Are marriage and prostitution truly that different?

Question

In both, it's a man who obtains sex from a woman in exchange for money. The only difference being that in a marriage both partners keep seeing each other constantly, and even remain loyal in some cases.

But, deep down, aren't those two similar? A man provides the economic security a woman craves, and a woman gives the man the sexual release he needs. Faithfulness is not even that common these days.

Answer 1

This has to be one of the strangest questions I have ever seen here, starting with your opening sentence: "In both, it's a man who obtains sex from a woman in exchange for money." What? I don't pay my wife for sex. I didn't pay her to marry me. As a matter of fact, her income is higher than mine is. So, exactly where is this alleged monetary payoff taking place?

You then go on to say that in marriage, the two remain loyal "in some cases". Again, that's another faulty assumption. They remain loyal in most cases. That aside, the biggest difference is that in marriage the *expecation* is that both will be loyal. In prostitution, the expectation for a woman is that she will cultivate a broad customer base of many men.

Women don't need men to provide them with economic security. Men don't need women to give them sexual release (they can obtain this through masturbation). In a marriage, the merging of economic forces can create a stable financial footing. In prostitution, all money flows in one direction and a woman who becomes pregnant or sick will have no safety net. Women in happy marriages get as much out of sex as men do, and often want sex just as much, or more, than men.

You have many faulty assumptions within your question. Get realistic.

Answer 2

Yes they are different. Especially in todays aspects, considering that not all marriages are based on the man working and providing financially while the woman stays home. And MOST marriages are faithful. Aside from the fact that the two love eachother, unlike when a prostitute sleeps with a man. I do believe that faithfullness is still common, or at least it is in my home. And I work just as much and sometimes more then my husband. So yes, VERY DIFFERENT.

Answer 3

Here is how prostitution is defined according to Dictionary.com.

1.the act or practice of engaging in sexual intercourse for money.

In marriage, there will almost always be sex between the two partners. If one of the partners is financially providing for the other partner there is an exchange of money AND an exchange of sex but there is also an exchange of other things as well. It's not necessarily an exchange of sex for money.

If there is a divorce and one partner receives more financially that that partner contributed there is an exchange of money. What is that exchange of money for? Sex? Companionship? It's a little fuzzy but it sure looks like there has been an exchange of money for "services rendered" especially if the exchange is involuntary.

The fact that most women marry men who earn more than they do is no accident. If these women divorce and try and take money out of the marriage I think one would have to include this as being a form of selling one's services including sexual services. It is the same if a man married a rich woman and tried to then get out of the marriage.

It is no accident that it is usually women who marry men who earn more than they do. It is also no accident that women and sometimes men try to obscure the issue because let's face it the truth hurts. We want to be loved "as is" but in reality that just isn't so.

There is a very gray area between marriage and prostitution with the main difference being the feeling (usually but not always mutual love) and the similarity of sex being given upon the receipt of marriage. The premarital sex could be viewed as an inducement to sign the contract. Marriage is just a contract in a legal sense. Participants can make it more if they choose. In a more egalitarian relationship where partners make exactly equal economic contributions the comparison with prostitution vanishes because there is no financial trade of money for sex being a possibility.

In most marriages of unequal financial contribtution
there is an element of selling one's sexual services for money. Most men are too impotent to admit this for fear of offending women. We live in a society which caters to the needs of women usually at the expense of men.

Most women simply don't like the truth.

Answer 4

I have to disagree with you about the man providing economic security for a woman. In these days women not only work out of neccessity, but because they want to. Also, if you paid attention to some women's magazines you'd know that women are becoming more aggressive in the bedroom now more than ever before. And you say that faithfulness is not even that common these days. Well, for the few that are faithful in their relationship it's wrong for you to downgrade the institution of marriage to mere prostitution. I'll bet you'll be hearing from the ladies on this one!

Answer 5

No marriage isn't ALWAYS a man who obtains sex from a women in exchange for money...Don't forget women DO work outside the home and SOME of us make more than our husbands. The major difference between marriage and prostitiution is that when the marriage breaks up there is an equitiable division of property and marital assets that BOTH partners have obtained in the marriage. A prostitute and her John both walk away with nothing after sex, except she gets payment. You are basing your findings on the very old fashioned notion that women can't work outside the home...maybe in YOUR world this is true...but not in mine.

Answer 6

I beg your pardon, wife's are not prostitutes. You take a vow before God when you marry and where do you get men make the money and give it to her for sex. For your information wives work and No one gives us money for sex, You are so mixed up a man doesn't provide the economic security for a woman. For your your information there are half the married women that make as much or money than their husbands.
If that is your photos you must come from another country, it doesn't work like that in America.
This is the dumbest stupid question I've ever seen on Yahoo, why don't you get lost or go back where you came from, the Netherlands.

Answer 7

Okay, not ALL marriages are this way. True, there are far too many gold-diggers out there. I've almost become a victim of them myself. But that's not the norm.

When a man or woman chases another man or woman because that person has a nice car, money, a big inheritance coming, etc., yes, that person is a prostitute.

Answer 8

They are poles apart. Obviously your lack of maturity, lack of knowledge, and lack of experience keep you from understanding the true depths of each. These days a woman doesn't need a man for money, nor for anything else. Children can be conceived by other means or adopted by women. Faithfulness is TOTALLY common, the opposite is truly a myth.
You have to stop living in a cave.

Answer 9

The individuals define marriage and their vows. In my society, the women own everything ever after without laws of governments. It's the man that goes and begins new... but in those days it was easier for visitations as everyone lived in the same village. The children were the key. No one went without. Some had too many kids so they gave them to those that weren't blessed. Everyone had a home. No one was abandoned. So what does sex have to do with that? Sex is wonderful and an asset. ...but does not necessarily produce children. We do not allow the government to govern our vows of marriage. We make our own contracts and agreements. Try it, your children may thank you.

Answer 10

It may seem like that but you are looking at marriage the wrong way. Marriage is about, working together as a team, building a great partnership of understanding, endurance, patience. Marriage is a bond that God creates between two people for the building of his kingdom. God bless you to get a revelation on a real marriage. Their are still people that are being faithful believe or not.