kk well i go out wit this black boy and im white and he calles and my mom dont want him to so she yells at him every time he does. and i really like him. so i think she is pregigist agains black boys. but idk but i cant have anymore black friends even if there girls cause she thinks that i am labeled a black lover since i talked to him. but i have all friends not just black so idk her problem.i am only 15 ,.. and i dislike her enough to leave home i would love to move in wit my sister.. but idk ...wat should i do.. should i still talk to him??
2006-12-23 11:38:43 · 9 answers · asked by sara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your mother is obviously a racist and I am glad to hear that you do not share those same feelings. I don't know why you shouldn't still talk to anyone you like. You have to look at the complete picture and staying at home may be in your best interest to finish school. By living with your mother it doesn't mean that you have to share her distorted view of others. I would certainly have your boyfriend refrain from calling however as I don't believe he needs to put up with that kind of abuse.
2006-12-23 11:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's get this out of the way. Your mom is racist. She might not be openly, violently racist, but you said yourself that she discriminates among your friends.
You gotta realize that our parents' generation is...weird, in some ways. You still have to respect her as your mom, so sometimes there's no getting around letting her have her way. Still, you do recognize that there is a gap in thinking there, and make sure that you keep your mind open! I know it sounds kind of like a "duh" thing to say, but it's true.
My father is deathly scared of black people. If he sees a black guy anywhere near the car, he will lock all the doors. He goes out of his way to avoid black people in the street. I recognized this at a young age, and consciously reject his racism. Though I still listen to him as a father, It takes effort on our parts to push past the weirdness that "leaks" down to us from our parents.
2006-12-23 11:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by John C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First ask your mom what is the problem with your bf. Then ask what is the prob with black people. Then if she is racist tell her that you want to move out and live with your sister.
2006-12-23 11:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by baby girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to listen to your mother, maybe that is not the whole reason, color I mean, She has been there with you from birth, how long will this guy be by your side?
2006-12-23 11:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might advice you next time you post a question in here and learn how to type well and how to spell properly. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-23 12:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHO THE HELL CARES ABOUT UR MOM THEN???
If u really like him go out wit him
2006-12-23 11:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for him, keep seeing him no matter what anyone says.
2006-12-23 11:54:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should still talk to him. after all its ur life not hers and u should do what you want to do
2006-12-23 11:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but you won't like it...so I'll just keep it to myself
2006-12-23 11:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋