and perspective. However, whether or not this person dresses inappropriately for school is not really your business to correct, so you can just leave that issue alone.

If you are being criticized, made fun of, or being judged about your appearance, you are being bullied. If someone is bullying you, telling them or letting them know will probably not be effective.

Unfortunately kids are really, really mean to each other sometimes. Try not to be one of them. Some constructive ways to protect yourself from bullying are: Find a caring and helpful friend and/or adult to support you and help you process your feelings and problem solve solutions which work for you. Do not reinforce the bully's payoff in making you feel bad; though you may not be able to ignore the comments, you can take them as what they are--mean attempts to hurt you by a mean person. You can't change the other person, but you have the power to change your own responses to that person.

It is not your job to change anyone else. It is your job to be the best person you can be and to protect yourself in a positive way from others who are out of line. Another way to protect yourself is to find people to be with who will be nice to you and give you a safe haven from others' hurtfulness. Good luck.

Answer 4

Tons of people you'll meet, are just like that. Ignore it, when people make fun of me I laugh at/with them. If it's an insult, you just say:
"that's nice"
"Oh, I didn't know, thank you for telling me"
"Right back at you"
"Have you looked in the mirror lately?"

Something that is, is, is like, um, I have no analogy, so it's sweet on the out side, and slightly sour on the inside. Make sure you say it with a smile.

The thing is, some people aren't as lucky as you or me. She might be jelous, or something. Sure, she shouldn't dress that way, and this, and that, and this, and that again and again, but they may get the attention they want, but not for long, and if they do get it for long,
1) It will be from people who just need to get a life, and
2) make sure, that YOU aren't one of them

Nothing is better than makeing them feel like they've lost the battle. But be warned, a battle is a battle, and MANY battles equal a war.

Answer 5

I hate people like that who wear inappropriate stuff and make fun of people and if you say something back just wail on you. If they pick on you wear the complete opposite of what they tell you. If they tell you to wear punk goth clothes then wear a nice dress and fix your hair up. If it continues tell a teacher and if it still continues beg her or get a schedule change out of her classes.
Just don't hit or be passive-aggressive

Answer 6

Unfortuenately there is nothing you can do because you cant control other peoples actions. The only thing you can do is ignore because if this person is mean as you say this person is most likely this person is a attention seeker. It will be hard but you have to ignore this person because let me tell you there is no bigger insult then ignoring someone. I hope this helps you Sincerely Meg

Answer 7

Well, if it's school, you could report it to teachers, the principal, someone. But who cares - that person probably has a nasty complex of inferiority and craves attention that s/he cannot get by her/his qualities. So s/he may be making people's lives miserable sometimes, but her/his life is miserable all the time. Explain this to those who are being "tortured" by that person, if you care.

Answer 8

Just ignore him/her. They are going threw a stage where they think they are better then everybody else. This person will grow out of this with time.

Answer 9

Keep out of their way. He or she doesn't sound friendly so who cares what they say!!!!! If she ever tells you anything about what your wearing just remember inside that she or he is the one that is going to end up a hobo or something!! Hope i helped!~

Answer 10

unfortunately there's no law against buggers! So I would try ignoring her, obviously she has some issues with herself and you'll never know what those are.

Answer 11

Tell your teacher or the principal. They HAVE to make them stop being mean.