I hate having contact with him because I hate him. He left me for another woman in the neighborhood who is a whoore and then is very snippy about even talking about the children. He is cold and coldhearted. Whenever I decide, after therapy, to just have a friendly relationship with him for the sake of dealing with the children, he truns colder and nastier as if he can't stand it when I am nice. He seems to get off on making me angry. Rather than put the children through this, I am seriously contemplating just giving him the children and moving to Spain. I can easily get a job there. Isn't that better fro the children? He makes me crazy. Better the children have no mother than a crazy one. Peole say that it is his guilt tha maks him act this way. I don't care. Even my tehrapist suggests that I leave to save myself. Neutral thoughts please.
2006-12-23 11:32:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He cheated on you, they love calling the women crazy, make them look better, do not leave the children with him, they will think you abandoned them, leave him and start a new life. He cheated he gave you a reason to run...
2006-12-23 11:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of mother are you that you can just leave your kids? First off, why would you leave the children with such an abusive man? Second, why not take the kids with you? Do you have to go to spain? I think you need to get a divorce and let the court help you with custodial decisions. There is no reason the children can't be with both of you even if you are not together. I think your therapist meant that you need to get away from your husband, not the children. Change your address and your therapist if he really did give you poor advice.
2006-12-23 11:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you maybe go to Spain for a few months to get your head on straight and work through this pain. Maybe once you have processed the betrayal issues you will be better suited to deal with your children. I would be afraid this would be a decision you may regret after all is said and done. I sense that you still love this man and you are still very vulnerable to his moods so maybe to be out of his range until you feel more comfortable will be a good idea. I wish you well. God bless. I promise it does get easier having experienced a very similar situation.
2006-12-23 11:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How selfish could you be? Are you even thinking about your children? What about the abandonment they're going to feel? This would scar them for life. Get over your feelings, how you're doing, etc. You chose to create these children, now grow-up and be a mother. If you can even call yourself one, since you show no thought of the children other then the ones that would benefit your argument.
2006-12-23 11:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep up therapy, take some Prozac do something other then leave your kids, how irresponsible of you to move across the country mabey try another town first, your kids will always think you left because of them, you gave birth to them, so stop acting like a child yourself
2006-12-23 14:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by paula_5150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are too many questions left unanswered here for me to tell you my thoughts on the situation. For instance, have you been to court for the children yet? Do your children still love you? Why Spain? Continue talking to your therapist and by all means DO NOT DO ANYTHING EXTREME!!!!
2006-12-23 11:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's what your kids need, a cheating father, a whore stepmother and NO MOTHER! Go ahead do what is best for you cause who gives a darn about the Innocent children who never asked for you two winners as parents... Merry Christmas to them huh?!?!?
2006-12-23 11:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very selfish of you...how can you leave your children and never see them again. Get over it and grow up...who cares what he says or the way he acts. You need to be with you children_
2006-12-23 11:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave the kids,its because of the way he is that your feeling the way you do,leave him yes but take the kids,He wouldn't be a good role model for your kids,i think if you leave them it may make you very depressed when you are out of the situation.good luck to you whatever you decide to do
2006-12-23 11:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children need stability I guess you are a selfish woman only worried about you so yes leave and let these poor children grow up and forget about there lunie mom
2006-12-23 11:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋